can you tell when your partner is cheating on you?
By cherigucchi
@cherigucchi (14876)
Philippines
March 27, 2013 3:12am CST
I have been married for almost 14 years and I have never been into this kind of situation. I have heard stories from friends who have been into this and they told me that it was a tough situation. After those cheating issues, they were still able to save the marriage.
But how can one tell if the partner is cheating?
As husband and wife, you both have routines that you usually get accustomed to and I would suspect that there is something wrong going on right away.
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7 responses
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
27 Mar 13
sometimes it's hard to tell as husbands who cheat always make sure not to disrupt the routine in the family and in the bedroom. those who do this however do not have serious affairs, just flings that usually end after a few encounters. when the partner becomes absent during important family occasions and the "working late tonight" happens more often, then i think this is the time to get a little suspicious. i haven't been cheated by my husband (at least i think so, LOL) but if ever this happens, i would raise heaven and hell and i don't know if we'll ever be able to patch things up. trust is very important in a relationship.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
I would surely do the same...raise heaven and hell! LOL
But flings can also be a very dangerous thing!
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
same thing with my husband! That is why I talk about checking on the routines...
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
27 Mar 13
even if i (or someone i trust tells me) see him just kissing another i would be very hurt and angry. my husband has his daily routine. he leaves the house early (around 7am) to catch the train since he has to be at work by 8am. he closes shop at 730pm and he arrives home at 9pm. the trip back takes longer because of the train schedules. when the train is late, he usually calls. he doesn't work sundays so he's usually home with me. he's alone in the laundry shop and it's open even during lunch breaks. i guess it'll be very hard for him to have time for flings. LOL and i really hope that he doesn't because i'm happy with our relationship.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
Based from the stories of some friends, a woman can easily tell whether their partner is cheating. A woman's instinct is a really powerful tool and most often, it never goes wrong. You'll also know when your partner is cheating when there is a change in its usual habits. And if s/he always makes excuses just to get out of the house.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
That is the thing that separates us from the male species, we have this strong instinct that can always be trusted...
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
I have had a couple of instances wherein I found out that he was texting or calling someone behind my back. You very well know a woman's intuition could be strong. And although there are women who might be too crazy to constantly be thinking of something that their husbands might be doing. That is a different thing. What happened to me was something that I really usually do not do but happened to have discovered unexpectedly. I felt weak. I couldn't confront him. I felt like passing out. I asked him about it after a few days, but he never admitted anything.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
True! And it is some kind of a pact that they have- that no matter what happens they will never admit to anything.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
My friends tell me that they will keep a prayer that it won't happen to me because it is really an awful feeling. Men won't really admit it unless you caught them in the act. i even heard that even if a wife catches her man doing it, he even denies it!
@stringer321 (5644)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
27 Mar 13
The more we know our partner and the more we know about him, the higher chance we will notice if something is wrong. I personally know my mother cheated on my father for a long time, 20 years. He is sure he was all right as a husband and he can't accept the fact that he was not perfect. Even if my mother admitted more than once he was all right, I know how life is around him.
Everything is possible, I guess. Some crazy people can show normal life and behind, when no one notice, they flirt with innocent girls on the internet, meet them, do horrible things to them and the spouse can never tell or notice.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
I agree on that. Those years that we had spent with them would be enough to tell the difference especially when cheating is concerned.
@sunheri2003 (33)
• India
27 Mar 13
When you feel suspicious of your spouse it is always best to talk it out.. Approach your husband with your feelings... No one can make you feel better than your husband... If even after having a talk you still feel uncomfortableyou can try enquiring with his friends or run a detective on him
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
Im not sure if i will be able to do that when that happens...well i hope i am not going to do that at all because it will never happen!
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
27 Mar 13
you have friends who have experienced them maybe they can share the symptoms.. lol
but it is good thing that they are still willing to save the marriage at least both the husband and the wife wanted too it will work.. if only one wanted it, it will not work
