You were fired, not retired!
By ElicBxn
@ElicBxn (63594)
United States
March 25, 2013 5:22pm CST
D, the totally blind roommate, would tell us about her job and how she "retired."
Then she'd tell us about things, like how they treated her so mean.
And, then she told us that her supervisor came and told them they needed to produce more of whatever it was they were putting together.
Well, she wasn't going to be told she had to make more, so she slowed down and made less.
So, one day before Christmas, D and I were in the car. She was saying, again, how she had wanted to be Number One after her mother died, but she guessed she just couldn't be.
I said, feeling decidedly out of sorts since it was right around the time of year that I lost so many friends and my parents.
But, you know, I didn't think I had to be Number One after that...
Anyway...
I told her that if she pulled her "Princess" act at work, that it was no wonder they treated her mean. She, honestly, had it coming, acting like she was better than they were - or more disabled - after all, they were BLIND too! And if she slowed down when she was told to make more of the product, then she didn't retire, she was FIRED!
I didn't shout, but I was quite firm.
Now, you may remember, this woman doesn't "converse" well.
She also hates long silences.
I let her stew.
I can be quite the B!tch, can't I?
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8 responses
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
26 Mar 13
Yeah... but she was only about 40 at the time, maybe.
Granted, she's totally blind, so her options are a bit more limited than maybe your dad's.
Ya know, your dad sounds kind of like the story I heard at the Old Bakery last week. The lady in charge also is in charge of the drivers and this one driver has basically reached his final strike. Nobody previously cared to go through all the bother and paperwork to get rid of him, but A has been willing. So, he's retiring.
In my old job it would've been called "Retiring in lieu of involuntary termination."
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@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
26 Mar 13
Now THAT sounds like the roomie's brother, except that he's actually showing up for work sober and not too hung over, in part because he can't start drinking until he gets home on work days, and that's every day but Sunday.
We just don't bother going to her folks on Sundays.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Mar 13
guess you just tell it like it is when you get tired of listening to bs. people watched about lieing around my mom. she would just come right out with what was on her mind and tell the truth.
so thats just your way. at least people know where they are with you
you are a straight shooter. lol@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
26 Mar 13
That is one thing about my "sun sign" that is totally true! I'm glad I'm not the only one who does this, because I'm tired of her B.S. I've noticed that she doesn't call it "retired," at least around me, anymore. I've also noticed that she doesn't say how bad people treated her at the job. I'm going to guess I nailed it so hard that she's had to reconsider what she's done. I've noticed since then she's been trying to find a job, not that she's got any skills!
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Mar 13
omg, maybe its a leo thing. my mother was also a leo! and my oldest daughter that always says what she thinks to people is also a leo.
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@GardenGerty (160615)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I have to be that way to my older sister occasionally. Her explanations of things get more and more bizarre. However that kind of treatment goes whoosh right over her head. On the other hand, she will decide that either my brother's wife, or my husband, Bob, dislikes her. I mean, she says he mistreated and was rude to her. You have met Bob, what do you think. The best ever one was when I took her to a free clinic because she was having heart symptoms and had no insurance or money and she told the doctors that "they (her daughter, my brother and I) kidnapped me and made me move to Kansas" and I just calmly said "you were about to be homeless and we gave you a place to live." This is the same sister that I have just had to take for two heart cath procedures and she refuses to quit smoking because "smoking doesn't cause that."
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@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I can't say that I think Bob could be rude to anyone. I don't think he talks that much, and I got the impression that he thinks pretty hard before he says anything much more than: "let me help you with that" or "thanks."
Sounds like you have a sister like V's brother! He won't stop drinking, or smoking for that matter, because it isn't the reason he's got these problems.
Yeah, right...
@BarBaraPrz (47265)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
25 Mar 13
How long does a promise to a dying person last?
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@BarBaraPrz (47265)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
26 Mar 13
I was under the impression that you promised D's mother to look after her. Guess I'm mistaken.
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@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
26 Mar 13
The roomie said we'd take her in... I just said okay.
Like the counselor last spring when she said that they could find D could another place to live, but she "still needed friends to help her."
I told the woman that you have to be a friend to have a friend and if she moved out, she could just lose our phone number, because she hadn't been a very good friend so far.
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@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
27 Mar 13
I think others, as in her family, were afraid "upset the poor damaged child."
I doubt that the people that fired her cared anymore, after all, she was gone and could give it any "spin" she wanted, right?
I have run out of patience with people who self deceive, I see way too much of it in my life. So, she finally reached my limit of her lies, and I had to set the matter straight.
I mean, she could decide to continue fooling herself, I just didn't want to hear about it again...
@changjiangzhibin89 (16756)
• China
27 Mar 13
Sounds like she is not all there and lives in a fantasy world.Maybe few people state the fact as it is to her as you have done.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16756)
• China
3 Apr 13
Nobody knows what would come of her ,if she is still in that state.I remember you have helped her a lot.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
26 Mar 13
that is quite sad and she will realise about it very soon and it must take a toll on her and the job she needs to take care of a new one
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@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
26 Mar 13
It was after that little "discussion" that she started getting serious about looking for a job and to try and regain some of her mobility skills that she let lapse. Maybe she wants to leave and maybe she just wants to show that she's actually an adult not a spoiled brat!
@FireflyN (22)
• United States
26 Mar 13
That sounds very much like getting fired. You seem to have done the best you can do, by not losing your head and yelling at her, but still explaining things and laying them out for her. Sometimes people need someone to be firm and tough in order for them to get the point and understand things from another person's perspective.
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@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I suspect that she isn't as smart as she thinks she is.
I just am tired of having to be her "mother."
In fact, I told her I wasn't her mother last week. I don't care WHERE she goes or WHY she goes someplace, but it is nice to know if she is gone because then, if the roomie and I want to leave, we know to set the alarm.
