Be more Patient with Others
By McCreeper
@McCreeper (777)
United States
March 24, 2013 2:57am CST
How do I become more patient with others? It's almost as if there are two people inside of me that change given the situation. Publicly, I am able to control most of my temper from impatience, yet at home, it's another story.
What's worse is that I more often than not show my poor manners at restaurants.. I typically choose my entrees a jit randomly (because I love to live dangerously
) and my father cannot decide what to order. Believe me when I say that it takes him more than 10-20 minutes to order.
Not everyone takes that long to take an order. He has a doctorate degree in engineering, passed the TOEFL test, and yet he is unable to give an order because he could not differentiate 'seasame' and 'sashimi'.
Perhaps I'm not giving him enough credit.. perhaps I need to tolerate this even further.. How do I calm down from my impatience?
) and my father cannot decide what to order. Believe me when I say that it takes him more than 10-20 minutes to order.
Not everyone takes that long to take an order. He has a doctorate degree in engineering, passed the TOEFL test, and yet he is unable to give an order because he could not differentiate 'seasame' and 'sashimi'.
Perhaps I'm not giving him enough credit.. perhaps I need to tolerate this even further.. How do I calm down from my impatience?2 people like this
8 responses
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
Hi there McCreeper,
Patience for me is a virtue. Hence, it cannot acquire easily as it really needs a lot of grace. And this is one of the thing that I am praying, that I can have a long rope of patience to be able to deal to different things and scenarios.
@danirenea21 (36)
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25 Mar 13
Patience is something that is very hard to come by. Especially if its just that one person who gets on your nerves a lot. You just have to breathe and remember it won't be like that forever.. Just like bad situations.
@McCreeper (777)
• United States
28 Mar 13
Hmm, so far I've been taking deep breaths to try to alleviate my patience, but I guess I'll try that too. Thanks.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
24 Mar 13
So why is it, according to you wrong to take 10-20 minutes before you know what to order? You pick out that restaurant because you want to eat a certain dish? Most restaurants do have a lot of different dishes on the menu. Worth reading and also worth trying. Personally I don't think I would like to go out with you in a restaurant. People without manners or who force me to decide what to eat within 3 minutes I can't stand. I also like to know from the waiter (or cook) how they prepare some dishes, a good restaurant will be able to tell me. BTW eating out (in a restaurant and I mean a real restaurant not a bistro or fast food one) is for many people a way to go out, to relax, they have to save for this. I do think you make a big fuzz about nothing. How about some anger management? Or perhaps you go spend some time at the toilet so your father is able to read the whole menu, to ask the waiter what is mend by... and can eat something he really likes without you pushing him.
@McCreeper (777)
• United States
28 Mar 13
I've lived in the U.S shorter than he has, and as far as I want to assume, he's likely to have had a lot more experience than I have. I understand that I shouldn't be a fuss over casual restaurants and in more formal restaurants, but does it really matter over a fast-food setting?
But yes, I do need to calm down. I just wish sometimes he would at least know what he's ordering.. because we typically go to the same restaurant weekly and most of the time it's been as if he's never been to the restaurant before.
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
between my parents, my mother is more adventurous when it comes to food, willing to taste anything, while my father's taste buds are pretty set in its ways. it can be frustrating sometimes.
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@Scoffield127 (110)
• United States
25 Mar 13
I think you've picked the most important word there; tolerance. Just as we have different faces, so are our views, thoughts and interests in life. Therefore , tolerance becomes the key word.
