Too much gifts make my girl lack of expectation.
By IvChloe
@IvChloe (57)
China
March 20, 2013 9:22am CST
Days ago, I asked my daughter"what gift do you want for your birthday?". She thought for a while seriously and answered "whatever". She was over 3 years old but less than 4. She is now out of expectation even. What happened?
I think about the problem for some time and come to a conclusion. She got all she wanted and even things she didn't ask for. Four people live with her and most important is we all love her very much. We want her to be a happy child and never envy others. So we bought anything she asked for and anything she wanted and even anything we provide her out of love.
Is that good or bad? She is quite satisfied with her life now but just lack of expectation.
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3 responses
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
20 Mar 13
I truly believe when you give a child to much the expectation for life dwindles. There is very little to surprise them with. I also believe a child will get spoiled because they will always except to get everything they ask for. That is not good for a child. How many times do you hear at Christmas time you buy all these gifts and the child ends up playing with the box instead. I believe one or two toys is more then enough at Christmas and for a birthday. My granddaughter I believe as much as I adore her has way to many dolls for a girl of 7. For her birthday I don't buy toys I buy her clothes and she loves it. However, she received from her parents An American Girl doll along with five dolls from the monster high collection. Meanwhile she already has over thirty dolls. Its just to much. I thought it was way to many dolls and its quite overwhelming and so unnecessary. However, I'm not the mom, just the grandma and all I could say to my daughter was "you guys are crazy."
@IvChloe (57)
• China
22 Mar 13
I totally agree with you, friend. My mother and I are just in the opposite position. She spoils my daughter sometimes, and I am not really for that. Grandparents spoil their grandchildren frequently in China. I just want to say NO, because children have their own thinking. When they need something, sure they will ask for it. And as parents or grandparents, we have to consider whether it is something trully needed by him or her. I don't think it is wise enough for the adults to spoil their children.
But you know sometimes conversations on education of the children between parents and grandparents are really not so pleased. My parents are always sad when I say they are wrong, even through the moderate way.
Communication can just be conducted among sane people.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
I know that you mean well, but sad to say, you are spoiling your kid. Let her know that money doesn't grow on trees. Also, limit the things that you give her. It is much better to just give her what she needs than what she wants. I assure you, she will turn out to be a really fine woman who knows the value of money and would know how to appreciate even the littlest things.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
24 Mar 13
Thanks for sharing, lol grand kids are more attached to their gran parents, it is true for my family too, when ever i go market i buy for my grand kids, the eldest is a girl, 18 years young and youngest is a boy 2 years now. Total are 10.
