ME being UNLOYAL
By AR Dianon
@dianon_ice14 (461)
Philippines
March 24, 2013 9:27pm CST
I know some of you somewhat followed my love story..... and this is CHAPTER TWO =(
I love my boyfriend and we've through a lot. We've been together for 3 years now, but I am not that sure if we are atill okay as a couple.
We a re both so comfortable with each others company so, sometimes or maybe most of the time the "spark" factor was more like MISSING!!!! The effort is not there and it feels like we are not a couple anymore....
And the, there's this guy who used to court me since we were in college but we didn't had the chance because everytime he do so,,, I always in a relationship,,, but this time,, he said that he would still give his best shot on me, I really feel so comfortable with him like I can do anything him watching me.. even the most UNWANTED stuffs... he still find it cute,,, yeah! he is really weird...
KNOW, him doing that I sort of feel something special. I am really confused....
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9 responses
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
25 Mar 13
how can you love your boyfriend if you are thinking about someone else? i don't think that you are in love with your boyfriend as you say.
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@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I really don't know too,,, that's why I am asking for advoce right???? I am not perfect and I know make and will make a lot of mistakes too.
I love him, maybe because I am used to the facr that he is there but confused because I don't that feeling of longingness anymore,,,,
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@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
and by the way....
LOVE has no definite MEANING,, maybe there are some things that you think is right but mine is not,, and vice versa,, That is the reason that's why I shared this,,,, I wanted to hear some opinions,,,, =)
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@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
25 Mar 13
don't get me wrong. i understand that you have love for your boyfriend. however, it is not fair to both of you if you are in a relationship where you are question if your are able to stay committed. i think that if you love your boyfriend, you should forget about any thoughts about anyone else. if not, don't be unfair to both of you and stay in the relationship. in the long run, it will be a waste of both of your time.
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@grvdubey11 (1879)
• India
25 Mar 13
That happens in serious relationships,after a while things get monotonous.Then at some point of time a new person comes and special treatment reminds you of early days of your current relationship and hence the confusion.You have mentioned that you are in relationship for three years now,that means your partner really loves you and serious about you,it think you should have a conversation with your partner that you expect more from him.In long and stable relationship like your it happens that love is there but partners take each other for granted sometimes,but that can be solved by clearing things out.
@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I would consider that.. thank you... I hope I could talk to him about it,, because everytime I opened up he always say that I am a drama queen..
@donatello123 (326)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I agree with grvdubey. If you are in a relationship with someone for a very long time... things become different and monotonous. If you can still remember, you used to be sweeter with each other before. He used to be more thoughtful, he was more of gentleman before/ I believe that long relationships end up because of these reasons. One of them might find himself/herself not attracted with their partner before because they both changed. A new person will come, and he/she will do the same thing that your partner did when you were still new. This is normal. If you feel like you are attracted with this new guy. Just picture yourself when you become a couple and after a while... you will also get bored because the spark that you're saying is gone. Relationships are like that especially when you get married. Not everything is sweet and not every moment if full of I LOVE YOU. I am married for a year and I must admit, my relationship with my partner have changed. The sweetness are not there every time but I know I still love my partner and I can't imagine anyone else to be with me.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
27 Mar 13
While I do think that it is great that you are comfortable with the company of your boyfriend, I don't think that this relationship that you are having with this other guy is something that is appropriate at all when you are still in the relationship with your boyfriend.
If you feel like the spark of magic in your relationship with your boyfriend is gone, you should suggest taking a break from each other and then you wouldn't have to have any guilt with this other guy that is a part of your life right now.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I think you have to make a decision to stay and be faithful to your boyfriend or to leave the relationship. Whatever happens though I hope that you all each will be able to find happiness. Take care and thanks for starting the discussion.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
You certainly are confused. You are young and it is natural to be prone to confusion. Especially in the matters of love and relationships.
Just remember you can't have everything. You can't have both guys so you have to choose one or you will lose both of them.
If you still care about your boyfriend, maybe you should spend time apart for awhile and maybe the spark will come back? Or if you want to give up on him and move to a new and exciting love(which does not indicate and guarantee a happy relationship in the future), the choice is yours. Only you can decide that.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
25 Mar 13
There comes a time in a relationship that the giddy factor or the chemistry or sparks or whatever you call it fades down as you stayed together for a long time. W get bored and when someone starts to show some affection to us, we get excited once more. And we like that. But when the excitement is all gone, do you think will you still be happy with the new guy? If its all about the excitement or the high of a "new love", then chances are it wouldn't last long because the foundation of that is something fleeting.
It's your choice.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
Well I think you are just reaching a point were you are being troubled by your conscience by what is happening with you and your current BF and a third party. I think you just need to be honest with yourself and with your current BF.
I think you just need to have an in depth talk with your current BF and maybe settle things right. I think your BF deserves the right to know it and I guess the truth shall set you free from being troubled by your own conscience if you are being unloyal or not with your current BF.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
You feel like playing with your feelings to them. As in you love your boyfriend but as you were still see the other guy it gives a spark in your heart.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
If you feel that your relationship with your boyfriend is leading you to no where, then why not talk to him about how you feel. Also ask him what he feels and thinks.
