I am a single mother of three children!!!

Hi Kathy, Welcome to Mylot! Well, if you live with the dad of your children then you are not really really single. You just are not married. You aren't trying to do it all alone in other words. I don't see anything at all wrong with how you are living as long as you are all happy and making it work. Marriage is mainly a legal contract. How much you love each other is in your heart and you don't need a legal document to tell you that.

As long as you are happy and things are working out good for all of you then that is what matters. It sounds like you have a wonderful man in your life and that means a lot. I wish you all the best.

You are really not a single mom coz you are still staying with the father of your kids. At least both of you are helping out with your family's finances. I wish that your relationship becomes stronger and that you would also get married soon.

Hello Kathy and welcome to Mylot. You are really lucky to have a caring boyfriend and a loving father of your children. Bringing up children all alone is not an easy job. I am so happy for you that you have your boyfriend's support, love and care. Getting married now or later is absolutely the decision of two of you. Hope your love and understanding keep multiplying with each passing day.

Your not a single mother a single mother raise her kids on her own and doesn't have a boy friend. The father of your kids is your boyfriend d your a couple your darting that doesn't make you a single mother. There are lots of single parents and its nothing to judge at all. Most people are impressed by single parents because they do everything on there own with no help lots of the, don't have anyone father or mother on the side to help.

It is nobodys business but yours, your other half and your childrens. I have also got 3 kids and have never married - I have been with theie mother for 21 years. Marriage is not the be all and end all

I hope that you are enjoying excellent My Lot. It is lovely that you have got three children. It is wonderful that the father of your children lives with you. There is not harm in a living together relationship. Many of these sorts of relationships lead to a happy marriage. In the time together in the household the couple may learn they are fully compatible. I am glad that your boyfriend is a very good father. It is superb he looks after the children whilst you work as a bar maid. My marriage lasted just six years. I had a living together relationship which didn't work out either. I have a 17 year old son, a 5 year old son and a 3 year old daughter. You are right that many divorces happen and a couple have to be sure. I am glad to meet you. Good luck.

Then you are not a single mother because their father give support to all of them and you are living together as family. I am not against people who decided to live together without marriage. I think this is a good way of getting to know your partner deeply. You are very lucky to have your partner with you.

Hi Kathy, I am glad to make your acquaintance. I was a single mother of one. I was married to my daughter's father and it was a total mistake to marry him. I feel it is your own business whether you marry or not. What you tell or don't tell is totally up to you. You will find there are a lot of people here just like you with the same struggles in life. Good to meet you too.

Yes , if both are not yet ready , why rush and force ? All has its right time and place. One must hold on and have patience .If we will asked the church living together is a sin , but for me , i don't see it as a sin as long as the family are living peacefully , having love and respect for each other , i guess that is far better than seeing a family married together but the home is like a hell , no love and respect but all troubles you will feel and see. Actually marriage is just like a ritual and a social norm ,what is important is the relationship of two people, the ways they managed their family .

i am not yet also married with my boyfriend even though we have a son already.. for me marriage should be done if you are spiritually, physically, emotionally and financially ready.. and for now i don't think we are ready for it.. but i know we will do it when both of us feel that the time has come and we are ready..

Hi Kathy...In our generation today..Its already normal to be a single mother..Your children must be proud of you or even you,you must be proud of your self,Taking good care of three kids is not easy..Stay positive and take good care of your children...Be Happy because you have the reason to be happy,Your an inspiration to everyone.Godbless you and your children.

keep fighting, God is Always with You,,,,,

I think it is totally up to you when and if you get married. I'm also a mom of three and me and my husband are married but that was what was right for us. We lived together for five years before we got married and started trying to have kids. We actually moved in with each other the moment we started going out, that is what worked for us. I didn't want to have kids unless I was sure we could live together peacefully, since so many people can't do that. I grew up never seeing my parents hug or kiss or even tell each other they loved each other. It's horrible to grow up and not know that there is love in the house. Me and my husband tell each other and the kids that we love them many times in the run of a day. It's the best when my children out of the blue say that they love me. LOL. The bottom line is marriage is not for everyone it is up to the individual, I say as long as you are happy, and you are in love then do what works for you. Sounds like you have a happy family.

You have the right to be happy and I am also happy to know you're responsible with kids. The most important thing in this world is you live happy and with faith to the Lord. Now if the relationship is good why don't you try to get married for the kids. You will be blessed more and live happily ever after.. Have a happy life my friend! :)

Welcome to mylot! Raising a family is the hardest job in the world. I was a single mom of two girls and I had my problems but I got through it. Thankfully they are now grown and taking care of their own families now. All you do is take each day as it comes and be happy that their dad is there to help out. As for your living arrangements I have no problem with it and you shouldn't care what others feel about how you live your life. I hope you learn to love mylot as much as I do. We all help each other out when people have problems or need advice. Its a much better site then Facebook. Enjoy!

It doesn't matter what other people think as long as YOU are comfortable with YOUR arrangement with your boyfriend. It is true that half of all marriages end in divorce, but if the two of you have entered into this relationship 100% committed to each other, then you shouldn't have any problems. Your happy? Then live your life the way you want to live it. Nice to meet you as well.

Hi kathy! Welcome to myLot! I am glad to know that you have a caring and responsible partner. Enjoy life and make the most of it. Have a wonderful day!

Great to have you here with us. Im also a single mom of a 14 year old boy here in Mexico. Good luck to you at home and here at my lot.

Hi Kathy1981! Welcome to myLot! It's good to know that despite of not getting married, you and your boyfriend are very happy and that he's supporting your kids no matter what. Having 3 kids is difficult and it's good to know you were able to work things out. It doesn't really matter if you're not married. Although of course, there are still a lot of conservatives out there who believes in marriage before kids but don't mind them. What is more important is that you are all happy :)