Let her eat cake!

@ElicBxn (63705)
United States
March 25, 2013 3:33pm CST
My friends here know I have some serious food allergies. And some of you may remember last year when the new roommate got into my yogurt by "accident" and then offered me some of hers... Well, last night, she was messing around in the fridge and then I heard: "Oh!" like she realized she'd been caught or something. Then she said: "Oh, may I have one of your eclairs?" I thought about it. I really did. After all, the next day was her birthday. In the end I said: "No. You have cupcakes. I can't eat your cupcakes." I then reminded her about the yogurt. "Oh. Okay," she said, sounding disappointed. Then she shoves them back on my shelf and starts "looking" for her cupcakes. "They are on the top shelf." I say, coming in to get another glass of drink. She is digging around on the back of her shelf. "Is that the top shelf?" I ask. Later, I wrote the roomie about it, she agreed that they were mine and I can't eat what she can eat. Even later, when I was getting ready for bed, the roomie and D were talking in her room. Or should I say, the roomie was talking and D was listening. Its really hard to have a conversation with this woman, she won't respond if she doesn't like what the answer will be. Its a monolog or nothing. In fact, when I went in to say good night, that was the topic of conversation... Well, this morning, the roomie told me they also discussed the eclairs. D told her they sounded so good. And the roomie said that if she wanted some, she needed to get her own. That she sometimes gets some too, and maybe eats one or two and gives the rest to me. These eclairs are yummy and especially since they are corn starch/flour free that makes them safe for me. Most cakes and ALL powdered sugar have corn starch, making them unsafe. So, I told D that she could eat cake. And I don't feel bad about doing it. She had almost a dozen little cupcakes and I have only 4 eclairs, for those bad moments when you need a sweet.
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@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
25 Mar 13
I dont blame you, I remember in college we use to share the fridge myself and 3 other people. They use to use say the condiments, ketchup, etc. Which I was fine with, as I dont use a lot. But when they use say my $15 bar of cheese and use half of it. The issue of living with my sister she use to use my things, and go oh well Im older.
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@ElicBxn (63705)
• United States
25 Mar 13
I hear that one! I actually never had a problem until now. Its amazing actually, how she's totally blind, but she can find things! For example, she gets into the cheeses in the other fridge. One time she cut up all of a block of cheese into bite sizes, but then, when the roomie wanted to have some shredded, she had them all cut up. She got jumped on that one too. I think its a shame the way your folks take your sib's side - I can't wait until you can get out!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 13
hi ricki oh I must tell this.I worked in the library and our manager often bought bagels of all kinds for the staff. We aall brought our own lunches in paper bags with our names on them so nobody ever took someone elses lunch. But the leftover bagels stayed in the large sack and were up for grabs. If we wanted to save one we liked for break time we were to put it in a small bag with our name ion it.,So I came in for break and fund the large sack with one bagel with cream cheese on it so I took it and ate it with relish,JUst then the manager came in and searched the fridge. she asked me "have you seen that one last bagel with cream cheese?" just as I swallowed the last bite.I gulped then told her " yeah i did and it was up for grabs so I ate it.,: she looked at the bag and laughed"I would have sworn I put my name on the sack but I did not." she laughed at my expression and told me "thats okay as it was indeed up for grabs." i
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Mar 13
as some have seen in my other discussions, we had a big problem off and on with the food budget around here when all the kids lived here. it really got bad at the last month since my grandson moved in before they all moved out. no one was able to afford feeding everyone and my youngest son pretty much refused to pitch in even tho he was working and he just went and got what he wanted to eat of anyones when no one was around. mostly i took it apon myself to feed him. since i cant stand seeing my child go hungry even if he refuses to buy but has a job. then my grandson came and his mother, my daughter was unable to keep him in food. so i was fitting part of that bill. and yes, when someone buys their own food they have a right, like you do to say if anyone can have certain things especially when you cant eat what you want. now my daughter is going through the same mess with food supply as my son, the young one moved in with her myself and oldest son is having it much easier now with food. we dont eat the same things always but we each eat enough of whats bought to split it down the middle and its much cheaper now. the biggest eaters are now my daughters problem. her son and my youngest!
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@ElicBxn (63705)
• United States
26 Mar 13
Yeah, family is probably the worst. Its taken YEARS for my brother to realize that I really mean it about corn. Of course, he wasn't around for various reasons when we discovered the allergy, after all, he's older than I am and I was out of college!
@ElicBxn (63705)
• United States
26 Mar 13
oh, and the title FIT after all, she could eat those cup cakes!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Mar 13
pretty cute how you phrased the title to marie antonettes saying
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I have some food allergies, too, and while I don't share a refrigerator or anything, it's hard sometimes to get people to understand that I just "can't eat that." Family dinners can problematic in that if I pass on certain dishes, feelings are hurt. I don't think they realize how dangerous some allergies can be. Some things don't bother me so much, so I'll go ahead and sample them just to keep the peace, but I cannot eat pork of any kind (BBQ, anyone? I always have to find an excuse not to go).
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@ElicBxn (63705)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I get chicken or turkey when I get BBQ, but since most of the time we are buying the stuff I can do that. The roomie would buy a family thing to take to her folks, with beef and sausage and stuff and then get me a chicken plate of my own. She figured she better feed me since I'm the driver!
@peavey (16936)
• United States
26 Mar 13
Nobody barbecues chicken or turkey in my family and they'd be put out if I brought my own! Your roomie is smart.
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@ElicBxn (63705)
• United States
11 Dec 15
@Barbourne yeah, I totally get that! I can't take many pills (prescription medicine) because they have corn starch in them as binders... Had a pharmacist once say: "Its cheaper in pills" to me. The script had been written for liquid. I told her: "Not when I have to take an $11 allergy shot after each pill it isn't." She filled it as written. And it wasn't "cheaper" for me because I have insurance!
@GardenGerty (161554)
• United States
26 Mar 13
Since your treats and goodies must be so specific in what they contain, it is unreasonable for her to expect free access to them. She is pretty spoiled and self centered. It is like the clients I work with. If they do not like the answer, they just do not listen.
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@ElicBxn (63705)
• United States
26 Mar 13
Well, she's learning to listen, we at least have the advantage that she doesn't have dementia or other problems of that nature. And, she DID ask this time, I think she figured out that maybe she'd get in way more trouble than she wanted to think about if she didn't after other food stunts, like my yogurt and the cheese.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I had a brother that I lived with for a few months a few years ago that would eat up all the stuff that I bought for my son for his school lunches. It would make me mad because he knew exactly what I bought it for, but it did not stop him from eating it.
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@ElicBxn (63705)
• United States
26 Mar 13
Ya know, I knew someone who had that issue. She carefully set up a situation where he ate food that had been, booby trapped, shall we say. The thief spent a lot of time on the toilet and she made sure he knew she had done it. He tried to go complain, but was informed that he shouldn't have taken food that wasn't his. Now, another friend got tired of finding her coffee cup used and dirty at work. She got some of that "polish" that they use to help stop kids from biting their nails and painted the inside of the mug. The next day it was on the side of the sink. She took it and re-painted the inside, but nobody ever touched it, or any other mug again!
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
26 Mar 13
Oh if only I had though about that with the food while he was still around....
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 13
gosh elicBxn It must be really hard to find cakes cookies, eclairs that do not have cornstarch in them, that has to be a tough allergy to have. I have an allergy to anything with corn syrup in it but its no big deal as I also have diabetes so a double no on corn syrup anyway. I hope now they will leave your eclairs alone and have their cakes. lol
@ElicBxn (63705)
• United States
25 Mar 13
I think she's getting the message: You can eat anything and Elic can't. She thinks she's so restricted, but the fact is that she really isn't. So, she can't eat regular popcorn because of the hulls. Well, they make extruded "popcorn" now and she can eat it - I can't. She used to say that she couldn't eat beans. Why? Because she wasn't chewing them well enough. "Oh, I was used to only having 15 minutes to eat lunch," she says. Yeah, in a job she had over 15 years ago! Why is she still "speed eating"?