compromising own happiness to make a relationship work

ideally speaking they say no... don't give up something you have for saving a relationship because it won't help and you will just end up regretting easy to say but hard to do.. but yes... always save something for yourself.. don't give all otherwise, if something happens along the way, you still have something to hold on to.

I did that for years and years and years. But that doesn't work on long term it will only affect your own health. Also it's useless since a man will never appreciate what you do or give up for him. In the end he will dump you or say you are just jealous or it was your own free choice (even if he manipulated and threatend you to do so, something most men do one way or the other). Fact is that in most relationships men do continue with their own life, meeting their friends, etc.. they just changed their mother for their own wife to take care of everything. They don't see a relationship/love the same way as women do. YOu have to be aware of that so you know ahead in what you want to invest and which goals of your own you will stick to. Most women do lose their own identity.

When you are first in love and totally in lust you want to live in each other's skin. But as time goes by you learn to give each other space. A relationship should never be a contest, I give you this and this and this, now you owe me. This is what children do and a truly adult relationship means I enjoy you and I will allow you time and space for yourself. I know you will enjoy me and allow me the same space. You can't change each other, any changes to be made are made by that person. Trust is the big thing. I trust you in my life and I expect you to trust me. This is what forms a good marriage.

Any sort of relationship (be it marriage, friendship or any other) means a compromise. But this choosing does not mean losing your happiness but acepting that your relation makes yo happier than the loss of it. I don`t think that it is a good motive to stay together for the children (if you are married). That means only "thinking" that another person will be happier by your doings and that is not necessarilly so.

Just like you, I have held on too the marriage. There were times that I would really want to give it up. I have even left the house for several months just to be able to think what should be done with the marriage. And then, I realized, that my decision should not only be based on what I feel but also with the kids' welfare. It was difficult to come back, swallow that pride, deal with hearing those harsh words on and on. But I have to stay for the kids. No matter if my own happiness was at stake.

Marriage bond is a great relationship in every one's life. There is nothing wrong in compromising with our spouse. Little adjustments will give more happiness and help to keep the relationship for a long time.

I'm done making major compromises. I'm not even sure I want that kind of relationship. I do see a person, but I like my space. I'm all for spending time together, we hang out, like the same things; but very happy he lives over an hour away. Sometimes it's nice just to be by yourself.

I believe it is a must. If you aren't willing to adjust, then I don't think the other party will be willing to adjust for you all the time. That would be tiresome and definitely, sooner or later, he will give up. Like they say, it should be a give and take relationship. In my case, I have experienced compromising my own happiness many times for our relationship to work. Well, most of times, I just say I did it because that happiness is not as important than my husband and our marriage. Although it is really hard to do it sometimes, I have never viewed it as something that should cause problems to our marriage. I already knew that before we got married.

For a relationship to work, both of the the party should be willing to compromise something. Me as a wife, i have sometimes compromised for what i like to do, in favor to what he likes. Though for his part, he also have some compromise for some that i may like but not so for him. I would give up doing FB at night, when i see that he is already home and beside me at the bed at night to relax. A relationship should be a give and take one.

I have given up my own happiness for the financial needs of our marriage. I took a job that was not something I ever wanted to do. I did it to take care of our children and each other. Other than that one time I have never given up something for him, and I wouldn't. If it's something that makes me happy then I would not give it up for anyone. We all need happiness to push through. There is enough bad in this life so we all need a little happiness. My husband has never given up something for me so I would not do it for him either. I used to think I had to make him happy all the time. Then I realized my happiness matters as well. If neither of us are happy the marriage would not last...

I think making compromises is crucial to have a nice and well-working relationship. But one should never give up their 100%, true happiness for a relationship, because if you have to give up yourself 100% for a relationship, it's probably not worth it.

Yes, I once gave up my happiness for my family and my husband. And I guess I have to thank God that they both realize what it meant for me and how important that is for me, that they made sure to "pay" me back for it. I am glad that they changed and my relationship with them improved.