do actions speak louder than words?
By cherigucchi
@cherigucchi (14876)
Philippines
March 25, 2013 5:08am CST
A lot of people say that action speaks louder than words. This may be applicable to some but I do more believe that words and action should come together so that the message become more clear. People usually get confused when one says something but does the otherwise. I'd rather see the validation of the words said through actions or vice versa. In that aspect, there is no guessing game nor clouds over my head.
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@chanks143 (22)
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25 Mar 13
ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS
Really our actions do speak louder than words. If we are little serious about our body and it's language. Our body or actions can show lot of things without uttering a word. So watch out!
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@jiiiiin (586)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I have a guy friend that is really sweet and caring to me like a boyfriend does to his girl. I misunderstood it and make conclusions in my head that he likes me because of the actions he's doing. But my assumptions are wrong when I heard and saw that he is courting a girl. It turned out that I am just assuming that he likes me because of his actions. I agree with you that actions and words should come together so that there were no confusions, assumptions and misunderstandings.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
Great! Women do assume a lot especially when love is concerned. we must always have a clear head in asking the real score or else we might end up broken-hearted.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
27 Mar 13
I do agree with you that words and actions should hold equal strength in our lives, however, in this technological world that we live in, this really isn't something that I particularly find to be the case.
You see, it is easy to say something just because you know that is what someone wants to hear, especially through a text message or through an instant message. However, when you actually perform that action, it is something that really speaks to another person.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
I have never thought of that until you brought it up. But still keeping the communication is something that we consider action, right?
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
25 Mar 13
Well, good works, definitely worth more than words!
However, we have to see how much a person is willing to do good works.
If a person preaches well, but it acts badly in his case it is better that he merely speak, without doing anything!
Quite the contrary I find sometimes even boring that many people say: "We should do this. Should do that", but in the end there are only empty words.
So we have in our lives we transform our speeches concrete works done.
@firepanther91 (186)
• Italy
25 Mar 13
Yes I almost agree with you. I believe that in a normal coherent person, actions and words should come together. In facts there are many people who say many good words but then their actions speak against them losing all their trustfulness. At the same time, some studies have revealed that every person has a preference to express and receive love loved in a specific way. In this study they have discovered almost 5 kind of "languages of love". These languages are: Words of affimration, quality time, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. I'll try to explain it to you:
There are some people, who aprecciate the most to receive\express love with the language of words. This mean, for these people being said they are nice, they are important, they are precious for the other person is the most important thing. For this kind of people then, we can say that words speak louder than words.
Another person, differently from people who find interest in the words, believes that the way they can see if somebody loves them the most, it's if this person dedicate them much quality time. In facts they use to dedicate quality time for the things they care about the most. Ok these were just examples of the first two languages, but with this what do I mean? I believe that everyperson "receive love" in a different way. So we have to understand what are the most important things for us and for the other person to be sure that person will "receive" our love. Because maybe our way of expressing is not the way that person wants to receive it. With all this what I mean? For some actions may speak more, for some others words speak more. It all depends from your needs. In any case both of them would be a complete love.
If you are curious about the languages of love and want to discover more I suggest you to visit this website and maybe buy the book: www.5lovelanguages.com
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
This is very interesting.
I do understand your point. It depends on the needs of the person actually whether how to receive a particular thought. some may want to hear it while some want you to show it. This is when communication should be taken into consideration. we do have different preferences and it should be clear to those people involved.
Thank you very much. You made my discussion more comprehensive than I thought.
God bless you. May you receive love both in action and words...
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
28 Mar 13
I completely agree with this statement, and the most obvious example of this is when we deal with our children and ask them not to lie, but on the other hand, these kids see us lie.
Acts are truer thing kids see and do follow them.
Should the parents and teachers to be role models for their children and for others, and be their words and their actions are identical.
My best regards
@celticeagle (164045)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Mar 13
Yes, action and words should fuse together for a exact presentation but that is not how life is a lot of the time. You may see it from afar and no words to be had. The guessing game may be all you have to work with.
@aryajayaprakash (1643)
• Japan
26 Mar 13
That proverb is really worth and is true. Anybody can utter promises, a very few can put them in to action. So it is better to do than say something which we really intend to do.
@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
29 Mar 13
I don't think that when people say that phrase they mean to say that actions are better than words apart from eachother. But, that you can say something until you are blue in the face, but if you actions say otherwise you might as well not speak the words. For example, you can tell your significant other that you love them all day long. But, if you turn around and sleep with another person that kind of negates telling your significant other than you love them. Right? But, on the other hand if you have a crush and you sit there and smile at them all day. And talk to them, but never tell them that you like them. You might as well just save your actions because you never told them how you feel. It goes both ways. But, one action can topple a wall of words.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
That would be best, really. But unfortunately, not all has the ability to do the same. And it seem a lot easier to just show whatever it is than by saying it.
@Inderjeetkaur (944)
• India
26 Mar 13
Hello cherigucchi,
I feel that this line must have been coined targeting the people who give big speeches and make promises, but do not fulfill them like our political leaders. Whereas there are individuals and organizations which really work for the upliftment of the society without needing to utter words. In such cases, yes, actions do speak louder than words.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
27 Mar 13
To me it does. I find it cheap to say "I love you" if it's not shown in behaviour/by attitude. These are just empty words everybody can say/write esp. if it's expected to say so.
@rosa880906 (80)
• China
26 Mar 13
I quite agree with you that Actions speak louder than words.There is an old saying--Example is always more efficacious than precept.Children are affected quite much by their parents'behaviours.even last in their whole life.So,be good in action,be good in words.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
26 Mar 13
This only means that most people can only talk and never prove what they say. Some people believe that doing it is more appreciatable than talking. This also emplies that someone should do it rather than just talk about it.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
I would rather let my actions speaks for itself than expressing through words, as sometimes words could be misleading as one's interpretation of even a single word can be overwhelming. I think there is more sincerity in doing things than saying it out loud, as they say, "better said than done."
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
26 Mar 13
If people wouldn't talk in circles and stated clearly what they wanted, then yes their words will weigh much higher than their actions.
If their actions indicate opposite of what their words imply, then you will probably be leaving an unclear message.
You can say you love someone, but then go have an in**mate relationship with someone else. Your actions just proved that what you said is not true.
Moral? Never leave anyone guessing. Eye contact, sincerity and actions that meet your words, will usually get you what you want.
@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
For me yeah, action speaks louder than words. I like to see my partner effort a lot with the relationship to keep the love, and to keep it going. But the absence of words can be also so dramatic and the actions might be ignore. Well for me action speaks more, words can follow right after. And I agree that this two should come together. xx
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
absolutely true, I had experience a lot with this situation but i'd rather choose to have a confirmation in the end. This situation seems your floating in the air, there's no security and assurance.For friends having this kind of relationship really shaken the foundation which leads to self confusion into their true feelings with each other.This is also painful because the tendency is you are just expecting somethings. In other words it creates misunderstandings!
@babyeve (1048)
• Seychelles
26 Mar 13
There is actually legitimate and ongoing scrutiny about whether actions speak louder than words all of the time and in all places. Words are important, and people do listen to them. They don’t always wait to judge whether words are backed up with action, though this might be the wiser course.
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