The love can still be disappear as time goes by in the relationship
By rhizjen
@rhizjen (140)
Philippines
March 23, 2013 1:52pm CST
There are people who said that love can never really lasts. You will begin to annoy or used to be in being together and suddenly you will lose your appetite to each other just like with the food that you are always eating. And they say once it disappear, it wont return any longer whatever the both parties is doing to work it out.They sometimes tend to separate each other way and have a cool off in order to know if they can miss each other or they will still back the broken relationship but it only turns to permanent breaking up. If you are in this situation will you be able to stay even you do not love each other anymore just for the of long years that you've been together or would you rather find another partner that you will believe that your love will truly last for longer.?
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13 responses
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
23 Mar 13
I think it depends on lots of things. I believe that there are people who are monopgamous by nature, and there are some people who would not settle with one person for their lives... it's not a problem or their fault, they are just like that.
Also, it depends on who you get together with. Maybe they just were not the right person for you, if you feel that you don't feel love anymore.
Also, what I know is that the initial butterflies in the stomch kind of love will kind of be toned down, and there might be a not that wham! but deeper kind of love there. Also, if you feel isolated or colder, you could still try to warm things up in the relationship, because sometimes these kinds of feelings come due to feeling neglected, not necessaril because you lost the love.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
24 Mar 13
Agree with everything you said .
Some people force relationship that was never meant to be , while other relationship never get cold .
A lot of time people choose the wrong person and take about love while it was just lust .
@Dias14 (176)
• Indonesia
27 Mar 13
Yes, I think it's a natural thing, a lot of people have it. Was a time you specify how long it will feel love or falling in love. Perhaps because there is a bond so things like that happen, if only there was a bond then it can therefore be avoided. Because capital is a relationship of trust.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
24 Mar 13
I have known my fiance since I was 13 and we have a lot of fun and love grow more and more each day and we are both out of high school . Everyone situation is different and we never waiver because other people find us attractive we are just amazing that way . Our relationship is like a second nature .
Other people that have bad relationship make bad decision and judgement and sometimes it was never love nor friendship to begin with.
@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
I think person who loses love for his partner did not really love. Because for me, love should be forever and it should not perish.
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
24 Mar 13
Good discussion. Nothing is permanent in life. How can that person supposedly believe that he/she can live much better with their so called new love when they can't even sustain the old ones? Sometimes hate might cause slight decrease in love or will result in a feeling that feels like they are no more in love. And in the cases where it results in permanent break up, it might be due to fate or only by genuine reasons like family opposition and such. If they mutually decide to part their ways, then were they really loving each other or just using each other?!
@ruchadhawal31 (228)
• India
24 Mar 13
I agree that nothing stay permanently but if feelings are true love will never disappear. But now a days I hear people saying love is just a game. Is it? Lol. According to me ubderstand eachother well. Keep all egos, attitude aside then love. It will never ever fade
@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
24 Mar 13
I believe in long lasting love. I know that some people couldn't agree on this, but I still think it exists. However, there some criteria need to be fulfilled for this to be true.
First of all, we must meet the right person. Some people fall in love blindly at first, but found that their partner failed to meet their expectations after the passion faded away. So, meeting the right one is very important for love to be persistent.
Secondly, we should understand the nature of love. I do agree that passionate love is not going to last very long. However love just gets transformed. With days passing by, we tend to be establishing mutual understanding and respect. We learn new aspects of our lovers and thus the relationship gets steadier although it's less vigorous. Many people failed to get through this critical stage and headed to sad endings.
Finally, a loving couple should always work hard to maintain their relationship. As the saying goes, there is no free lunch in this world. We need to give up something for something. Therefore we should invest time and effort to spice up and preserve the passion in the relationship.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
24 Mar 13
the love is just a feeling experienced by hearts and at times it can vanish for sure and if they understand permanently ,it can survive for sure in long durations and the time taken to keep it permanent is enough all the way
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
23 Mar 13
I think it's normal the love or being in love or the interest will be gone in time. Especially if both are not developping themselves in the same direction or if both are too busy (or just one) to spend enough time together. No matter if you believe or like it or not: a relationship (any kind of relationship) you (both) have to invest in and work hard on every day.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
24 Mar 13
I agree it can. I was very happy with my ex husband for 4-5 years. Then all that love went away/ Of course every ones situation ifs different.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
24 Mar 13
Love can disappear or love can be sweeter as time goes by. depends on the couple and depends on how the couples understand each other. but sometimes people just say that.. trying not be so "cheesy" in front of the others... I know couples who are like that.. but they love each other.
If there will be no love until the end of time for me I would rather stay single...
@gowtham728 (232)
• India
24 Mar 13
yes maintaining love in each other is important.day by day love develops when each person talk to each other but when it is not,it slowly shows that distance has come between us.