The teacher brought attention to me in by name in class.
By savypat
@savypat (20216)
United States
March 29, 2013 12:40pm CST
I am a shy person, when I go to yoga class, what i want most to do is fade into the rest of the class, but today I went to my class with a different teacher, this lady use to be my teacher until I could no longer go to her class without pain. She was surprised to see me and introduced me to the rest of the class, she told them she would modify her usual class to suit me. As if this wasn't enough she asked me several times if what she was teaching was to difficult for me. This was so painful for me, I was like a third grader who couldn't spell all the words, I wanted to sink through the floor. I have been an adult teacher for many years and would never once call attention to a student while in class. If I had questions of any kind I would speak to them outside of class. I may overreact to the attention I got and she may have felt she was joking with me, but I was almost in tears when I left.
On top of that I paid for the class just like everyone else and can leave anytime I wish. I don't ususally rant, but this felt good and now I feel better. Thanks
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15 responses
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
it is okay. maybe your new teacher observed that your a shy person. you will get used to it until your shyness totally fades of. your teacher is just motivating you for you to come out from your shell and do not be shy anymore. at least you felt good after. :)
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
Was she sarcastic when she was talking to you? Or is she just a pain in the neck ever since?
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@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
29 Mar 13
don't worry. it's good to rant sometimes. i understand where you are coming from, because i don't like being called attention to either.
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
29 Mar 13
Yoga can heal as it strengthens, and I've seen this happen many times in the Yoga class that I manage at Alamo Palms RV Park. I've been demonstrating poses there since 2006. Just this season a senior male student with a back problem told me his back was fine after several sessions. Your teacher was incorrect when she modified her class to suit one student. It would have been more helpful if she had inquired as to your pain, and demonstrated one of more poses that might have alleviated the problem for you.
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@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
29 Mar 13
No matter what you teach (let it be Maths or Yoga), you should be a nice pedagogue, not only an expert in your field. This lady is a great example for what a teacher should not ever do. This is horrible. Singling out someone and humiliating them in front of the whole class. I really feel sorry for you.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
30 Mar 13
I understand you, but a good teacher needs to know all about her or his students. Sorry you were hurt by this.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
29 Mar 13
I strongly suggest that you take this teacher aside and tell her exactly how you felt, and what she did whether knowingly or unknowingly made you feel uncomfortable and painful. I am sure she will understand and probably will be mortified that she has made you feel this way. Hopefully you can nip it in the bud, if it's not too late and you can be treated no differently from the other members.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
29 Mar 13
I can relate to the things you wrote because I am also shy and I don't like to attract attention. I have been in a similar situation and I felt really bad in that situation. I think that my teacher should have talked to me in private instead of doing in front of the entire class, but I don't think that she realized that she did anything wrong 
I guess that your teacher and my teacher aren't shy and find it hard to understand what is like to be like shy because they have no personal experience with it. I think it is possible that your teacher THOUGHT that she was helping you and that she asked you if it was too difficult because she was worried about you and wanted to you benefit from the class, but that doesn't make it less uncomfortable. I would have felt so bad if I were in your situation.
I guess that your teacher and my teacher aren't shy and find it hard to understand what is like to be like shy because they have no personal experience with it. I think it is possible that your teacher THOUGHT that she was helping you and that she asked you if it was too difficult because she was worried about you and wanted to you benefit from the class, but that doesn't make it less uncomfortable. I would have felt so bad if I were in your situation.1 person likes this
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Mar 13
I absolutely hate this kind of thing! I have always felt the same way, I want to hide and not have attention brought to me... In class I would always want to hide under my desk so the teacher would not call on me. I have never liked being the center of attention.
I don't blame you for being upset by this. I would have been too. She embarrassed you and I would have felt the same way. If she is teaching that class again I would not be going back...
You should not be treated like that after paying to go there!
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
29 Mar 13
Sounds to me this teacher could just not stand it you left her class but continued with the yoga elsewhere. Let go of it, her behaviours says way more about her as it says about you. It's not very "yoga like" either. And yes you are right! You are a customer, you pay and you can go where you like. If you ever meet her again be prepared (if this still might bother you) and do the same to her as she did to you! The fact she is teaching yoga doesn't mean she can treat you like a 2 year old!
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@moneylots87 (521)
• Indonesia
29 Mar 13
I know that feels so bad when the teacher just talking to you or bring attention to you in front of the class, that what i always afraid, in class, i am still study in my college and that like my worst nightmare, hehe... Not because of the teacher or what he/she say about me, but for me simply because i am afraid to being humiliated in front of the class, like because of my bad mark, mistakes, looks dumb or something.
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@mei_bel (34)
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
I'd feel the same way as you. I'd also feel embarrassed being singled out like that especially in a class where I get to see and be with the same people more than once. But I guess she didn't realize what she did didn't go well with you. I think you should at least talk to her about it so you could avoid that kind of incident happening in the future... and yes, I guess it's good to rant here than bottling it all in. :)
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@GardenGerty (160879)
• United States
30 Mar 13
Pat, I am totally in agreement here on this. I think what she did caused pain in a different way. I might have been bold like she was when I was younger, but as I have gotten older I have learned not to publicly embarrass people. I have not taken yoga classes but I do understand that it is supposed to calm you and center you and what she did sounds so counterproductive. I am glad that ranting here made you feel better.
