People that get every thing handed to them on a plate

That is not only a pity, but many times parents don`t realise that they are actually turning healthy people into handicapped ones. People need to fly away, like birds, at a certain age. If everything is handed to them on a plate, actually it would be the same as if you cut the bird`s wings. And IO don`t blame it on the children but on their parents.

I am so angry about this too! People these days have so much given to them or so much that they dont' have to bother to do cause of technology...that they are either lazy or just don't care or something.... Kids don't even know how to count change as all they are taught is to swip a credit card (good grief, Monopoly even has a new board with an ATM instead of the paper money!) No one has to take responsibility for anything they do wrong, they don't have to make their own decisions as the government or school tells them what they can/can't do..and on it goes. I just watched a feature on Fox News on The O'Reilly Factor...Jessie Waters went to Florida and asked people on spring break who margaret thatcher was or if they know who she is. Only one knew who she was...but that was all she knew! Heck. last election, he did the same thing about who is our current vice president and no one knew! People don't have to stand on their own two feet anymore, they get bailed out or compensated by the government. Why go to work when you can get on welfare and for every kid you have, you get an increase in your welfare amount and food stamps!!!! The new generation is going to be so lazy and stupid and wont' even know how to screw the top of a ketchup bottle! And that is what is going to be running this country if we survive who's running it now!

I totally agree with u! In my city, most people around me had their high-salary-job because of their parents, they r so useless that they cannot find a job related to their major in college, after having stayed at home for a few years, their parents tried hard to het them the current job. Though their salary and living levels r much higher than me now, I'm still proud of myself because I get my job on my own and obtained good reputation from my previous boss and the current team leader, I believe people like me will fulfill the dream we had and still have.

It sounds like you're talking about the federal government and the welfare system.

yeah, i feel sad for kids like that... their parents always backing them up at everything, so they'll never be independent.. I think i am a bit like that.. I was not encouraged by my parents to work and all, since they didn't want to stress me out, so now i have no experience in anything..

That is true. If a parent does not push his kid too much to start working for himself, then this kid will end up being a bum and would be a forever burden to his family.

I was always happy we weren't rich when i was raising our kids.. well, we're still not rich and it still might be just as well. I could've been one of those parents who gave their kids almost0 everything, as I do like the path of least resistance, and I like things to be very peaceful.

Call them lazy or spoiledbrat but they are sure lucky as they don't have to think where their next meals come from as everything has been provided for.

Responsibility and financial stability are two very important things. I think that some parents don't want their children to be independent and so they keep paying their way to keep them tied to their apron strings. It is sad and very dysfunctional.

I see that at the college I work at! Besides given everything they get their education free,too! Parents do this and don't think of their future,like at retirement! So the kids think they will be able to go through life with no problem! Everything will not require hard work,much like any work. While the parents will never be able to retire because they spoiled their kids! Now that is really having no comon sense on both sides!

I am thinking that it is more important to teach children how to make good decisions as well as how to manage money and other matters of life. I think the first car, cell phone etc should have to be earned, My kids did not get cell phones or cars until they had jobs and could afford to make the payments themselves. It's called teaching responsibility!

This is something that does really bother me in life. You see, my husband and I did live with my mother during the early years of our relationship so that we were able to save the money that we would need to be independent in our lives. That said, my brother and sister-in-law live with my mother and don't help her out at all. She is paying for the roof over their head and she is constantly bailing them out. For that reason, my brother is older than I was when we decided to buy our house and they are showing no signs of getting a place of their own and supporting their own family (the two of them plus three daughters.)

It's an interesting question. I don't think it's healthy to get everything on a plate. I mean, it's of course bad, because it creates jealiusy and it'sunfair, but I pity these people, also, because they don't learn to work hard for what they get. And if their parents or keeper die or leave them, they would be left without anything and without any learnt skills to survive.

My 2 sisters are that way. My dad gives them everything. And both cant even cook or clean their own rooms. They are 27 and 29. Very sad.

Hi, They are the unluckiest people in the world. They don't realize that in order to have something, one has to work for it and should not wait for it to be handed over on a silver platter. It is only good if the provider is still around but what if they are on their own? Things could get nasty, that's for sure. Survival is the issue here and if one as not learned the trade, bound for the dumps he goes, which can be a very undesirable condition.

I agree that it is not always the right choice to do everything for our kids and hand them everything they want. They should have to work for things. If they are always handed everything they will never have the ambition to do for themselves. And when they are in the real world they will have to learn a very hard lesson, no one will hand you anything in real life. If you want something you have to work for it... I know someone like this personally. She gets handed everything even though she is an adult with a child. She gets handed money to take care of her son, doesn't do it by herself. Recently, she got fired from her job because she had lack of motivation at work, big surprise! All she is learning from being handed everything is she doesn't have to have motivation or ambition because someone will do it for her. One day when she is all alone she will be in big trouble because she will not know how to take care of herself and her child...

I'm with you on this. When I was younger, I would envy these people, most of them were my classmates back in college who doesn't have to work hard because they know they have connections or family businesses that they can turn to after graduation. They are not even bothered by taking the board exams because they feel like they already know what their life will be like. But after a couple of years, problems for them starts left and right. While I am working my butt off in an office (at least I get to be promoted, sent for business trips and trainings), they started to mess up the family biz. Those who have connections cannot hold a job for more than 6 months because they do not really have the drive to perform well. I mean, how will you know the importance of something if you didn't work hard for it? It's like the money that they have were spent just like that, while I have to turn it around a lot of times before I even spend it to something I like simply because I know how hard it is to earn it.