(MOM, I'm gay)... Desperate mom needs help

I understand completely. It's a shock at first. It hasn't happened to me but a similar sort of 'blow' happened when my daughter (17 and unmarried at the time) announced that she was pregnant. She hadn't been with the father long and it took some time to adjust to the situation, especially as it was the first grandchild. Fifteen years on, I am pleased to say that my grand daughter is a lovely, well-balanced, highly intelligent girl with terrific drive to succeed in her chosen sport, trampolining, and that her mother has a great deal to be proud of (and is!). She did, eventually, marry (but not to the father of her daughter) and we are very fond of our son-in-law. All things do work out in time, generally for the best, and we do, in the end, have no alternative but to accept our children's choices (if they are adults, of course), whether we agree with them or not. It shouldn't take anything away from our love for them, in any case, and that is what counts. How old is the daughter, by the way?

her daughter is in her late twenties and in my opinion a very good and responsible person. she has finished her studies and is financially independent. she also lives away from home in a different city that is why this situation hasn't reached my friend's ears before. i was 26 and single when i gave birth to my son 22 years ago. the fact that i was pregnant and single was the hottest news in our small town then. nowadays, these do not make headlines anymore. i love my son and i am happy with my decision although i know it must have been a big blow to my parents, they supported me all the way.

I have a 21 year old son and it would not bother me at all if he told me he was gay. My family is very pro love and we all support equal rights. :)

i also have a son, he's 22 years old now. when he was very younger (pre-teen years), my brothers used to kid me that he was going to grow up gay because i was always treating him like a baby. i know he's not because he's married now and he has made me a grandma but i wouldn't have minded either. take note however the "wouldn't have" because if he does now that he has taken the reponsibility of having a wife, i'm going to get very, very angry with him.

hi, imphavok. because of the so-called generation gap, parents and their children almost never ever talk about this topic. i also admire her daughter for having the courage to open up with her. great character... and as you say, it's love that matters.

hi, doroffee. that is what i said to her too. her daughter hasn't changed, only her perception of her has changed after their talk. as a mother however, she couldn't help but somehow feel anxious about her daughter's choice.

Yes, and as I've said, she should be the first one to accept her since she is the mother. I think there are subtle signs that will show her choice of preference, but regardless, this happens. What she should do is as a mom, she should treat them both with respect. It's really hard to accept things such as this the first time

hi, ayeesha. rejecting her daughter hasn't even entered her mind. she loves her and she will surely come to terms with this later. if only she had been given a clue about the situation before i know she wouldn't be this desperate.