Big Problem!!

All I have to say to you is Congratulations!!! to you, and your husband you have to look out for yourself, and forget about the other guy, if company want to replace Ray well they have their reasons, for doing that, it's more money in your pocket,if Ray is out of work, there is nothing, you can do about that, I am happy for you.

Sorry and also glad to hear that. I think your husband needs to think about you guys rather than our aunts. Good luck with which ever way he chooses there. have a super weekend there.

"Charity begins at home". Best wishes to your husband in his new job!

Is your husband taking this job? Or is this job being offered to him? If it's offered it means they find him a better person to do the job. Sorry for your aunt's boyfriend but if he were doing the job in a great way nobody would think about replacing him. This besides of the fact that if your husband will refuse they will look for someone else for sure.

Wow! That is really a tricky one. Maybe you can talk to your Aunt's boyfriend and ask if he's okay that your husband will take the job offer. And yes, if you mom wants them to get out then it will be a problem for them to find a place if he will lose the job. Hmmm well.. Just like some will say, you gotta do what is good for you :) Good Luck!

I hope Ray will not have hard feelings with your husband. Anyway, it is not the fault of your husband as it is his boss offering him the job. Even if he does not take the offer, I guess his boss will still find another suitable person to take up the job.

What if the shoe was on the other foot my friend? You know Ray, if the situation was reversed, say it was Ray who was taking your husband's job, would he take it? would he be obviously worried about your husband and his family? Does he have a conscious, would he turn down the job, because of who he would be putting out the job. Only you can answer that of course, but hopefully it will make things a little more clearer. At the end of the day, you have a family to look after, Ray doesn't pay your rent, feed you or your kids, your husband does.

My guess is that if he offered your husband the job, Ray is on his way out regardless. I would jump at it if your husband would like it, because if he does not it sounds like someone else will get it. Do what is best for your family.

My thoughts on this are running two different directions. First thought: the company is dissatisfied with Ray and he is going to be out of a job one way or another. Your husband may as well benefit from it if it is offered to him. (you could give Ray a heads up, if you want to be nice). Second thought: If this company is doing this to Ray, what is to keep them from doing it to your husband at some point if they see someone they like better? Does your husband want to give up what he has now for a company that might undercut him later. Of course I would go with the first thought and take the job, relying on the fact that your husband is a good worker and the type of employee they will want to keep.

If your husband doesn't accept the job offer, someone else will. He isn't "taking" your aunt's boyfriend's job. That guy is going to be out the door regardless of what your husband decides to do. The boss doesn't want to keep him; that isn't going to change. Your husband should accept the job, and you should make a point of saving back a decent portion of the increased pay.

Um... I'm missing the problem again? Husband = good job. Some other person = lose job. Where's the problem? Think of it another way. If the company is offering this job to your husband, then clearly they are not happy with the person there. If they are not happy with the person there, then that means they'll simply offer it to someone else, if your husband declines it. A person who is genuinely excellent at their job, and puts in maximum effort, will normally not lose that job to someone else. Unless there is nepotism. Is your husband getting this job because he has family at the company, who are willing to hire him even though the other guy is better at the job? I might not go for it then. Your husband will never get over the stigma of being part of the good'ol boys network. But if the company just isn't happy with this other guys performance, and they are happy with your husband's performance... um.... Just do it, and be happy. All blessings come from G-d. Just be thankful, and do your best.

Well, look at some things here. First off I am assuming your aunts boyfriend is older then your husband. Second I assume that the job feels that your husband can do the job better then the other guy. Thats why they offered him the job in the first place. Now, looking at all that, I feel that your husband should take the job. But on the other side of the coin, what if this job will do the same to your husband. Meaning offer someone else the job and get rid of your husband. You have to look at all angles before making a choice. It sounds great for you and your husband. If it is legit and a real good job, then your husband should not feel bad and take the job. You guys are young and need this financial push. Those are my opinions and feelings.

this is great news for you and your family. i think your husband should grab this chance because high paying jobs are hard to get by nowadays. i think your aunt's boyfriend wasn't doing his job well otherwise his boss wouldn't have looked for someone else so you shouldn't worry about this. it was offered to him, right? it wasn't as if he went there to apply for the job promising to perform better than your aunt's bf.

Both you and your husband are thinking and concern for Ray is because you care for him. However, to get rid of Ray is the boss decision. If the boss is kind enough he will arrange another position for him. If otherwise, the boss will still get rid of Ray and replace him with someone else if your husband does not take up the job. Opportunity comes and go, so grab it if it is yours...

YIKES! Why is Ray being replaced? That needs to be addressed before making a decision either way. If he's being replaced because he's incompetent, he'll be replaced in any event, whether by your hubby or someone else.

I think your husband is worrying too much. As you said, Ray is going to lose his job anyway. It may as well be to your husband. From all I have read about these people, they are just plain inconsiderate and they don't seem to think about your family and they don't seem to have strong intent on leaving either.Your husband is absolutley not putting Ray out of work. Ray is putting himself out because he is not qualified for the job by the sounds of it.

The job world is not always something that keeps friendships going and doesn't always make people happy. I would wonder why your husband was offered a job that this person had. Why are they looking to let this other person go? I would take the job. It's not like you guys were getting along anyway. A job is a job and if this other guy isn't do a good job at this job and your husband thinks he'd enjoy it he should take it.

In todays world you cant worry about others, or else you wont get ahead. If he was doing his job right they wouldn't want to replace him. Your parents can still kick them out whether of their financial status. Why did they move in, in the first place?.

Opportunities like that should be taken. I think it's better if your husband should talk to the boyfriend and tell him about the situation. It's actually the management's prerogative and definitely NOT your husband's fault why the boyfriend will be replaced. At least in that way, your aunt and boyfriend won't think you're going up against them.

Your husband should accept that job. He have more skills than Ray and the employer will reward this skill with increased salary. If Ray wants to keep his job are even get a new, better one then he should develop some skills which will fulfill the needs of changing market.