What a disappointment!
By ElicBxn
@ElicBxn (63643)
United States
March 25, 2013 3:26pm CST
I don't know how many of you have figured out that I have "issues" with my brother.
I, at least, have the satisfaction of knowing that I'm not alone.
And, I also have the knowledge that I actually have it better than those people I know who also have sibling problems.
One is a good friend that I've known since 1972. I can remember her telling me about her brother, B. I could tell that he was her favorite, well, maybe right after her sister, but he was her favorite brother. I have to say her brother is a real "prize". Probably the only reason he's not in jail is because he's too lazy to actually commit a crime that might land him there. I suspect that there have been times when it was close. He was always trying to get compensation for injuries that he may, or may not have actually had. He married this... person... and my friend had to actually go in and rescue both his cat, and later his daughter from him and her. She left when she realized the money wasn't coming, found another man to have a baby with and then he split. So, my friend is now kind of a grandmother to the children of the niece she helped raise. She says the last her niece had heard from her mother was when she needed a ride home from the hospital and the woman came, lay down on her hospital bed and told her how sick she was.
The other is my roomie. She has two younger brothers, neither of them worth the time of day. However, the younger one used to get along with her and she remembers a time when they were friends. Now, he's a drunken leach. All he has to show for in the world are 4 kids, all whom hate him. He leaches off his parents, living in their house when he can't find a girlfriend to live with. His truck is in his father's name because he can't get a loan. He tries to borrow their car all the time because he as a breathalyzer device in his truck so he can't start it when he's been drinking. He's been told that if he shows up to work drunk again he's fired.
So, all things considered, I guess my brother, being a "know-it-all" isn't that bad... huh?
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8 responses
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
25 Mar 13
I thought you were being sarcastic and your brother would be 100x worse.
I guess my brother isnt that bad of knowing it all and thinking he is better than everyone, actually my sister is the same way.
My older brother has always stole, he thinks the world owes him everything. My sister has to have better than everyone, she knows it all, she will sit and argue for hours even after you proove her wrong.
My younger brother, hes a waste of air. He mooches, and has the attitude I know it all, I am better.
I will say my sister is the only one I could possible handle. We lived together 4 years in college, and I didnt kill her. When I didnt want to talk to her, I shut myself in my room, or sat in the bathroom with my computer.
But again the oldest is 31, and then goes down from there. So maybe in a number of years, it will be just like these situations. 2 people like this
@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
25 Mar 13
I guess you didn't have a favorite? I have to say that it probably took longer for the roomie and my friend to develop the antipathy we had/have at a much younger age.
I think my friend was getting to know her brother better by the time the niece was born. It took the roomie actually living with her brother and his bi... I mean wife... for a year. She thinks that most of the trouble that they have might've actually been caused by that un-hairy female dog.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
25 Mar 13
Hi there, yes we some time think that the grass is greener on
the other side but when we really think about it, we need to
try to realize there are always someone else who has a much
worst issues than we do...
Live everyday with love in our hearts and guilt free of disliking
others, and especially out family members...
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@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
25 Mar 13
MUCH easier said that done.
Lets put it this way. Both of the others are avoiding their brothers as much as they can. I just avoid him if it isn't going to cause a problem - and generally it isn't a problem to avoid him. But for things like holidays I get together with him. I want Mom to look down and see that at least I'm trying to get along. I honestly think my brother is too - and that WAY more than their brothers can claim!
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@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
26 Mar 13
Although I sometimes considered them pests when we were children, I now thank God frequently for my wonderful brothers.
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@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
27 Mar 13
I'd be extra nice to girlfriend, unless that might make brother suspicious.
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@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I don't deny he's my brother, and I'm his sister. I do my best to not fight by keeping my mouth shut and letting him be the know it all, up to a point.
He'll give me horses, but I know I know more about Doctor Who, Classic Star Trek and written science fiction.
@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
3 Apr 13
Oh, no, its not just me, even the girlfriend admits he's a know it all...
Trying to tell her about the law - she's a POLICE OFFICER with a degree in criminal law!
He may know all about tax law, but that's a different subject from what he was trying to tell her about...
Now, remember, I'm saying I've got it good compared to some people I know, I don't hate my brother, I just love him better at a distance!
@pals101 (2010)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
Opps, sorry about that. I thought you were brothers..
Anyway, anything can be settle at the right time. Make the connection on him and understand his feelings. Maybe there is something that prevents him from expressing his good side to you. Ask assistance from your parents or his friends or his wife/girlfriend. 
Anyway, anything can be settle at the right time. Make the connection on him and understand his feelings. Maybe there is something that prevents him from expressing his good side to you. Ask assistance from your parents or his friends or his wife/girlfriend. 1 person likes this
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
28 Mar 13
Your not alone in having a know it all brother either. Mine thinks he knows everything also. When he finally found out I was disabled, he called and started telling me what exercises to do, and what vitamins to take. Meanwhile he is in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. He took therapy when it first happened but quit because he knew more than they did. They said if he took therapy he would walk again in about 5 years. Ten years later, he is still in a chair.
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@dmckenzie (80)
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26 Mar 13
I would say your brother being a know at all would not compare to all that going in with your friends siblings. Everyone though has a sibling that they have issues with I have 3 siblings and I do not like some of the things they have done either and they probably feel the same way or just do not care. I know my sister and I did not get along for a very long time, but I am glad that our relationship has gotten better over time. Maybe in the near future or just in the future you and your sibling will get along. I can tell you that I see one of my brothers every once in a while cause he lives close by but not around each other much and the other brother hardly ever see him. Maybe when the brother that I hardly sees gets married this summer then his then wife will have him spending more time with the family, never know what will happen.
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@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
26 Mar 13
What I've noticed is that people tend to spend more time with the wife's family if possible.
I know my father would go to NJ on vacation, and we spent most of the time with my mother's family. Turns out, I discovered later, her dad had bought the plane tickets, but my dad could've gone to see his family more than once a trip, but that was all we saw of them.
Just a guess.
And I agree. I'm actually primed to tell the roomie's brother, the next time I have the misfortune of seeing him, that its always good to see him. When/If he asks why, then I get to tell him, "It reminds me of how good I've got it with my brother."
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 13
hi elic bxn yes when it boils down to it compared to the brothers you told us about so a know i all should be better than a drunk, a ruggie or a letch for sure.
I never had a brother but did have a half brother whose main vice was gambling he could be wonderful until he got Some money and had to gamble and he always lost so why did he keep doing it and wasting money. I really did like him as he was kind and outgoing but he had that one thing gambling.He once took a load of honey to sell for my dad and stopped io to gamble with my dad' money from the sold homey,Of course he lost all of it too.
Angry oh my dad was livid and there was not much he could do about it as Howard just did not have any money.However my dad was a lot to blame for Howard being the way he was as my dad buried money to avoid paying income tax only to be found out by the IRs and he had to dig up all the buried money to pay back taxes and the large fine too.He had made a fortune selling honey d\uring the second world war while sugar rationing waS on.,
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