How would you react?

I agree with that. I think that it is true that a bad experience like that doesn't mean that everyone is going to behave the same way. Right now my friend is very negative and upset about the situation and I understand that, but it doesn't mean other people are going to do the same thing and I think that it is important to keep that in mind. I think that we are able to avoid some disappointments if we don't expect much, but it is not always easy to do that and I think it hard or impossible to avoid disappointments completely.

I would love to see their expressions if she said that In her situation I think that I would have confronted the couple or said something ironic, but I don't think that she is going to do that. The things that the couple wrote on Facebook makes me wonder why they did it. Maybe they didn't think that my friend was going to read it, but I still don't understand why they had to mention the party on Facebook. If they didn't come to her dinner because they were ill that would have been a different situation, but I think it is rude to accept an invitation and then change your mind when I hear about something that sounds more interesting

I also think that she should ask them directly. I would have done that if it was me, but she is afraid of conflicts and she doesn't want to ask them directly. She has chosen to express her opinion indirectly instead. She isn't going to invite them to her husband's birthday party and that is her way of telling them that she doesn't accept thee way that they behaved. She still invites the other two couples.

I am not sure if I would invite them or not. I would probably be hurt just like my friend and I would get the impression that the couple found the party more interesting than my dinner. I don't think that is nice to accept an invitation and change your mind when you hear about something that sounds more interesting. Personally I wouldn't di that if I had accepted the other invitation first. In my family we sometimes joke about that and say things like: "I will come to your party unless I hear about a party that sounds more interesting" but when we say that the other person always knows that it is joke and it doesn't mean that we would actually change our mind when we hear about another party.

It was interesting to read your response because the things that you wrote were different from my own thoughts about the situation, and when I read your response I was suddenly able to see it in a different perspective. I think that my friend got disappointed because they chose the other party instead of the dinner that she had arranged. She felt that they went to the other party because they found that more interesting than her dinner and that hurt her. I think that I would feel the same way as my friend if I were in that situation. If something really important came up I think that her friends should have told her about what happened and told her why they weren't able to come instead of going to another party without explaining the situation. If they only say that they can't come I think most people would feel rejected when they find out that they actually went to another party.

ohk yeah may be this was the reson ur friend was hurt.. and i know its natural at this situation. but what i was saying is that she should not get that much disappointed that she is thinking of not inviting that couple in other party..i think this can spoil a relation.. she should better talk with them. well hope everything wud be fine :)

I would be hurt, too. She invited them first and they said that they would like to come and then they must have heard about the other party and decided that it was more interesting than the dinner that my friend had arranged. I think it is very rude to accept an invitation and change your mind if you hear about something that sounds more interesting

I think that I would confront them as well. Maybe I would mention the things about the other party that I had read on Facebook and say something ironic. I think that I would find it hard to say nothing at all. My friend has chosen not to confront them and she shows her disapppointment in a more indirect way because she has chosen that she isn't going to invite them to her husband's birthday party. She usually invites them and she thinks that they will understand the message if she doesn't invite them. It is easy for me to understand that she was hurt when she discovered that they had gone to another party instead. I would have felt the same way.