Can most women not take a joke? (mini-rant)

Well... different people are different. Typically.... again, not a universal truth, but in general women are less able to take personal jabs than guys. Guys sit around and insult each other. Your fat, your stupid, your a moron, your ugly. And we all laugh at whoever has the best zing on the other, even if the other is ourselves. Women, in general, laugh at impersonal jokes. They don't take personal zings that much. Now there are exceptions everywhere, and I have of course met many brilliantly funny women, who had no problem with this at all. However, I don't think that's the problem here. From what you have described, I would wager that this girl, that's only 19, is likely still living in a fantasy world. The truth is, our culture has drastically over romanticized marriage, into this mythical fairy tale world of perfect bliss and endless hugs and kisses. Almost... kind of like a Jesus complex, where the white perfect knight in shining armor is going to have perfect love for me. Of course in the real world, where you AidaLily live, know that marriage isn't like that at all. Just as you described, even on your husbands best days, he can still drive you nuts sometimes, and of course you drive him crazy now and then yourself. This is normal, and reality as it is, without the fairy tale. It sounds to me, and obviously I'm guessing based on what you said, that your husband's jokes were shattering her fairy tale marriage world, and that made her flip out. Because obviously her fantasy can't be wrong, so it's got to be your husband that is the problem. If anything you should sit her down and tell her how reality really is. Maybe if you shatter her fantasy world, she'll have a better chance of getting, and staying, married. Unfortunately, people living in a fantasy when they marry, tend to not have long lasting marriages.

The difference between 19 and 25 is ENORMOUS. I suspect her idea of marriage is all flowers, romance and film-style love when the reality is mostly day-to-day grind. Not that that's a bad thing, of course, but most people who aren't married (or long-term involved) just don't understand serious relationships. She obviously has no clue but I'm sure she'll find out soon enough... or she'll end up with a string of divorces and will publish a book about how all men are disappointing.

Exactly! It is just too bad that she wasn't laughing that time. Maybe the joke hit her.

I mean, I would feel a bit offended if I was talking about enthusiastically about my wedding and all I got from the people there were jokes about how bad a marriage is and how effing funny their jokes are. It's like, if I'm that enthusiastic about what I'm talking about, I don't like if people tried to bring my mood down, even if they thinkl it's just a joke. I find it a bit rude, to be honest. Not necessarily because oh, it's not funny and oh, why women are treated so badly, but because if I'm talking about something that means so much to me... you get it. But flipping out this much and saying that I'm sorry for their wives. That's as lowlife as a response for these jokes could get. It's rude to tell to someone that they are horrible husbands or wives if you don't know their relationships.

I also hear the joke "married being miserable" I think it is the true joke, because when we have decide to married, we will face many problems that sometimes we never think before. Even, my nephew says that married means we have many problems in our life. yes, it is right, but through marriage we being wise people. Yes, the problems in marriage bring us wise.

The joke must have hit close to home you know what I mean. My husband and I have very different definitions of funny. What he thinks is funny I usually view as mean.

I agree with the woman who "flipped" I'd like to think that the marriage is one partnership that can be a haven for both partners. This also crosses over to husband jokes. If I would not appreciate him making jokes about me (he totally agrees!) I'd never turn around and make jokes about him either.

Well, it's so sad that there are lots of people who can't just ride and ignore jokes.

I could see her getting mad if you were all single and making fun of being married, but you are married yourself! If you didn't have a problem with it I don't see why she did. Lol. I guess everyone is different? You got me... I would not have taken it offensively. It's not like it was a personal attack against her, you were talking about marriage in general. So confused on her reaction to be honest. My husband jokes a lot about we have only been married for 8 years this year, gosh it feels like it's been at least 20! Lol, I know he's joking so it doesn't bother me. He is a smart a$$, I already know that. So, jokes like that really would not annoy me at all, I am used to my husband...