Deal Breaker? Or Not?

I probably would have had a heart attack on the way down. Ohhhh, I would have been so pi$$ed at him and yes, probably would have broke up with him too. How could he be trusted after that one?...that's actually scary. If anything he should have supported her and let it be since she was terrified. I think if he would have left her alone, she might have done it at a later time. Wrong on his part for sure.

I agree, after she told him not to push her and he did. I would have lost all confidence in him.

This is really a deal breaker for me and I am not a fan of someone who knowingly uses both his hands to PUSH me into harm's way. I know and understand that this may be recreational but I am also aware that it can be done together - tandem. It is about being together and the fact that he decided to push just shows how selfish and disregarding he is. He definitely did not have the slightest bit of sensitivity and most of all, honest. I cannot even respect such a person. Bungee Jumping is considered extreme sport and not without a reason otherwise the activity would not have a million dollar insurance accident policy attached to each signed up participation. The least he could have done would have been attaching himself to his girlfriend to reassure her all the way. Retrospectively, I believe that's what relationship is about taking the leap together and free falling together but not pushing you to test the rope and collect the insurance policy after, should something happened. If I were the girl, I would not hesitate to grab him along and release my grip while we are midair.

This sort of thing is done all the time to people who have issues with heights. The person doing the pushing thinks they're helping. To be forced into doing something I'm not ready for ticks me off. They've got no right to decide the right time for me and God save them if they try. That would certainly be deal breaker. He lied and pushed her off after she had had begged him not to. If he went that far, what else will he do?

I agree with you. The woman said 'No, I don't want to jump' and the guy thought it would be funny to push her off anyway. My question is this though..was there no-one supervising the jump for safety reasons? Surely that person should've said to the guy, 'Look, your girlfriend doesn't want to do this,' then punch him on the nose!

Oh you better believe it! That would end it for me. I would probably press charges on him too for assault if pushing me against my will.

IF I survived it, YES!

I think that's a little off.... I would never push someone if they really didn't want to do it. Of course I would also tell them not to go up there with me either if they didn't intend to do it. People can be so fickle, you know? I take a lot of crap from people because people always think I'm not serious about something or that I'll change my mind or I don't really mean what I say. I don't get that at all... I mean, if you know me WELL, you learn one of the first things about me is that I will TELL you what is important to me, as well as what is NOT important to me. Also, I say what I mean and I mean what I say. Trying to sway me or change my mind is neither appropriate nor is it going to work 99% of the time. Just because OTHER people don't hold value for certain things does not mean it's the same for me. Just because OTHER people change their mind every time the wind blows a different direction has no bearing on how I am. As far as bungee jumping, sky diving, or gliding - or any other dare devil activities, I would probably do them, and if I committed, I wouldn't back out even if I got scared last minute lol. People who commit to something and then back out bug the hell out of me. If you are at all unsure, then don't even commit to begin with.

I think it is possible that the boyfriend thought that he was helping her and thought that she would appreciate his "help" after they jumped. But even if he had good intentions I don't find his behaviour okay. When she says that she doesn't want to jump I think that he should listen to that instead of trying to help her face her fears. She didn't ask for that kind of help and I think that it is wrong of him to assume that he helps her by pushing her. I don't know if it would be the end of the relationship if it happened to me, but I would definately tell him my honest opinion about the thing that he did. I would be furious and I would not try to hide that at all.

Trust is one of the biggest issues why I don't date anymore! To me men can't be trusted! It is bad enough I have trouble trusting other people! Trust is so importnat in life! If you don't have trust,you don't have a relationship! Period!

I'd probably break up with him if he was just a boyfriend. But if he was my husband, then I would have the right to torment him after!

It would be a deal-breaker for me, too. If someone promises me something in such a crucial thing (it's not like forgetting to bring milk from the grocery store, it has to do with someone's FEARS), and then out of fun or their own personal reasons, purposedly not keeping them, they have just bought a ticket for break-up with me. Trust is the most important thing in a relarionship.

I completely agree with you, this is with friendship, relationship and so forth.

that was terrible. he already knew that his gf is afraid to do it, how come he pushed her down to the cliff. what about if the girl has a heart failure during that time. what will happen to her or what will the boy do for this situation while they hang theirselves in the rope. sometimes, forcing one person is not good. we may call an abusive act. that was absolutely a deal - breaker and lapsing the right of her girlfriend. if i was in that situation, i do not know what will i do to my boyfriend. grrrrr

What he did was totally out of order, unkind, and plain cruel, trust is a major issue with me, I have a terrible time trusting anyone, but that's due to the abuse as a child and the abusive relationships I have been in. There has to be trust in any relationship, it's trust that builds the relationship, if you can't trust your partner, then there's no basis of a relationship.

I guess he would have broken up with me Way before . Why? When he mentioned bungee jumping I would have said Oh Hell No!I'm not going up there! I agree trust is the most important element in a relationship. When the trust is there, true friendship and then real love can grow.So answer your question it would be so over and worse I would see if I could get him arrested for pushing me off the cliff.

Deal breaker. The only possible excuse I can think of is if she told him before they got up there that if she chickened out he should push her.

I read the same story and also saw it on TV. He said she had told him to pusher, if that was what it would take. The couple did break up, but s supposedly, the push had nothing to do with the breakup.

It's a definite deal breaker for me. Any man whose ego is so big that he cares more about his own objective of seeing her jump more than he does her feelings is not a man I would want anything to do with. If I don't trust him to respect my feelings in any given situation I don't want to be with this man. What a jerk!

I would say yes. On the other hand she could have told him later she was just scared and blurted that out. Don't worry, I didn't mean it, honest. Then do what ever was necessary like drop off his stuff or return the ring or whatever to end the relationship. ... or be better than that and be totally honest? There is a question of practical jokes. Some are just not funny are they?