care givers

I guess, it depends on the culture and tradition of every country and sometimes the people themselves (children). In some modern countries this tradition is practiced, because most family members are busy with their jobs, so they looked for people who will do the job for them with pay. I don't know if I gets older my children will care for me, but if I have a choice I don't want to be left taking cared by other people.

hi.. you are right now a days especially in USA they usually put their parents in home care which is not good. our parents should me cared by their own child.

Randy and I took care of his mother before she passed and let me tell you it was difficult to do. Yes I feel that children need to be there for their parents and should try to help out, but if either person is not a medical professional it can be tough. It is also stressful on everyone because while one person is working the other one has to stay at home. Randy paid all the bills for the household and he had to take on two part-time jobs because neither of his jobs paid enough for us to survive on. I was a student and did all my courses online. There were times when I had to wait until she fell asleep so I could stay up all night to get my homework done after taking care of her all day. If I was lucky I got three hours of sleep per day which takes a toll on a person. I am not a doctor or a nurse so therefore there were things I could not do.

Khym100 yes its true all of us going to old stage. But some of them are worried and thinking who can take care if they got old. For me it depends on your child if they are busy you dont have choice if they want to hire a care giver for you. Because they have also their own family if they stop to work just to be there for you, what would be happen to their family? so for me, its not a problem if they hire a care giver for me, because they are professional.

Taking care of parents is our duty as children. I wish we have more caregivers here. My father had been sick a long time. He needs care around the clock. Although we live together but my husband and I, we have to work. It is for our own future. We have not yet have children of our own and we don't holiday anywhere because no one will be around to take care of my father. There will come one stage where medical care is required. Since we are not professionals, I prefer to pay for a caregiver who has experience. My father will receive better care from a professional.

Maybe you can tell your children you want them take care of you when you are old. It is sad for the elders living alone without their children's accompany. When your children become elder, they also want family's accompany. If they love you,they will agree with you.

I took care of my mom until she passed away. We had a hospital bed in the home and everything. Believe me, I personally know of people who had lots of kids and they were still left to fend for themselves. Kids do not guarantee caregivers. Nursing homes are full of people who have kids. I've met them. We did not believe in nursing homes. Mom took care of her mom, I stayed home for years, about 7 years to be exact, to take care of my mom. She gave up her life for me, and I returned it by staying home and giving it back. But this is not the norm. I will probably use peapod and the internet to have goods delivered to me, and then die in my home. I think I will do that.