Does friendship between boys and girls exist?
@firepanther91 (186)
Italy
March 22, 2013 5:04am CST
Can a boy and a girl be true friends? Personally I'm still thinking about it, because I have seen that when a boy and a girl spend much time together, and they open their hearts to the other and share things, is much probable that one of them falls in love for the other. Maybe is possible to be friends but is also dangerous? What is your opinion about this?
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@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
This is not impossible to happen. In this kind of friendship, one way or the other, someone falls for the other and if the feeling is not mutual, its the end of the friendship somehow.
I never had experienced this because it is my principle that I consider my male friends a family without any malicious intentions. I tell my guy friends that rule. friends are friends, no more, no less.
On the other hand, my one guy friend had a girl bestfriend and he had mistaken the closeness to something else. She courted the girl but he was denied telling him that he had just mistaken the closeness that they shared.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
A lot of people say that friendship is the best foundation of any loving relationship. I believe so given the fact that the feelings are mutual but if it is a one-sided emotions, I do not believe that it will prosper to something more beautiful. It might even lose the very foundation of the friendship the two persons built.
@firepanther91 (186)
• Italy
27 Mar 13
Yes, that's for sure cheri.. If it is onesided, it has nothing to do with a relationship, I also would add that it would possible to suffer much also.. That's why we should be responsable with our feelings not letting take too much the control
@firepanther91 (186)
• Italy
27 Mar 13
Thank's for sharing your opinion.
I agree with you that if the man or the woman start to feel something else, then we can consider that friendship close to finish. Because someone feeling something bigger than a friendly love, can never be just friend with somebody.
I have observed of some friends (a boy and a girl) starting liking eachother (more than in a friendly way), but just one was really convinced to start a real relatioship, the other was in doubt and was scared to lose that friendship forever.. So everything is possible, of course if they both fall in love we can't consider it anymore a friendship..
@maddysmummy (110)
• United States
30 Mar 13
Absolutely. I have two very close male friends, and it's just strictly that, Friends. We grew up together and even though we live in different countries, we are still good friends, where we confide in each other, share ideas, help with situations etc. I'm sure there are many more relationships like that out there!
@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
It is possible to have a guy friend or a girl friend. My friends most of them are guys, I only have 1 girl friend. Indeed its true that guy/girl friends fall for you, and I always tell them that there is no chance for more than what we have, just friends. FRIENDZONE they say. xx
@nyssa102 (748)
• United States
25 Mar 13
yes, I was best friends with a boy growing up, and his friends and brothers as well. He taught me how to ride a bike, and I will always remember him. We had a brother and sister relationship and I always wonder what happened to him. I hope he is doing well. I tried to search on face book, but he has one of those common names where there is like 5000, lol. I hope all is well with him and his family. So yes, I can say that it happens. No friendship like platonic boy and girl, or man and woman. It's possible and it's pretty nice when it does.
@firepanther91 (186)
• Italy
27 Mar 13
Thank you for sharing nyssa, I believe what you say it's possible and your experience testifies so..
@gowtham728 (232)
• India
24 Mar 13
mostly friend turn into lover but some people is still maintaining their friendship deeply not falling in love with each other.
@perumbully (31)
• India
26 Mar 13
ya.....i think personally....if any one look revise my life....i was able to maintain gud frndship
@glamgirldoll (313)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
Im in your side. But sometimes, I can really say that they can just be friends. Or maybe they are just not attracted to each other knowing that they should be friends or brothers and sisters who should be there when they need some advices or someone to talk to. I cannot say that it is wrong because Im not in their situation to judge them.
@firepanther91 (186)
• Italy
22 Mar 13
Yes, maybe it's necessary to have a personal experience with this to be able to judge...
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
26 Mar 13
Hi,
The friendship between a boy and a girl do exist. It is true that after coming into contact for the long time there may some attraction towards somebody. But I think you should tell frankly and if she is not interested then you can continue friendship. But some feelings may remain in your hearts. My son son has many friends who are girls.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
It is but so hard for a boy and a girl to be true friends only because as they are seeing each other everyday , sharing joys and sorrows getting so attached to each other . The problem here is the emotional investment one gave to the friendship , one can no longer go out and going beyond the friendship . Both though not verbally agreed have same emotions for each other. That is why most of the cases they end up together.
@firepanther91 (186)
• Italy
22 Mar 13
Yes I agree with you.. The worst situation then it's when just one of them falls in love and declare the feelings, that friendship may be broken forever. Maybe there is a chance to be true friends only when both have made their position clear about being only friends..
@firepanther91 (186)
• Italy
22 Mar 13
Thank you, interesting point of view. Well if you have a strong personality probably it will harder to fall in love. But you can't never know if it happens to the other person
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 13
I think so friend...boy and girl cannot being true friends. It is much probable that one of them falls in love for the other. Because, when I was young, I have some boys just for friend not more. But, as time goes. I love one of my friends, but he does not love me, in the other hand one of my friend falls in love to me, but I do not love him. Yes, I think, it is difficult boy and girl being true friends.
@firepanther91 (186)
• Italy
22 Mar 13
Your experiences are surely a testimony about this... Thank's for sharing
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
Of course it does! I have seen many and they never really fall for each other. Although there are still others who, through friendship, became lovers. Things such as falling inlove really does happen but there are still others who no matter what they do, the feelings are just purely for friendship. So it really depends.
@firepanther91 (186)
• Italy
22 Mar 13
Yup, so we may say there are cases and cases. It's possible but not a rule.. well.. I agree with this ayeeesha :D
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
26 Mar 13
my lady friends and i have been friends with some men (they used to be boys) for a long time now and i know that we will remain friends until the end. we went to the same school during elementary and we lived in a small town. even if we went to different schools onwards, we still kept in touch. we'd all spend summer vacations in our hometown and we'd always have one excuse or another to meet and have parties. our lives have come a long way since then. some of us live away from the country but we always keep in touch and update each other on our lives. their wives have also become friends with us.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
It is very much possible.
I have a boy-friend since highschool days and until now we are still communicating with each other.
He is working abroad but we talk through social site like the way we talk during our teenage days.
It depends on how both of you handle the situation.
Friendship doesn't have any gender, no religion and doesn't have specific rules either.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
22 Mar 13
It depends. I am the one that I know my limit in friendship if I decide to be just friend with somebody I am just friend and even I am happy with that as I feel safe that he is my friend just like a brother and I can share things with him. it has limit of what to talk and share.
I had this kind of friendship before and all were so nice and clean as well. it depends to behave of both. but yes, this also can happen if someone with increasing knowledge about his or her behave and character, will make us feel that one is our ideal one. and may we fell in love with.
