What do you think about weekend couple?
By michelle
@michellegogo (79)
China
March 24, 2013 8:27pm CST
In the past, it is quite unlikely for the couple to live in different places and still keep marriage going. Nowadays with the blossom of technology, especially with the advent of Internet, we have little difficulty in keeping in touch with the people we love. Therefore there is a new kind of couple in my country that they usually live in different places and meet once a week. We call them "Weekend Couple". They say in this way, they both have their living space and love itself can last longer.
What do you think about the weekend couple? Will you and you wife/husband be weekend couple?
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7 responses
@Alisatan (190)
• Hefei, China
25 Mar 13
I don't think it suits me. My husband and I never separate since marriage. Also I see lots of couples like this, but they finally broke up. It is pity that couples can not be together every day. There may occure lots of problems between couples in different places.
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@michellegogo (79)
• China
25 Mar 13
I am glad to hear that. My parents live together every day no matter what. They barely separate. But they will quarrel over odds and ends.
My friends tell me that is because they live together everyday and the trivial matters are more likely get on their nerves. I guess which kind of marriage is better depends on which kind of couple they are.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I do think that having those weekend dates would still be a good way to bond despite being away from each other most of the time. It is a lot better that not having one at all.
@michellegogo (79)
• China
25 Mar 13
Yes, I agree on that. It's better than nothing. But if you have the choice about whether to live with your husband all the time or not, which will you choose? For example, if your husband is allocated to another city to work, will you support it?
One of my teachers is too busy and her husband too. They live in different cities but not too far away. Once we students organized a trip and asked our teacher to come. She agreed and brought her husband as well because it was weekend and she did want to spend time with her husband. From our observation, we see that they love each other like they are new couples. I envy that!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I do think I can handle that. My mom and dad were far apart mostly during their first 25 years of marriage. But they were able to manage a good relationship. I do think it is in the maturity of people concerned as well as having that strong bond that could keep them together no matter what the conditions are.
@michellegogo (79)
• China
25 Mar 13
Your parents must have managed their marriage pretty well. Managing a good relationship like that expects patience and efforts. Not everyone can make it. Plus I firmly believe that if one knows he/she is the one, nothing else can apart them. If one doubts it, suspicion could kill the marriage. Perhaps it is not that hard to keep the relationship with the other half but to find the one you can trust all the time and who trusts you for good.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
25 Mar 13
Personally, I have never understood this one, and think it is a little odd. I can see if you have to do it in order to survive, and one is in the Service or been transfered, or in jail but that is about the only way. I guess to me that would be like dating, and afraid of making more of a committment.
@michellegogo (79)
• China
26 Mar 13
Yes, most people cannot understand that. Had it not been knowing someone who successfully manages that, I wouldn't ever believe it. I always think that living together makes it more like home. In most cases, couples are forced to separate like you said when one is in jail. But others are said to be quite enjoying the sort of dating instead of commitment, especially for those who disbelieve in marriage.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I don't think that this would be the kind of relationship that I would ever be able to have in my life because of the fact that I really do depend on my husband and I don't think that I would enjoy my life if I wasn't able to see my husband every day. Now my aunt and uncle did have this kind of a relationship for several years and it was something that did work for them. In fact, I was told several times that if it wasn't for that arrangement in their marriage that the two of them would no longer be married.
@michellegogo (79)
• China
26 Mar 13
I'm glad to hear that it does work for your uncle and aunt. Typical weekend couple often deems that this special kind of marriage keeps their marriage working. But what's their secret? What kind of people your uncle and aunt is? Is there anything explaining why their relationship works that you can share with us?;)
@whitneysquirrel (224)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
My parents have lived apart and together and sometimes they are sweeter apart and argue a lot when together but they are really committed to their relationship and I think it helps that they have a common perspective or outlook in life. They're celebrating their anniversary this week. My cousin and one of my best friends are both now married to their respective husbands after going thru a long distance relationship but another best friend broke up with her boyfriend.
So I think it works for some for different reasons and it doesn't work for some, and also for different reasons. It is difficult and you have to struggle and even that doesn't guarantee that you'll end up together. But I wouldn't give up yet on the sole reason that we have to be separated for a long time.
@michellegogo (79)
• China
26 Mar 13
I guess having a common perspective or outlook in life is of greatest significance. Common value gives the couple belief to share the rest of their lives together. Thus finding the one is more vital.
Yes I agree that it can work for some people because they are sweeter apart. At least it doesn't work for me. To me, nothing can compare to talking face to face and in this way we can minimize the chance of misunderstanding.
@marsh1elle (48)
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4 Apr 13
Love can't be measured by their distance, they say. Yes, they could still preserve their relationship for a long time but missing them is really hard especially when he/she became your husband/wife now. Weekend couple isn't wise for me. As much as you love someone, you'll do something to see each other very often. If you really do...
@michellegogo (79)
• China
14 Apr 13
Have you ever thought about the idea that it is because the couple are apart that the missing part can be that intensive? Otherwise they may get used to the way they are and not cherish each other as much as weekend couple does.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
25 Mar 13
This could definitely work for some but not for most. I think I could deal with this type of arrangement but I know I don't want too. I think it gives either party a bigger opportunity of finding someone else even if they were not looking. I'm sure this type of arrangement can cause divorce and other problems. It could work more for career oriented people who have very important jobs but your everyday type person I don't think so. People want their spouse to be there with them cuddling and keeping them warm at night.
@michellegogo (79)
• China
25 Mar 13
Yes, the big problem for these weekend couples is that they cannot appear at once if their spouses need them! This can be troublesome because some women just can't put up with the absence of their husband when they need them. What's more, when someone is mentally fragile, it gives opportunity to those who secretly love him/her.
The craziest case I've ever heard is that two person knew each other via the broadcast. Even though one lived in southern part of China and another lived in north, they got married after knowing for one year. They said they were happy but I doubted. How can that be working?
