Frenemy
By adforme
@adforme (2114)
March 21, 2013 11:57am CST
Have you ever had a frenemy. As written, a frenemy is the combination of the words friend and enemy. It is a slangish term used to describe someone who has the traits of a friend and an enemy. I think we have all known someone like this from time to time. Sometimes, I just don't know how to handle such a person, but I try. There are all kinds of people in this world today. One must know a friend from a frenemy. A frenemy may seem like a contradiction in terms, but it is a real type. I guess the most direct of people would call such a person a full blown enemy, but this term has been coined for a while now. Do you have two cents on it?
11 responses
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Mar 13
When I was younger, I had a few frenemies. Just like you I always try to be polite and nice to them but it's really hard to be comfortable around you because it always make you feel defensive and stay aware. I already decided to avoid this kind of people, they are just a waste of time. I'd rather spend my time with real friends even if I only have a few.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
23 Mar 13
Hi,
I also have frenemies. They have two qualities. they are good friends and bad enemies. They help us and pretend us like they are our friends and for that they are ready to do anything. But they are our friends for only their advantage and nothing else. If they don't get any advantage from us they behave like our enemies. We should be careful about these people.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
22 Mar 13
My "Frenemy" would be this girl called Sally. Sally was always sweet and kind towards me, but also had a habit of trying to seduce any guy if she even thought I had an interest in him. Still I kept her around for a while. Her type can be pretty useful sometimes
@sarameastrong (826)
• Surrey, British Columbia
22 Mar 13
yeah its maybe the combination.but i did not found that word in the dictionary or may you have discover on your own thought and ideas to build such word.jesus said love your enemy even if some people said that friend is the best enemy.
@seth02 (8)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
I remember when I read that term (frenemy) in a magazine. The first thing that pops into my mind is the girl that I treated like my sister. It took me three years to realize that she was not good enough to be my best friend. I gave it all to support her, took care of her and I'm always there when she needed a friend. But one day, I really need her help and of course to think that she is my best friend I asked for her help but she denied me. It's like OMG! She wanted to borrow my book and it so happen that I forgot it on my locker. She said "you can go by yourself, I will go straight to our classroom because I'm running late". Well, that is the time I let her go. I felt sad that day because of the good memories we've shared. Now I learned my lessons. I will not let it happen again.
@MissBlack (356)
• United States
22 Mar 13
I simply can't tolerate any of that. Either you are a friend or you are an enemy. I had a few and once I realized who they were and what they were doing, I got rid of them from my life. They did nothing but contribute to the stress I was dealing with. I would much rather spend my time around people who I know for sure are going to be loyal, honest, and have good intentions rather than to have to watch my back around people that I can't trust.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
21 Mar 13
i had many frenemies till now, who have not only taken undue advantage of my innocence but have also have shown their back whenever i have needed them. i have always become used to such people in my life who have duel characters and find it to tough to deal with them.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
21 Mar 13
I think I have one frenemy that I know of, and she comes in the form of my husband's friend's wife. She is a bit of a liar and she used me to corroborate her story. Too bad for her I was able to learn about this through her cousin, and of course just so she wouldn't lose face, I did not set everyone straight but I did tell my husband and his friend about it. Just because I don't think I can confront her about it that because I was still mad at her. So she said sorry to my husband and her husband, but when their backs are turned and it's just the two of us, she resents me so. With everybody else, she acts like she's my friend and we are good. But when it is just something between me and her, oh my gosh, she was so insecure that she secretly creeps on my Facebook account and tries to outdo me over something. There's no competition here, but I don't know why she chose to treat me that way.
@donatello123 (326)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
I remember a friend of mine when I was in grade school. She used to be my bestfriend from grade 5 to grade 6. We were really really close but one time we just had a big fight in front of our teacher. At that time I never had an idea why she was super mad at me. And then someone told me that she was jealous of me because our teacher appointed me to write our lecture on the blackboard. She was envious because she was our class secretary and she was supposed to be the person who will write the lecture on the board. From that time, our friendship deteriorated and I heard rumors about her that she was telling bad stories about me. After our graduation and the moment we went to high school, we never spoke with each other until last year. After ten years, we just instantly became okay again, thanks to our common friends. All the bad memories were erased. Now, I'm happy that we become friends again.