Do you easily give up in a relationship?
By Harold_ks
@Harold_ks (1673)
March 28, 2013 9:27am CST
To what extent can you hold on to your relationship? What are the things that can make you decide to end up a relationship? What if you have lots of differences, since you were raised in different culture for example. I know in love we should accept our partner as a whole, and whatever negative things or weaknesses we discover on him/her, we should accept it, what should matter is the good moments you are sharing. Feel free to share your thoughts.
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8 responses
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
28 Mar 13
I believe I am not a person who will give up on a relationship easily. We can expect a lot of differences since no one in this world can possibly be exactly the same. Through difference we learn to love, If we really love a person, difference is not the excuse to give up on a relationship. I would only consider giving up if I find my partner to be in love with another or that she had an affair.
@Harold_ks (1673)
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28 Mar 13
Yes, difference should really be expected, and in response, we should accept and adjust for it. In love, nothing is impossible, despite how much differences there is.. As long as there is love, it should be continue.. Thanks for your response. Happy myLotting!
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
28 Mar 13
I always give my best in a relationship.
Differences in culture, tradition or even religion is not a hindrance to have a lasting relationship.
Because Love knows no boundaries and when there is love- nothing is impossible.
@Harold_ks (1673)
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28 Mar 13
Yes, I agree with all you have said. With love, you can always understand your partner, and accept all the negative things he/she possess. Thank you for your response. Happy myLotting!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
I really hang on to my relationship as much as I can. It gets to a point that even if I am hurting that much, I would still try to build the relationship. There had been 2 relationships before I got married. Both times, I had a hard time to give it up. But once my family gets too affected, then I really had no choice but to give it up. Incidentally, on both relationships, it took me two years before I really turned my back from it.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Mar 13
My husband and I were raised very differently, his parents were never there for him and abandoned him at the young age of 10 years old. They left the country so he had to basically raise himself.
My parents were so strict on me and my siblings, and they would never leave us alone for one night. They were very involved in our lives. We were brought up on complete opposite extreme's.
My husband and I have lost a child together, been homeless together, lived with other people, had so many financial struggles, etc... We have been through a lot together! If you want to make a relationship work you can. There are so many hardships in this life. For me, I would rather fight life's problems with him rather than without him.
If my husband cheated on me or was abusive to me those are two things that I would not stick around for. Other than that, we can work through everything else...
@Harold_ks (1673)
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28 Mar 13
That's another inspiring post. The story of your life is touching and deserves to be admired. Your relationship shows what true love is. Yes, those two things you have last mentioned are good reasons to end a relationship, other than that, it can be worked out because love is very powerful. It can take all the sufferings. Thank you so much again for sharing. Happy myLotting!
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
29 Mar 13
No I never give up in a relationship easily,I cherish every relatiohship and I always treat my girl as my future wife,unless there are something I can not handle happen to me,otherwise I will not give up the relationship.
@Dias14 (176)
• Indonesia
29 Mar 13
I think the main thing is the comfort with family. And that leads me to end the relationship if it feels uncomfortable anymore. Maybe the problem is always there, and the most prominent in the problem that is a difference. I think even though a lot of difference but if we can solve it together it will not cause divisions may bicker a bit was a natural thing.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
I don't easiy give up in a relationship specially when I am really inlove with that person unless the relationship become abusive, or he cheats.. abusive meaning hurting you physically mentally and emotionallly.. it is not healthy for a relationship to continue if it becomes abusive..
@Sherryrob1 (126)
• United States
28 Mar 13
Reasons to hold onto a relationship would depend on what a person deems as important to them.
For myself, having someone that accepts me for me without trying to change/censor me is the number one thing I look for. Secondly how we get along during the quiet moments, when it's just us, also matter because the little moments mean a lot.
Another quality I look for in my relationship is monogamy. Cheating is definitely a deal breaker to me. I know a lot of couples that are able to come back together after infidelity and make it work but I know I'm not one of those people. Once that trust is gone it's gone. I would always wonder if that person's cheating.
So in my case, if the person loves me for me, is trustworthy and we enjoy the little moments than I'm willing to fight for what we have. Everyone's different.