Frenemy

@adforme (2114)
March 21, 2013 11:57am CST
Have you ever had a frenemy. As written, a frenemy is the combination of the words friend and enemy. It is a slangish term used to describe someone who has the traits of a friend and an enemy. I think we have all known someone like this from time to time. Sometimes, I just don't know how to handle such a person, but I try. There are all kinds of people in this world today. One must know a friend from a frenemy. A frenemy may seem like a contradiction in terms, but it is a real type. I guess the most direct of people would call such a person a full blown enemy, but this term has been coined for a while now. Do you have two cents on it?
11 responses
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Mar 13
When I was younger, I had a few frenemies. Just like you I always try to be polite and nice to them but it's really hard to be comfortable around you because it always make you feel defensive and stay aware. I already decided to avoid this kind of people, they are just a waste of time. I'd rather spend my time with real friends even if I only have a few.
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Mar 13
Sorry, I mean it's hard to be comfortable with them around you
@adforme (2114)
21 Mar 13
I get your point. At the end of the day, you try to deal with people the best way possible. True friends deserve more of your attention, but the frenemy is someone that will always be distant from the true friend status.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
23 Mar 13
Hi, I also have frenemies. They have two qualities. they are good friends and bad enemies. They help us and pretend us like they are our friends and for that they are ready to do anything. But they are our friends for only their advantage and nothing else. If they don't get any advantage from us they behave like our enemies. We should be careful about these people.
@adforme (2114)
23 Mar 13
You said it very well Roshigo58. Frenemies have the qualities of a friend, but those qualities of an enemy that they have will never make them a true friend.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
22 Mar 13
My "Frenemy" would be this girl called Sally. Sally was always sweet and kind towards me, but also had a habit of trying to seduce any guy if she even thought I had an interest in him. Still I kept her around for a while. Her type can be pretty useful sometimes
@adforme (2114)
22 Mar 13
I know how it is when there is someone who is always around that can benefit you somehow, but is too shady to call a true friend.
• Surrey, British Columbia
22 Mar 13
yeah its maybe the combination.but i did not found that word in the dictionary or may you have discover on your own thought and ideas to build such word.jesus said love your enemy even if some people said that friend is the best enemy.
@adforme (2114)
22 Mar 13
I know where you are coming from sara. It is a place of peace and love. The word frenemy was created as a way to creatively define such a person by definition, semantically.
@seth02 (8)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
I remember when I read that term (frenemy) in a magazine. The first thing that pops into my mind is the girl that I treated like my sister. It took me three years to realize that she was not good enough to be my best friend. I gave it all to support her, took care of her and I'm always there when she needed a friend. But one day, I really need her help and of course to think that she is my best friend I asked for her help but she denied me. It's like OMG! She wanted to borrow my book and it so happen that I forgot it on my locker. She said "you can go by yourself, I will go straight to our classroom because I'm running late". Well, that is the time I let her go. I felt sad that day because of the good memories we've shared. Now I learned my lessons. I will not let it happen again.
@adforme (2114)
22 Mar 13
It takes time for us to know how to identify someone. If he or she cannot be a friend without fair weather, there is the proof of a misunderstanding of who you thought she was.
@MissBlack (356)
• United States
22 Mar 13
I simply can't tolerate any of that. Either you are a friend or you are an enemy. I had a few and once I realized who they were and what they were doing, I got rid of them from my life. They did nothing but contribute to the stress I was dealing with. I would much rather spend my time around people who I know for sure are going to be loyal, honest, and have good intentions rather than to have to watch my back around people that I can't trust.
@adforme (2114)
22 Mar 13
I know exactly what you mean. Either you are all friend or nothing. Friendship is something that works only if it comes from someone who is secure in who he or she is and knows how to be trustworthy.
@chum24 (569)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
hi..!!! yeah before i have a frenemy. i'm trying to become good to them but still they don't do the same i felt bad that time but thankfully we're become good.
@adforme (2114)
22 Mar 13
Hello chum24. It is honorable of you to maintain your respect for a person that may be a frenemy. But, if they are becoming more of a friend to you, that is a change for the better.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
21 Mar 13
I wouldn't say I've had one. I just had one who was not a good friend at all. But we weren't necessarily rivals.
@adforme (2114)
22 Mar 13
A frenemy is not necessarily a rival. Sometimes, they just lack the qualifications for being a true friend.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
21 Mar 13
i had many frenemies till now, who have not only taken undue advantage of my innocence but have also have shown their back whenever i have needed them. i have always become used to such people in my life who have duel characters and find it to tough to deal with them.
@adforme (2114)
21 Mar 13
I always try to be the bigger person. People are who they are and do what they do. I can only try to tolerate them the best I can.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
21 Mar 13
I think I have one frenemy that I know of, and she comes in the form of my husband's friend's wife. She is a bit of a liar and she used me to corroborate her story. Too bad for her I was able to learn about this through her cousin, and of course just so she wouldn't lose face, I did not set everyone straight but I did tell my husband and his friend about it. Just because I don't think I can confront her about it that because I was still mad at her. So she said sorry to my husband and her husband, but when their backs are turned and it's just the two of us, she resents me so. With everybody else, she acts like she's my friend and we are good. But when it is just something between me and her, oh my gosh, she was so insecure that she secretly creeps on my Facebook account and tries to outdo me over something. There's no competition here, but I don't know why she chose to treat me that way.
@adforme (2114)
22 Mar 13
The person you are describing sounds like a true frenemy instead of a true friend. Just watch out for her. Hopefully, she will become a better person and understand the error of her ways.
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
I remember a friend of mine when I was in grade school. She used to be my bestfriend from grade 5 to grade 6. We were really really close but one time we just had a big fight in front of our teacher. At that time I never had an idea why she was super mad at me. And then someone told me that she was jealous of me because our teacher appointed me to write our lecture on the blackboard. She was envious because she was our class secretary and she was supposed to be the person who will write the lecture on the board. From that time, our friendship deteriorated and I heard rumors about her that she was telling bad stories about me. After our graduation and the moment we went to high school, we never spoke with each other until last year. After ten years, we just instantly became okay again, thanks to our common friends. All the bad memories were erased. Now, I'm happy that we become friends again.
@adforme (2114)
22 Mar 13
That is a beautiful example of a friendship renewed. You both grew up, made up, and have other friends in common. Good luck to your friendship.