single or in a relation ??
@adityagulati100 (5)
India
March 23, 2013 5:31am CST
What do u guys think ??
I was just offered by a a girl for a relationship !!
I don't know wether its better to be single or in a relationship ?? Though the girl is beautiful .....but my friends say that it is really worse to be in a relationship at this age (17)......but I also like her very much but I am in the pressure of my peers
What do y guys think ??
Should I accept or reject her proposal ??
Your reply will be highly obliged
:) :)
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9 responses
@taiwanlife (745)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
I had a relationship with a girl when I was 14. Relationship does not mean that you are going to get married together. I just felt that I was in loved to her then and she to me. Go for it if you feel the same way. Get to know each other well and become the best of friends. That is the beauty of a relationship. You create a certain connection that you would for ever cherish in your heart.
Then my next relationship when I was 19 was more of the serious adult one. I am not saying that what I felt when I was younger was not at all serious. One can call it puppy love but what I felt then when I was happy and hurt was as strong as what I have felt in my next one. This second relationship was almost 9 years of being together. We almost gotten married. We practically grew up together. A lot has changed since the first time we met. We have become more mature and also got to know all of each other's innards. We remained friends.
So hey, go for it if you feel that strong heart beat towards this young lady.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
23 Mar 13
I think if you really like the girl, the relationship would be better. Of couse you have to make compromises, but it's kind of silly to think that just because you can't flirt anymore or don't have to inite the girl for a coffee every now and then it's gonna be the best thing ever to stay single... if you like the girl, you would feel kind of bad if you missed it just because your friends say so.
@DualWebs (27)
• Lithuania
31 Mar 13
1. Age isn't a matter in relationship.
2. Don't take what Your friend is saying. You'll have to figure it out on Your own, pall.
I am 22 years old (23 in April) and I haven't been in a relationship even once.. And what I can say - my life's good, no problems coming out and etc. Also, I think about these kind of things and listen to other people problems. Now I even became more careful in things like that. I know that opinions often changes, but I said one thing when I was 8 years ago, and I'll say it now - No relationships ever.. Why..?
1. No trust in women.
2. Women usually don't know what they want, so that can be confusing and annoying.
3. I am not looking for problems, especially that are related with relationships.
4. I hate social fights and in a relationship there will be a fight, it's only a matter of time.
5. You have to take care of Your woman. And that's not for me. I hardly take care of myself.
6. I don't want to take any responsibility of relationship or woman.
7. It's hard for me to communicate with people.
8. I don't need anybody.
Before You accept/deny that proposal - THINK IT TROUGH.
Good luck, pall.
It's up to You now :)
@Ghajini (776)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
Welcome to mylot, well like one of the respondent said, entering a relationship is not a game, so I really advice that you do your best to determine whether you're ready to enter a relationship with that girl. Since, it is not only a matter of liking her but as well loving and accepting her.
@jiiiiin (586)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
Getting into a relationship is not just like a game. even if she made the first move to tell that she likes you, you don't need to tell her that you like her even if you're not. Don't get into a relationship because your friends just say so or you are just pressured. It's not right. Go in a relationship because you love her not because of your peers.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
hi there! if you do not love or like this girl, do not be in a relationship with her. yes you are too young and you could just break her heart, hurt her and make her feel unloved all the more especially that it is she that has shown interest to you. what's the point of being in a relationship with someone that you do not love?
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
23 Mar 13
If you can take up your responsibility in the relationship, I think nothing is wrong, just act as you like. While you can not make sure your future with that girl, you should think again before accept her proposal.
While to your friends, I think they just envy that you can find a beautiful girlfriend while they can not do it.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
23 Mar 13
hi, adityahulati. the fact that you're asking these questions means that you're not ready yet (in my opinion). it is not advisable to enter into a relationship just because of peer pressure. this is bound to have an unhappy ending. the beauty of the girl should not be the prime reason for being with her. what counts most is her character.