Sad..
By TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85146)
Shingle Springs, California
March 27, 2013 3:24pm CST
Cynthia was right. Cynthia's always right. 
Well, you see, today would have been my 30th wedding anniversary. I only made it to 28.
When I was going through this whole divorce thing, Cynthia told me there would be a lot of emotional ups and downs, that a divorce was like a death, etc.
I actually haven't had that many sad moments, especially not after I moved into my own place, but today is one of them.
Not sure why.
Mourning what could have been, I suppose.
Well, you see, today would have been my 30th wedding anniversary. I only made it to 28.
When I was going through this whole divorce thing, Cynthia told me there would be a lot of emotional ups and downs, that a divorce was like a death, etc.
I actually haven't had that many sad moments, especially not after I moved into my own place, but today is one of them.
Not sure why.
Mourning what could have been, I suppose.12 people like this
19 responses
@Torunn (8607)
• Norway
27 Mar 13
Eat chocolate. Chocolate cures everything. Have a wild chocolate party and celebrate yourself.
Except how to fit into your trousers I suppose. Haven't figured that one out yet.
Haven't been divorced (nor married), but it makes sense that there'll be some sense of loss after 28 years. If not, you should have got the divorce before I suppose :-) Probably some good memories etc.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
28 Mar 13
maybe if you chose dark chocolate over milk or white? 
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
27 Mar 13
I have gone through the same thing. I was married 12 years. I was doing good over the divorce. But my poor son mentions his dad now and then, and it gets to me. I guess its natural. Take care dear.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
27 Mar 13
Mine told my son a few months back. I wasnt with anyone because I wanted him back. My son told him.. your crazy dad.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
27 Mar 13
Sorry if I am slow on the uptake, but who is Cynthia? You said you only made it to 28, well in books 28 years is some feat, being stuck with the same person for that length of time. I marvel at my parents, they've just celebrated their 43rd Anniversary. The longest I've made it to is 5! And I've never been married, 5 years max, and that was a penance! The most important thing is that you got closure.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Mar 13
She's a friend I met on myLot, part of my female support system as I was going through this whole divorce thing.
I guess 28 beats the average, but like somebody above said, you don't get married thinking it's not going to work out.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
28 Mar 13
Hi wolfie: I am cynthiann - the one who thinks she has the answers
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
28 Mar 13
Aww. I am so sorry that you are feeling this way but it is natural. Divorce lingers on my friend. During those 28 years you had many happy years. The first flush of romance and marriage and then the birth of the children. The memories are bitter sweet but when you think of a happy memory then enjoy it as it was part of your life at that time. enjoy the good memories but now and then remind yourself of why you divorced and take a deep breath. 30 years is a milestone so it is very natural for you to feel a bit sad today that it wasn't happily ever after. But not many people experience happly ever afters either.
It is ok to grieve now and then for what could have been. You had your hopes and love but people take different paths or just simply change or again turn into big Ash holes!
lecture finished. Now study what I said with care - seeing that I am always right
Tomorrow, you will feel a bit better
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Mar 13
hi cynthiann I am one of the lucky ones in some ways as my marriage survived fo 33 years bu we supported each other through somne really bad downs and a lot of wonderful ups so I look back at so many memories and I feel sad and happy too. sad I could not grow old with my hubby but God took him to heaven and heaven is better off for his great laugh and happy disposition,.
cynthiann I am one of the lucky ones in some ways as my marriage survived fo 33 years bu we supported each other through somne really bad downs and a lot of wonderful ups so I look back at so many memories and I feel sad and happy too. sad I could not grow old with my hubby but God took him to heaven and heaven is better off for his great laugh and happy disposition,.2 people like this
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
27 Mar 13
Yeah after spending all that time together, having a life together I think that it would be natural to mourn that life. I'm glad to hear that you haven't had a lot of sad days. But I think it would be strange to have a life with someone that long and not feel anything at all.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Mar 13
All I can say is it wasn't meant to be. R and you tried your best but things happen. Besides now you have a great man in your life. The kids are healthy what more do you need?
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@cuteganda (38)
• Philippines
28 Mar 13
yes ?t hard to start again. I but Life been always go on. and full of. hope
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
28 Mar 13
I can't say that I've experienced the emotions that come with divorce but I've had numerous break ups in the past. Well, I felt like I went to hell and back.. with Justin Bieber. 
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Mar 13
Breakups are hard if you really cared about the person, even if you weren't married...
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
27 Mar 13
Well, if today was your 30th wedding anniversary, but do you have been able to celebrate only 28, from this I deduce that you are divorced for two years. Am I right?
Well, though I understand your state of mind, divorce is painful, I also understand that behind this, of course there have been the reasons.
But you try to cheer you up and I'll tell you the same thing that many people suggested me when I was sad, "Think positive!"
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
29 Mar 13
Well, many times things happen in our life, and there will be days looking back when we will feel down or days we will feel happy. Personally, I think a lot of it is when we think about what might have been, or regretting some of the good moments that go along with it. But that is really the thing you need to remember and think of. Are you better off because of this, and where is your life now? If you are more happier now with things, then this was the right choice for you.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Mar 13
It's hard to remember the happy moments and at the same time realize that it's over with him. In some way it almost taints the memories or something. But yes, I'm happy and better off. it was just a brief moment of sadness.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 13
I am sorry Dawn. I know you are having a sad day today due to it being your 30th wedding anniversary yet you got divorced two years ago. Emotional ups and downs are normal after divorce. My marriage lasted just six years and I feel sad when it would have been a wedding anniversary. We got married one month before Christmas in 1994. Good luck for feeling better soon.
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
30 Mar 13
I suppose this is what life is all about where we not only get the good but the bad as well. I am happy that you do not have much of the latter which I have to say is already a blessing for you.
Contradicting as life may be but it is always experiencing the bitter before the sweet. Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it. Press on!
