How to set realistic goals?

there are really goals we cannot attain all at once. it is okay to fail. i guess, the best thing to do is that, we must set or attain first what is necessary to do and to have, then those things that required less attention or completion must be done last. just do not be frustrated, wrinkles is ready to draw a line in your face if may so. avoid stresses as possible as you can. that is why handle it lightly and calmly. life has plenty of problems and these problems might kill us if we do not know how to handle it. so please be careful :) thanks for this discussion :)

Your husband is home and he can't take care of his own child??? This besides of the fact you don't need to keep your husband busy, he is an adult so if you plan something stick to it. Plan 2 (extra) things to do a day plus time in between where you scedule nothing. This way you have time "left over" if something comes in between or it takes longer as planned. This way you won't have stress. It's hard to believe it takes 10 times longer with a 4 year old. If it would be a 2 year old I could understand that. Tell your daughter clearly what has to be done, use a "cooking alarm" to scedule the time. She might like that as well. BTW she will only learn how to scedule time, clean up "fast" etc if you allow her to help you out.

i am the very same way. when things get too out of hand, i tend to freeze. it all becomes too much for me. part of the reason why things don't get cleaned around here often is because i hate cleaning other people's mess. i live with four other people (one kid and one teenager). i don't make messes, because i don't want to clean. that, however, leaves everyone to make the mess and won't clean it up. that's why i am backed up on housecleaning. i am also lagging behind for the past few days in online earning. all this thinking about stuff is making me tired.

When we see a long list of things that needs to be done, we feel overwhelmed. What I normally do is write down what I need to do in order, from the most urgent to the least urgent. In the daily plan, I try not to squeeze in too much in a day. Although I have a long list but my daily plan is not long. So I don't feel stressed out. Cross out what you have completed on the list when you are done. Use big bold marker pen to do that, it gives you a sense of achievement.