Can Exes be Friends Again?

@quieley (316)
Philippines
March 29, 2013 11:29pm CST
Can two people who just broke up can really be friends again and get over the past. Isn't it hard to go back when you have been more than friends?
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@grvdubey11 (1879)
• India
30 Mar 13
It depends on circumstances of the break up.Some people get assignments in difference parts of the world or country,hence they break up as its difficult to maintain long distance relationships.Then it happens that best friends or childhood friends start dating but they treasure their friendship even after break up and hence remain friends.In above cases i mentioned its not hard to remain friends as there are not much differences.However when there are serious issues between partners and they break up then its difficult to remain friends,just for example if someone cheated on you its difficult to bear that person.
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@quieley (316)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
Before the relationship, two people know already their differences. So, if they became more than friends, does any differences make a difference?
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
I do think it is possible. Although it would take a lot of time before they could be really that comfortable with each other again.
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@Mintlin (322)
• China
31 Mar 13
haha..Jenny,i see you everywhere.
@quieley (316)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
yes, it's not that easy to break up with someone you have shared good times with.
@Mintlin (322)
• China
31 Mar 13
I believe some people they can be friends with their exes. but for me,NO,absolutely no. I do not want to involved in his life any more,he hurts me deeply,i just want to move on and looking for a new life.he's already a past.
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@quieley (316)
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
It seems that he really likes you. That kind of guy doesn't deserve any of your attention again
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
30 Mar 13
I think they can stay on good terms and be buddies, but capital letter friends? I don't think so. Their shared mutual romantic past would stop them from doing that, I'm sure.
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@quieley (316)
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
You have a point there. Since they already shared a romantic past it would be really difficult to adjust as friends again. They might be uncomfortable with each other.
@RahulRLP (178)
• India
30 Mar 13
i don't think forgetting past is so easier.... However my GF friendship again with her ex-bf, i really hurt when i see she is talking her x-bf on phone, comment/like him phot.....
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@quieley (316)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
It seem that you still love her :)
@RahulRLP (178)
• India
1 Apr 13
ya lot of... but i got angry when she talks to her ex-bf or any other guy
• United States
31 Mar 13
I believe so. As long as the relationship ended on a good note and both people understand it's just friendship. It's also important that neither person still have feelings for one another. I have one ex that I know I'll never be friends with because even though the relationship ended several years ago, he keeps believing that one day we'll get back together. i very rarely even speak to him (basically holidays or birthdays) and he always brings the conversation back to us getting back together. On the flip side, a more current ex and I do hang out from time to time and it's fine. It never even goes there because we've both moved on. Incidentally I was talking to a family member the other day who swore that a man, especially an ex doesn't just want to be a friend. But I beg to differ.
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@quieley (316)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
Yah, it's really hard if the person is still hoping.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
I'm okay to be v friends with my ex... and I actually is friends with my first boyfriend (now an ex) because we did not part ways that we have hurt each other. If I am to choose though I would not want to be friends with my recent ex because he cheated on me and I do not want him to get the idea I what he did was forgiven already so he would have to keep in mind that he should not be doing that b again to any woman
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@quieley (316)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
It must be painful in your part specially when you have invested a lot of time.
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
30 Mar 13
it can happen. It just depends on a lot of things. first of all you have to let time pass so people can move on then boundaries have to be respected. your ex can actually be a good person to talk to about your problems because they understand you. however the very things about them that prevented you from having a successful love relationship can prevent you from having a successful friendship.
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@quieley (316)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
You have a point. Maybe most of the relationship rarely see mutual breakups. So it's really hard to be friends again.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
That depends on the relationship. Some break up ended as friends and some are not. But yes, I can say that exes can be friends and it is better that way than having hatred in our hearts.
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
I think its pretty much possible. However, you should allow time to pass by before you will end up being friends again. Its a slow and painful process for some.
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@quieley (316)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
So after that very long time, do you believe everything will be the same again? as friends?