Do you trust your partner?
By Harold_ks
@Harold_ks (1673)
March 28, 2013 9:28am CST
Trust is really important especially in a long distance relationship. We should avoid having speculations and just trust our partners. Well yes, sometimes, negative things comes on our mind thinking that our partner might be doing something against us. But if we love our partner, we should give our trust and just pray. We should not let negative speculations destroy the relationship. It would be unfair. That's why in love I should say that we should really fully trust our partners to make the relationship stronger. What's your thoughts about it? Feel free to share.
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16 responses
@alxbritt (7)
• United States
28 Mar 13
Totally agree with you. I had a long distance relationship for a year! between me and my 'boyfriend' (at that time) were 9 hours difference. It was hard but we trusted each other. After 1 year I finally came to the US, we got married and recently we had our first baby! We've been married for almost 3 years now and we are SO HAPPY! It was worth the wait!
@Harold_ks (1673)
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28 Mar 13
Wow, success story! It's a proof that long distance relationship can really work. Thank you for sharing and I'm very happy on how your relationship had been developed. Happy myLotting!
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
28 Mar 13
I think trust is one of the most important part of any relationship, but even more if it is a long distance one. If you didn't trust them to be away from you, it would never last.
@Harold_ks (1673)
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30 Mar 13
Yes, trust is very important indeed, it should be present in a relationship especially in a long distance one. A relationship will not last without it. Thank you for your response. Happy myLotting!
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
28 Mar 13
Thankfully I don't have a long distance relationship, although my husband, a truck driver, years ago used to drive "over the road" which of course, is long distances.. Lucky us he was still home every weekend. I do trust him and he trusts me, we've been together almost 40 years and have gotten to know one another pretty well. And we're eady to get along with (I think!) and we are generally generous and forgiving to one another.. not letting small slights bother us, etc.
@Harold_ks (1673)
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28 Mar 13
Your trust with each other was really been one of the keys that made your relationship long lasting. And your relationship is one great example. To forgive is another big factor. Thank you for sharing. Appreciated! Happy myLotting!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
28 Mar 13
No I don't fully trust my partner. I learned from the past where I trusted way too much partners/friends/family and strangers. They all broke my trust and (financially) ruined my life and the life of my children. I would have learned nothing after all these years if I would do the same now again. As long as people do nothing for me or not at least equal things there is no reason for me to trust them or to take care of them. I will take care of myself and my children in the first place. It's good to doubt and to question. This besides of the fact it's proved that partners are the first to cheat on you and lie to you and we are the last to believe that or doubt them.
@Harold_ks (1673)
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30 Mar 13
Well, I'm sorry to know about the negative things you have experienced in your life regarding giving of trust. I can't blame you if you can't trust anybody right now, you're just being wiser this time I know. Nowadays, it's really hard to give our trust since more and more people are being untrustworthy and just concerning on their own sake and satisfaction. Well, I just hope everything will be fine with you and just take care always. Thanks for your response. Happy mylotting!
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
28 Mar 13
Of course I do. and he can trust me too.. no problem with that. true TRUST is one of the most basic elements in love.
@Harold_ks (1673)
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30 Mar 13
Yes, that's very important. Good thing that you can really trust each other. That would surely make your relationship long and solid. Thank you for your response. Happy myLotting!
@Harold_ks (1673)
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30 Mar 13
Yes, you can't be in a relationship if you won't give your trust. Thanks for the response. Happy myLotting!
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
28 Mar 13
I have been in a relationship for now 25 years next month. We trust each other complertely. He wouldn't cheat on me and I wouldn't cheat on him. He knows what I went through in my early twenty with the father of my children cheating on me left and right. Don't get me wrong we have had our ups and downs but its never been about another female. Just lifes problems that everyone goes through. He is my best friend and I'm his best friend for life. I could not be with a man I didn't trust. For me trust is everything in a relationship no matter if you are married or not.
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
2 Apr 13
There are two kinds of love. Love is rational. Love is blind. Love is rational means before we trust someone, we think and rationalize or else, we're the one who would be suffered. Love is blind means we trust but, we do not think, well, we just trust and that is what we called "no questions ask" -- have trust and have faith and do not think.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
When I love a person, I give my all. And one thing I try to avoid is to get jealous over crazy things which other women would do. i don't want to trouble myself in thinking whether he was with another woman or not. So, I just have the trust put up instead.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Mar 13
Long distance relationships are tough. But they can work if there is trust involved.
Trust is a major part in any relationship. Unless we have reason to doubt we shouldn't. We should always have trust.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
I wouldn't be in a relationship if I didn't trust my partner in the first place.
But anyway, when there are times when he start to doubt them, it is okay to give them the benefit of the doubt. We should use our mind when we decide to trust someone or not. Blind trust even when there are obvious signs that that partner is cheating is stupidity. Praying is good but it is important to put action as well.
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
28 Mar 13
Trust can make or break a relationship and once you lose the trust you have nothing. Relationships take a lot of work even when there is trust, so don't ever lose trust in your partner or allow them to lose trust in you because when that happens your relationship is doomed.
@Happielady85 (384)
• United States
30 Mar 13
I trust my husband and I'm sure he trusts me me. The only time I would llie to him if I felt it was something that would hurt him or worry him. I'm sure thst's how he would react to me.
@Dias14 (176)
• Indonesia
29 Mar 13
Yes I feel a long distance relationship for what it is, because almost 2 and a half years I lived a long distance relationship. Indeed, the trust becomes the main thing and the main capital to undergo this relationship. It is sometimes negative thoughts arise, for example, he did we do not know, it's reasonable means we are being tested. But do not let it bring up the argument. Furthermore, you should re-think positive when negative thoughts come.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
28 Mar 13
Yes I agree with you. Trust is very important in a relationship. We should do our best to show that we trust our partner. If we are negative towards are partner or make that individual feel we do not trust them it could destroy the relationship.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
28 Mar 13
That's an interesting question. I would say I trust my partner 100%, but I'm not naive. Better to be safe than sorry, so I'm prepared for if we break up. So I would actually have a job, and not be exposed to my partner, or have my own saved money. But I trust him 100% in a way that I always believe what he says, I'm not getting angry if he talks about other girls (not like OMG, she's so hot, but girls he met throughout the day) or talk to them, and I'm not accusing him of anything if we're not together, I don't look at the data in his cellphone and e-mail (that is so rude and unethical, yet loads of girls do it, and they think they can justify it).