help me to divert my feelings

HI Chum ! It is a human thing only ! It will pass , all wounds get healed it takes time only ! You need to divert yourself , you need to help yourself because no one can do it but you ! It is so painful , but you have just to feel the pain , let it flow and soon you'll get numbed with it and from here you can start to moved on . Let him go , so many guys are waiting to know you and will loved you . God made so many man so we can choose the best for us.

Not only you many discussions from girls in your country is on love, most are cheated , better keep your mind diverted, keep engaged in some hubby like reading good books. hope this helps.

I know what you mean. I felt the same about 8 moths ago. I was with that guy and we broke up. He wasn't the right person for me but still I was complitelly obsessed, I wasn't calling him nor anything similar but I kept thinking about him, forgiving him all the bad things he did to me and wishing I could hug him for a second. i was crying several hours a day. Then we got back together but guess what things I didn't like on him at the first place kept irritating me but I couldn't break up with him because I remember the devastating effect it had on me list time and I didn't want to get trough all that again. But about a month ago I just couldn't take his c*ap any more so I left him. I can't say that now, after a month I am happy because I am not but I know that one day I will be, and that thought guides me. I have days that I can't stop thinking about him but there are also days when I don't even remember him. It is difficult not to think about things we did wrong or things we could do differently but that's why we shouldn't think about them. Find something that was really wrong in that relationship and each time you start being sad think about that wrong thing and why you are happy ypu don't have to deal with that any more. The best help to me was my cousing who is in a worst relationship than I was and she kept talking about her boyfriend who is a really treating her bad but she kept finding excuses for him and for her own desire to stay with him. Talking to her I started feeling sorry for her because she kept hoping he would magically start treating her right way, after 3 years of treating her like c*ap. I though to myself she was delusional but nothing I said could make her see my point of view. So my advice to you is to read some psychology book about building your character or ending bad relationships, being left or something like that. What you need to do is to concentrate on yourself, I know it's difficult, but what I can tell you is that you don't need him...he will not make you happy...you are the only person who can make you happy. If he tells you you are beautiful you'll believe that for 6 seconds and you'll be happy for 6 seconds if deeply inside yourself you know you are beautiful you will be happy all the time.

How long has it been? If you think that he has moved on, why allow yourself be stuck in that place and sulk? Put it this way: he obviously has cleared his thoughts about your relationship, so you should do the same. But being in that situation, you are not only hurting yourself, but your loved ones as well. Come out and see life in a better perspective. LIfe does not end because you are no longer together. This should be the beginning of something bigger and brighter for you.

You should go out with friends, talk to someone whom you can trust and can understand your feelings. Someone who will listen to you and give you advice than someone who will criticize you. Think what will happen if you continue your life with him, he will only take you for granted. Start loving yourself, think positive and see more possible opportunity waiting for you out there if you didn't leave him or him leaving you. There is always good thing and I even consider it a chance to make yourself better and happier. I know its hard and it hurts like hell, but its only temporary. Time heals, but don't take all the time to heal yourself, do it as soon as possible, he is not deserving for you to take all your time to get over with him. You are better than that dear. Love yourself

If you want to divert your feelings from a guy, you need to concentrate on other meaningful things in your life. What means a lot to you other than him and romance? Family? Friends? Work? School? Maybe you have life goals that you would like to accomplish. Now is the perfect moment to try and reach those. You need to throw yourself into something, some activity and give it 100% of you. This way, not only will you succeed and make your life better but you'll be distracted from less important things like your problem with this guy.

Basically, all of the responses have said more than enough about doing whatever that can take your mind away from your past and ex boyfriend. In addition, I think you should try to be in the company of friends and family members especially those whom you are close with. Try and be with the ones that you can talk about everything comfortably. Preoccupying yourself is the right thing to do but you will still need to be able to talk to someone about it to relief yourself. You need to realize the importance of this process which actually could show you that there are people who are there that will listen, feel and care for you other than your ex. Support from another person is very important because it is very relative and real.

Go on a nature trip. It will renew your soul. The best way to fight stress is to relax, and hang out with people especially those who truly care.

make yourself busy..do something productive..in that way, it'll be win-win solution..you'll somehow forget him..and you're doing something for yourself.. we just have to realize that we must put ourselves first before others..love yourself..so stop thinking about him 'cause it'll cause some pain again..

Dear my friend,I think right now first of all you need a good rest,then why not to have a short travel?I think after the short travel your mind will have a good relax and you can figure out the problem in some new way at that time. Good luck to you!

That is a normal feeling and it indicates that you really did love him. Give yourself a time, after some time you will get over it. Just be with your family and friends do that your depression will be lessened. Give less times for being alone because the more that you will think of him.:) They say that girls cry one week after break ups and feel free after a month while boys feel free one week after break up but cry after a month. So cheer up!

find a hobby that will occupy your mind during your free time... have fun with you friends.. when i was brokenhearted i just hangout with my friends and have fun with them even though i know deep inside me i am hurting but they help me to divert my mind from thinking sad memories.. and shopping also help me.. i buy new clothes and i go to a salon and spa to relax..

You need to socialize a lot, go to places where you can have fun and meet new people like club, gym, try to go dancing with friends. Remember to be safe. If you stay by yourself all you will do is just think about him.

I agree with others: The best thing to do in this situation is to be involved in other activities and to dedicate your self to others. Because the more you will be alone or will have the chance to think, the more you will think about him and these feelings will make you feel sad. Also think that you have a life to live. Love should be a gift not a pain =) Just wait for the right boy

make new friends and go for outing with them. try to divert you mindset. give more attention towards your job. if possible spend some time with kids.

Do you have any hobbies,like play ball,listen music,read book,etc,concentrate on your hobbies,you will get ride of those things you don't like.

You are passing through a difficult stage but just like any other emotions that we feel, that will soon pass too. believe me, you have to get through that because every thing takes time...you cannot push through anything...you have to deal with it. be strong and sooner or later you'll soon overcome it. talk to some friends you can trust, try doing something that will occupy your mind and time.

Hi chum...love is feeling, it is hard to solve. Because it is not a logic problem that can be solved by logic theory. Time is the best way to heal some love disease. yes, time. You cannot get rid your thought about him quickly...more you try more difficult...let everything go...if you still remember about him, it is normal, because he has influenced your mind for long time, so you need long time to forget it, don't you force yourself to forget him, it just hurt you, believe me time will help you to forget him...And try to open your heart for other boy...if you find a good friend, he will help you to forget your boyfriend...