I am really fed up with what is happening, please can we end this up....

I can only say this: you won't make the situation better if you keep accusing your brother's wife. You have no respect for her. Also: your brother has changed. He is not single anymore, not only yours anymore. He is married and should be close with his wife and share his ideas, feelings with her instead of with you. You need to find someone else to spend your time with and give your brother and his wife the time to be a couple, to build their own life as a new family. You are not a part of this new family. Your brother is, his wife is and the children they will have will be. It sounds to me your try to claim your brother way to much just like before. This won't do any good to you, to your brother, his wife and the rest of your family. BTW If apparently (according to you!) your brother's wife is the reason of all your (and his???) misery you better let your brother find out himself. Don't you think so?

I think the situation and tension is too hot. You and your family should slow down first and let the issue cool down, by that the other involve which is your bro and his wife will be relax or cool also. Then you can start planning how to get your bro to talk with you heart to heart in respect and calm way. Hope your family will reconcile again. Good luck bless u all. xx

i think the only thing that could end this problem is by talking to your brother.try to find the right time to talk to him and tell him everything....im sure there will come a time that he is not being guarded by his wife or might as well ask him somewhere were that only the two of you can talk heart to heart....

The best way is to really have a good talk with your brother. I am not sure what is it with you that your sister in law might hate about. But you sure all need to sit down and talk about whatever the issue is. And bot unless you do this, then there will be a continuous stran with your relationship with your brother.

Sorry to hear that. Have you talked to him about this? Blood is thicker than water. Hope it all works out for you.

well, I am sorry for that, but it is good for you to understand that if you are so close to your brother, now after that he is married, you should know that you should not try to be with him like how close before you were with him. because he is married and his wife will not feel good if see all time he is with his sister. they would need their own life and happiness so you should understand that you should change the way and you can not ask your brother to be like before think of yourself if you marry and then you want to be with your husband but all time your brother want to be with you and talk to you and spent time with you. you should understand about their side, otherwise kind of people who try to force themselves and can not accept changes and some truth, then are people who ruin couple's life.

I agree with WakeUpKitty. Whether there are rumors or lies spread by your sister-in-law, your brother would have to find it out for himself. If you will be the one to tell him that his wife is a liar or what not, it will only make the situation worst. Breath, Relax and Let Go. Your brother will always stand by his wife (that is if he loves her that much, after learning all the lies) and his kids (soon) for that matter. To make the situation better, try to stay away from your sister-in-law's sight as much as possible, so that she cant make you their topic for dinner. You might also be contributing to the situation that makes your brother distance himself to your family, he might be thinking that you guys just don't like her wife or just to avoid the conflict. I know that we always dont get along with in-laws, so if you think you can't respect his wife, at least show respect and love for your brother. Respect what he wants, where he wants to stand and what his life is now. (which is with his wife, they swear to be together through thick or thin)Show him the old you that supports what he likes and likes what he likes, you'll earn your brother again but ofcourse no one can guarantee that you can earn him without his wife :)

Hello aira, i feel bad for your situation, the wife is acting stupid by giving wrong image of you from your family.I have a bad feeling that when he finds out that you are right, it would be a bit too late because it would really give him trust issues with his wife if she's telling the truth. this is family problem at that, how could a woman do that to his brother's family when she should be supportive of them

I think you should really talk to your brother and try and make things better. I think that in the end he will realize that it is necessary for him to keep good relationships with his family even if he is married. Hope that soon things will get better for you and your brother.

Your brother is a family man now.You know, sometimes our family members choose friends or life partners that we completely can't love or accept.I never liked the wives of my male family members, but it's their choice and there's nothing I can do about it.It's a loss because the relationships are different.Fighting with these sisters-in-law makes no sense.You need someone to share your soul with.You need to be loved by someone.

Timing is key. Right now, you're upset, your brother's wife is upset with you hence she closely guards your brother, and your brother is either confused or upset or didn't know what's going on. Find time to calm yourself down and let the situation cool down a bit. Give the wife her time to have your brother for herself and just do whatever or say whatever she wants because let's face it, at this point your brother is likely to listen to her than you. I do understand that you mean well and just because siblings marry, that doesn't mean they cease to be our siblings. Instead of dividing you, you should be gaining another sister through your brother's marriage which, as proven by the recent happenings, isn't the case. Now, when the time is right, you may have a heart to heart talk with your brother but refrain from attacking his wife. Unless he opened up the topic, then you may say your piece but do not attack her. You might just confirm the lies that your SIL is feeding him. Then let him process everything and figure out who's really at fault. But honestly, you said you only want this to end, and not to dig deeper on who's right or wrong. Hopefully when that time comes that you were able to speak to your brother, he will realize that nothing's changed, and nothing should. You are still his sister and you will always want him to be happy.

You brother will find out all the damage, his wife is doing and he might, leave her over all the lies, she is telling to other people, and then everything will stop, but you have step back, and let it all happen on it own, don't say anything more to your brother.

Airasheila, I am very sorry to hear this. I can't say I understand what your going through, as I have a great relationship with both my brother and his wife. Your brother should not be acting like this towards you just because he got married. And his wife is obviously jealous of the relationship you and your brother had. Just remember, Airasheila, everything has a way of working itself out. I wish you much luck and hope that your brother sees the light.