Understand or Accept?

Hi, you are right. In every relation understanding plays important role. But sometimes it is difficult to understand each other but we have to accept the facts without any complaint because there is no option. Sometimes we can not change the situation we have to accept it as it is.

Being married is not that easy. If you are going to try to understand everything about your partner, you will just have a hard time because there are really times when you don't like his behavior or you don't like the way he talks to you. That is his personality and you just have to accept that because it's hard for a person to change. Loving a person means accepting everything he/she is. You have to accept the positive things about him/her as well as the negative.

Hi viju! I have such a case with me and my boyfriend. the thing is i cannot understand why sometimes he would be so firm with his decision about not wanting to be with our other officemates anymore he felt as though they have neglected him (and me too) that he felt betrayed. I forgave my friends at work already but he hasn't and he refuses to go out on lunch with them... refuses to be with them when there are free times as well. I cannot understand why his decision was like that, why it was so hard for him to accept that people have lives and we cannot be together all the time. to him he felt that he was already betrayed of his "friendship". i just accept that that is how he is, he gets hurt, he remembers it and i just try to understand him and accept it as well that i cannot force him to forgive and forget what was done. =(

I don't understand him all the time, neither does he understand me all the time, however, regardless of who understands who, we still love each other and we try to be patient with each other. Never expect a perfect relationship. It's difficult to expect the person to be exactly who you want them to be. Remember that each one of us came from different backgrounds ~ different families. Therefore, our habits are different. Not to mention, we can't ready each other's minds. So, be patient. Learn to know when to close your mouth. And learn to talk without judging or nagging. Further, learn to listen. Have a great mylot experience ahead!

Hello Viju, You are confusing me. I think both are equally important. Without understanding how can we accept? I think I can accept only those I can understand. Haven’t I understand something here?

We can seldom understand what others mean to say or do since we are not the same. Although we frequently do believe we do understand. We can give it a try, admit to ourselves we are not sure we are able too and if we are able to we can accept and respect the other one, since that is after all the most important thing in every relationship and what we want for ourselves as well.

For me to accept Anything I first have to understand! Without understanding I can't just accept. But I can understand many a things I don't agree with.

That's really hard to answer because it can be different for different situations. I might not understand but can accept something, on the other hand there are things I can't accept because I don't understand. It really would depend on what the matter is and how it involves me OR how that person wants me to be involved. To answer this honestly it all depends on what I'm dealing with. Somethings we are never going to understand or change something so we have to accept that it's just going to be that way. It's very thought provoking.

One will Never accept anything unless there is some good. And if there is any good, understanding works for a while but in the long run, it is acceptance that prevails - if it is a personal relation, and if it is a business relation, still acceptance has a higher status. Example - when you and I were to become friends, we tried understanding each other - which helped decide. Once decided... how much of understanding will either of us do? If the need to remain friends is higher, many a times, it will not be based on understanding but because of the acceptance - that you and I chose to be friends.

Viju beti Many times we have to accept without understanding; it is like accepting the terms and condition of a site, with out actually accepting. This applies to relationships; most are lucky and blessed.

Based from my own experience, there are a lot of things that I do not really understand why it has to happen. And if I dig into it deeper, it just causes strain in the relationship. I do not think that I accept these things, but I just let things be instead of getting my mind to bothered with it constantly.

I think that no matter how hard we try it's very difficult to understand those who are close to us all the time;we sometimes understand them,and sometimes we can't even understand our own actions completely,so it's better to try to accept others and their actions even if we don't always understand or agree with them.After all,everyone is different,so we can't expect them to think and act the same way we do,we have to accept that.

it was when i started working when i heard that, that we have to get the u/a or understanding and acceptance of the other (i.e. subordinate or peer). but in reality, sometimes you just do as you're told even if you don't fully understand why it has to be done and why in such manner. it's the same when you inadvertently hurt someone. you still say sorry for the slight as an acknowledgement of their feelings even if you don't fully "get" where they're coming from. that's why you also hear people say all they want to hear is for the person to say sorry. then you change the way you interact with them next time just to avoid the same incident. you just accept that that's how they want it to be.

Well, in my own understanding, we can only accept when we understands them. That's why before haviing a relatioship, make sure to understand first before accepting him/her to your life. Dealing with relationship is not a game. So, think twice before you decide.

My views have been written as comments under many responses; I feel that sometimes acceptance without understanding may be called for if peace and friendliness is to be maintained. We should bother too much only if it affects us in case of outsiders.In case of family, we have to accept things even if they are not to our liking and we cannot 'understand ' why a person has to be the way he or she is or behaves the way he or she does.In our Indian community in many households, we are taught to accept things because we go into another house and they provide for us taking the prime responsibility of the house in every way. THis automatically assigns a superior role to the husband and his family and therefore we have to accept it whether we understand it or not.

hello dear (^_^) Such cases happens with someone we love so dearly, for an instance in our family. Even with our siblings,cousins, close kin we can't say that we do understand them all. There were times that, we want to give up- but because we love the person, we can't do such. The least we can do is to accept them- because we love them that much. Have a great day

I do always try to understand everything, and when i already understood it whether I would accept it or I wont accept it. I don't always accept the things i don't understand, but it depends on the situation, for example personality - you cannot change the personality so even if you don't understand that person, whether to accept it or not. :p xx

I do think accepting is crucial, but it's better if you at least TRY to understand the other person's view. That would actually prevent similar fights, because if you don't understand something but accept it, it may explode sooner or later.

Hi ! Human as we are , we have limitations . Sometimes it is so hard to understand things , and there is nothing we can do but to accept things. No need to understand just accept that it have to be that way or this way , no other option available for you . In this way a little of peace will prevail .

I try to understand and make others to understand me... but for those cases that we have no control over then I just accept them simply like that..