Finishing College or Starting a Business?
By AQDGVal2013
@Adval2013 (436)
March 29, 2013 8:56am CST
My friend is caught between two important urgent decision. She still has two years more to finish college but an opportunity for a business venture came up which necessitates giving up school for a while to give the business full concentration. Her parents would like her to continue and finish her course first, a course which is not even related to the business she will be managing. She herself is not anymore interested in studying but would rather study the ins and outs of the business she's determined to put up.
Would you rather obey your parents when they tell you to finish your course while your heart is not there anymore but in starting your business which you have already envisioned to be your future lifeline?
13 responses
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
29 Mar 13
THis is a really difficult decision. my dad has an optical shop and he wants me to study a degree/diploma in optometry. But for some reason when i was 16 years old, i just decided i should be 'naughty' and not listen to my paretns. In the end, i went to take a diploma in Marketing and now i will be graduating this July with a Bachelor in Business Admin. It's now 7 years later and i'm back to square one trying to apply for a bachelor in optometry again.
SO i think our parents might be right and we should listen to them so we should not waste our time and go round and round in circles. on saying that, i realise that if we do not follow what we wnat to do, we might end up regreting it. As for me, i know i had 'wasted' 7 years. but then again, if i do not follow my own path, i will forever be angry wtih my parents becuase i never get to follow my own idea.
So i think it reallyh depends. i think 7 years is too long. if it is 3 years doing something that your friend wnats to do, then i think it's fine. becuase it will also make me much more appreciative of our parents.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
4 Apr 13
Hey adval,
thank you for your encouraging words. I really hope i have made my parents proud. In fact, i think they are because i know they are happy that now i'm finally back to where i should belong :)
So have you decided?
@Adval2013 (436)
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2 Apr 13
Thank you very much for sharing your life experience. There's much to learn from that. I think, yours is a win-win situation. You learned and at the same time you made your parents very proud of you. You've accomplished much already.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
2 Apr 13
Sad to hear about your friends situation. I wonder why her parents don't realize her feelings and force her to do college. If i am in her situation i will try my maximum to compramise my parents and start my business, if they still force me to do college then i will do it for my parents sake.
@Adval2013 (436)
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2 Apr 13
Thank you for your good and safe advice. My friend has come across a golden opportunity. It's really best at this point to seek the approval of her parents and maybe, there should be a meeting halfway.
@taiwanlife (745)
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
I say she chooses what her heart says. Studying can be done at any age. Hands on into something you really like is education in itself. If one is so passionate into one thing then the commitment to keep learning on how to make it work or achieve its success is in itself like going to a university. I was told once by my professor to be more aggressive in life, in following our instincts.
@Adval2013 (436)
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2 Apr 13
Hey, that is good...I agree with you in this. Most of the time, if one finds difficulty in making a decision, choosing what the heart dictates can often give the best outcome that in the end will make a person very happy. Thank you for this good advice.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
29 Mar 13
I would finish college first. With a college diploma, the road is open for someone to have relatively nice jobs. And she can do the business venture later as well - two years is not that much of a big time. But if she takes the business, and it fails, because it could, she would be standing there with a non profitable business and without any diploma or degree.
@Adval2013 (436)
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2 Apr 13
You have a good point. Thank you for this advice. I agree that obtaining education at all costs is still unbeatable and the best decision one can make.
@wowjen15 (183)
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
I rather would choose to obey my parents and continue my study if she could not really find a way to make both things work together. Business opportunities come and go and they never really run out while having to finish one's studies is qute difficult once you stop for a long time and continue later on.
@Adval2013 (436)
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2 Apr 13
Thank you for sharing what's in your heart in this particular dilemma. It's still best, an all-time right decision, to obey our parents if it's obviously for our own good and not just for their own happiness or own agenda.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
Personally, nothing beats getting a good, quality education. No matter what happens, you will always get a good-paying job, especially if you're a college graduate. While having a business, especially at a young age, is an enticing idea, there is no assurance that The business will succeed. But I'm not doubting your friend. It's just that there's still so much to learn and risking one's education might even backfire on her in the end. It's not easy to handle a business - it requires a lot of hardwork, dedication, patience and time. It's not easy to handle and make the business grow.
If your friend is really up for it, then she should talk to her parents first before she decides and weigh the consequences.
@Adval2013 (436)
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2 Apr 13
I agree with you. Having a good education will give you the best future especially when coupled with determination and the will to succeed. You're right, parents can always understand if we talk to them nicely with all honesty.
@bobmnu (8157)
• United States
2 Apr 13
I would finish the education. I had a friend who father had to drop out of High School to support his parents. Years later he learned that to get a better job with the company required a HS Diploma and to move into a good paying management position you need a college degree.
The most important thing the degree tels an employer is that you stuck it out and completed the program and that you are not a quitter.
@francesca5 (1344)
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2 Apr 13
This is an interesting problem. It very much depends on your friends personal circumstances.
Turning down an opportunity to start a business that she really wants to do could well be a mistake, however giving up studying could also be.
So it depends how much she loses by giving up her education, can she go back? what is she studying for?
Starting a business is a very good learning experience, and if she is interested in a managerial career that could be far more valuable than any qualification, however it just depends on so much.
It also depends how upset her parents would be, and whether she will have another opportunity to start a business.
My favourite method of chosing when I had to make a difficult decision was to toss a coin and say to myself that whatever it came down as I would accept. Then when I had done it I would ask myself whether or not I was pleased with the result, and if I wasn't I would know what I really wanted and do that. However I can't fool myself with than any more so it doesn't work.
But she could write out a list of pros and cons and see how they look.
@jiiiiin (586)
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
If I were her I will obey my parents. Education really means a lot nowadays. There are still more business opportunities there when she finished her studies. Like what my Mom always told me, education is the only thing that they we can inherit from them that no one can steal from us.
@Adval2013 (436)
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2 Apr 13
Good point...nothing beats education. Indeed, it means a lot these days especially when we talk about competition. And you've mention something that makes me declare over and over...mothers know best!
@dpk_prasad (36)
• India
29 Mar 13
I personally suggest you that if You have some golden opportunity and you think that you can achieve your goal, just leave everything and go for it. Even you can learn many thing in practice.
But if your parents have negative response for it, try to convince them and if still they wanted you to study you should go with your parents. After all we do all things to make our parents happy.
@Adval2013 (436)
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2 Apr 13
You just mentioned the keywords...golden opportunities. Things like that seldom happen and it could happen to a person only once. Hence, the eagerness to do this business full time. There is a point in considering that we can be students again anytime. Your advice is good, convince the parents.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
29 Mar 13
i would rather finish school if i were in her place. businesses are closing worldwide because of the crisis so it's better that she puts her capital in a bank and continue with her studies.
oppurtunities to do business will always come and she can venture out after she has graduated. she can never be sure of her future on this. i've heard of businessmen who've gone bankrupt despite the fact that they put their heart and soul in making their businesses succeed.
i hope she will be successful but if ever she fails, she can always find work afterwards if she has finished her schooling.
@Adval2013 (436)
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2 Apr 13
You have a good point and a practical advice on doing business these days. I actually told my friend a part of what you've mentioned about businesses these days over schooling. Thank you for this.
@iamsittie (327)
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
If I were in her shoe, I will rather choose to listen my parents. At least I will not regret if one day I want to continue my course. But, before that I will find ways to do the business as a part-time. Actually for me business is a bigger opportunity than to be an employee. I do have part-time business yet I am more focusing in my studies and if I finish it I will give much time to it.
@Adval2013 (436)
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2 Apr 13
Being a good daughter or a son, obeying our parents will come naturally. At least at the end of the day, parents would have no reason to blame you if things you and your parents expected did not happen. Good point, iamsittie.