Who are we to blame others...

It is good that he is honest and stay true to his wife and committed to his family. What he had done was already in the past and no one is perfect in this world [em]rolleyes[/em.]. The most important thing is he had realized his mistake and not repeating it but stayed committed to his family [em]thumbup[/.em]

Yes Toni, we all can commit mistakes and we shouldn't judge anybody. When we know about mistakes from others, we only should expect that we don't fall in the same bad situation. It is written: “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?" (Mathew 7:3)

If you were his wife, what would you thouht about that? He probably wanted to have your honest opinion about that. Happy mylotting tony.

It is one side of the topic, but, when such an incident comes directly to us, we may blame others on their deeds. Someone is in love and get married after the long relationship of 3-4 years and after within one year time, if he blame for simple things and looking for a divorce and he get married to a different women. In this case, I don't find any issues in asking him about his past and why it happened. Though it won't make any difference in my life, at least for my information, I may ask or may have to ask when it happens to me. As you said, mistakes are quite genuine, there are people do mistakes possessively and give justifications and explanations for their wrong doings. It may judge them as error free but a mistake is mistake, regardless of who is doing it. If he cheated his wife, he may be looking for another girl for the same. We cannot ready someone ease's mind. But people will understand such situations when it happens to them directly.

Well said, but I think he should tell his wife that... not you.

For him to feel bad about the thing he did behind his wife's back is enough price for that. I just hope that you are more of a friend to him than his wife because you might be feeling awkward if you are also close to the wife. What do you think?

Exactly there is not a single person on this good Earth that is perfect, we are, after all human, humans make mistakes, it's how we learn, it's how we grow, it's how we get stronger, our mistakes make us, good or bad. One of my favourite sayings is Let He Who Is Without Sin Cast The First Stone! And that's so true, how can we blame others when we make mistakes ourselves!

I think it's great that he considers you such a friend that he could share that with you. I imagine it's been weighting heavy on him and telling someone is getting it off his chest. Maybe in time he can tell his wife. I think faults, even though they are big mistakes still need to be talked about when in a relationship.

Nowadays, it seems men are mostly cheating. Cheating in a way that some would flirt with office mates , while some had sired another and kept it from the wife. That's very honest of your friend. But have he told his wife about it?

Well you know the saying, "You see the hair in the eye of the other, but do not see the beam in your own?" Expression taken from the Gospel. Another phrase, "Who is without sin cast the first stone." This tells us that we must always do our analysis of consciousness before judging others! You know, nobody is perfect! Your friend, has admitted the mistake, repented and came back clean from sin. You did very well to forgive, forgive people who have been honest and has repented for the mistake! We should not judge, if we do not want our time to be judged!

Hi, you are right. We should not blame others to their faults. no one is perfect. It s easier to criticize , but difficult to improve. we should not find faults with others. And we have no right to show his faults. We should find our faults and try to improve.

Hi friend, you are right, we don't have rights to punish this kind of persons, also he confessed about his mistake to you, it shows that he give importance to your friendship. Also you mentioned that he is regretting for his mistakes, so he is deserved for the forgiveness. Surely he is a honest person and it is really hard to see such kind of honest persons in this days

What I would like to know is why do people feel a need to confess their fault to someone who had nothing to do with the mistake.

You are very modest and smart to say like this. This comment is totally according to what Lord Jesus teached. Also it is in perfect accordance with many other religions. Brilliant words not to judge others and not to be judged by Lord.

Yes one shouldn't care less what others do in their personal life.But when your spouse or partner cheats on you there is no right or wrong answer,you just have to do what you think is best for you.

Everbody has some faults in his/her, no body is perfect. we can not blame others to his/her fault. their would be some mistake from our side also .

As a friend, I think you are right to forgive your friend, everyone will make mistake in his lifetime. Butthikn about this, if you were your friend's wife,what will you do? You want to know the truth or not? I am assuming you want your husband will tell you the truth, and apologize to you,then you may forgive your husband because he already admitted his fault and change himself and stayed commited to family.On the other hand, your friend will not fill guilty anymore if he tell his wife the truth,no matter his wife forgive him or not, at least he is honest to his wife, he deserve a new chance, it's more fair to everyone. He did what a man should do. Right?