Does your significant other have any say over how you dress?

I remember fondly a pair of trousers I used to own before I met one of my abusive ex's, sorry I sound like I have a string of them, just two, both bad news, but this one in particular was very critical of my dress, sad to say they had eroded my confidence and self esteem so much that I actually listened to them as to what I should wear and not what I wanted to wear, so anyhow these trousers were red, now both red and yellow bring the best out on me, I know it sounds crazy but colours have an affect on me, red and yellow make me feel confident, and I guess that is what my ex saw and didn't like, so I started wearing boring, dull colours like black, blue and white. I can't even remember what happened to those red trousers but I know I never wore them again :0(

My significant other appreciates the way I dress and I have never heard him make a negative comment. He knows that I always want to look good and he encourages me to do so. In fact, he even buys some of my clothes whenever he sees one that I like knowing how much I love to dress up. this is perhaps one of the reasons why we get along since he allows me to lead my life the way I want it to be.

My husband never tells me what or what not to wear. I will ask how this looks on me and he will be trueful and tell me its good or its not. I wear clothes that are not showing to much. If I'm dressed for a wedding or party he will tell me I look so sexy and that is it. He feels great when I look sexy and doesn't care if other guys look as long as they don't touch everything is alright with him. I've never been one to be letting everything hang out. Now if I was, maybe he would say something to me. Then again he wouldn't be with someone like that.

Randy does not tell me what to wear. he does buy me clothes sometimes for Christmas, but he never tells me what to wear. There is a blue shirt he has that makes his eyes look blue that is my favorite shirt on him, but I never tell him that he has to wear it. I do dress up for special occassions, but I do not dress up everyday.

I wear what I want, but I still consider what my husband would say about it. Like I am not really comfortable wearing shorts going into the market. I would still wear shirt and jeans but my husband said it is too hot these days so he said I should only wear shorts. I think he has a point. But in general, I follow what I think is good at me. He may say that I look good in red and with this kind of design. I may consider the color, but I will still choose the design that I am comfortable.

Not really. We have similar tastes in clothes. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't like it if I strolled around in the streets in a mini dress that barely covered my butt and my boobs, but that's not my style, either. He's okay with anything I wear, with a little cleavage even (but most of the times I dress fairly modestly and conservatively), so he doesn't get overly jealous just because the way I dress. Sometimes he tells me if a piece is not his style (usually it's jewelry, some of my pieces he finds too decorated), but he wouldn't tell me not to wear them. And I don't tell him how to dress, too. I only once told him to change his shirt, when he forgot that we were supposed to go to theatre (a classic, alegant theatre), and wanted to leave in a sports sweater.

My husband doesn't have a problem with what I wear. He can express his opinion either way, but he can't tell me what not to wear. I don't dress overly sexy, so he is pretty good wtih liking what i wear.

I wear what I like, but if he expresses a preference that I don't object to, i will tend to wear that more often...

You are lucky to have a very understanding husband. For the longest time, I never felt any more comfortable in wearing something a bit fancy without having to deal with those harsh words coming from my husband. I do not know if he just wants me to be too conservative or if he just wants to think that he can have control on me all the time. I am not stupid to wear something that is inappropriate. But he just seems to see things differently. Back in College, I thought it was cute of him to look after how I wear my uniform. He would tell me to put a pin on my blouse so that guys won't be peeking on it when I am on the car since public transports are a bit higher and can actually see it. I was fine with that. Then there was incident that I wore a short skirt. I know how to sit properly, but he insists on placing something on top of my lap. Still fine. But when I would be wearing something more than my usual get up, I'd be hearing words that you would never want to hear. I have cried a lot of times because of it but then years passed, I just let him tell whatever he wants. He never gives me a cent to buy me any of my clothes!

My sister's husband does that. Not only he has to approve what my sister wears. When my sister goes to her hair dresser, he takes her there and sits right next to the hair dresser. He'd tell the hair dresser if the cut is good enough or if there are things need to be further styled and things like that. My sister would just sit there reading her magazine while the men (her hair dresser and husband) are working on her hair style. I know that her husband is quite an artistic person with huge talents and successful interior decorating career. Still, I don't know if that warrants her trusting him so much of what the best look for herself... By the way, my sister always looks good, though... She stands out in public because she looks like a super model with her fashionable look all the time. Perhaps that is the image her husband likes to have for her. And she does everything to keep that image to make her also good looking husband stay with her.

My husband doesn't, but I always ask him how the outfit looks on me and when he really thinks I shouldn't wear it, he would say so. Most of the time, he approves whatever I put on because we almost have the same taste in get-up and dressing properly.

My boyfriend rearly pay attention to what I am wearing. I have to admit that when he likes something he gives me a compliment. But I don't think he is interested in fashion.

he gives suggestions but most of the time he leaves me alone to decide. actually i am the guilty party on this. whenever i see him dressed in something that i don't appreciate, i always ask him to change. and he obeys me. LOL he has nice taste in clothes, don't get me wrong. it's just that when i'm dressed for a party and he dresses in an almost casual way, i don't like it.

I have dated one guy once for nearly 3 years who was very critical of me in general and that included the way I dressed. But he was a crazy person to date anyways, super controlling but not in a dominant way, more in a manipulative way. He would make me feel like he was ashamed to be seen out in public with me, and say I couldn't wear yoga pants or tight jeans because guys looked at me. I couldn't hang out with guys because they just wanted me. I couldn't hang out with girls because they'd just lead me to guys, no trust! haha. Anyways, luckily after that horrific dating experience, I have only dated people who bring out the best of me, and part of that is them accepting me the way I am. And that includes my style haha. I wear a lot of short dresses and such, and leggings, because I like my legs as a feature. All of my so's have only ever expressed concern if the weather was a bit chilly. I never really appreciated that until I read this though, so nice reminder to appreciate people being cool with our own style and expression.

I guess it depends on the person, for me i'm not so particular on how my partner dresses up, as long as my partner is comfortable of what she is weary, it would be okay, we need to respect the choice of our significant partner.

hi mommyboo I do no think my hubby ever told me what not to wear ever, he lioved that my favorite color was blue and often bought me blouses or dresses in blue at Christmas time or my birthday but he never ever mandated what I should or should not wear. He was not that kind of man, he was happy and outgoing and full of fun but not controlling at all.,Once he got jealous and I took him with me to meet the man I had written a Christmas card, to. we were in our early thirties the old man was about my age now in mid eighties. I had become very fond of him as he was a song writer and full of fun. Incidentally he wore the old song "After the Ball was ove"r and the story with it was so sad. as he went to the ball with his adored wife and she ran off with another man at that same ball. So when myh husband met him then he understood that he had no reason to ever be jealous of that nice old man who was one of my patients too