Is he on his PERIOD!?

hi PointlessQuestions I used to think that about my dad. He could get in to one of his temper tantrums and we all walked on eggshells around him.The mantra" do not upset your father". grrrrr. I used to get so fed up with that. How can anyone be teed off most of the time. I feel for you as tension is so hard on a person's nerves. I had to retreat into my own room or if the weather was nice into our apple orchard as a teen.I would sit in the shade of the windbreak trees and wait out daddy's bad mood. yuck.I can feel for your daughter and why should he be upset over her hair? she looks great. lol Maybe you should tel him he acts like he has pms. lol That'what I think of his temper.

what about nearing andropause? men who are on this stage suffer like women on manopause do. how old is he, by the way? seems that you really have a problem here. why your daughter puts up with him is a mystery. he's not an easy person to be with. if this situation doesn't improve soon you'll really be confined to your safe place for long.

I got a brother in law that acts pretty much the same. We all just leave him talking to himself once he starts blabbing. lol

Ha ha ha. I used to say the same to my ex husband. he hated me to tell him that. Always put him in a worse mood.

Oh no Pointless I left a comment on the other discussion I feel so bad for you and your daughter, there is nothing worse than living with all that negativity it would sure make me feel on edge. It is terrible you cannot feel comfortable in your own home. It would be nice to know if his parents are aware at how nasty he treats you and your daughter. I hope he is not affecting your daughter by talking about her hair she needs all the confidence and strength to get passed his comments. This guy sounds like he really needs to be put in his place. Wow if I lived close by I would let him have it.

Self indulgent bleeding selfish. He's a grown up he should know better. OK once a month for a few years our hormones take over but we are expected to control it, he's no excuse.

I've read several of your discussions about your son in law (although I haven't responded to all of them). He sounds like a spoiled brat grown up. It's sad that you have to deal with a "man" like that and sad that your daughter does. I have read that men actually do go through a change of life of sorts when they reach a certain age, but from what you've said, this is just the way he is and can't be blamed on changing hormones.

probably the colour and spending money on it. He has very little extra money right now.

as you know from the previous discussion I am dealing with my daughter. It is awful. She just ran back to the house and wanted me to sit in the car with her son while she filed a claim on-line. It was 9:30 pm and I'd already been listening to her complain. Didn't have a problem sitting in the car. When she returned I got out. She said, "thank you , mom" and I said "you are welcome". Anything wrong with that? Well there is. I was walking quickly towaard my apartment because the wind was whipping and I hear her call me a "fing btch". What??? It seems I walked a bit too fast back to my apartment as it was freezing and the wind was blowing and she did not hear me say "You are welcome". So her first reaction is to call me names. We have nights like this...not fun at all.

Is this your SIL whom you have mentioned previously? I hope that he is not being affected mentally dealing with his stress and issues. I do see a need for him to receive some form of family counseling or better still, sit in together with your daughter's psychiatric sessions. I am saying this on the assumption that his outburst is related with his inability to see certain issues within the family. I really feel for you and I hope that his outburst will not escalate into another Sandy Hook. Take care of yourself.

I grew up dealing with the negative energy when my dad would come home drunk on payday. It was nerve wacking because you didn't know for sure the mood he would be in. I would not be able to deal with such inmature behavior. I feel so bad for your daughter and she really shouldn't put up with it. It is a form of abuse. He should come home and communicate what happened to make him feel so bad. Not take it out on her since she had nothing to do with it. I can understand you not wanting to get involved but GOD forbid you put the volume up and something bad happened to your daughter. You would never forgive herself. We all claim we know people but I don't think we ever know anyone 100 percent. When I have witnessed my daughter and her husband aruguing I stay in another room and let them sort it out. However, I'm listening just in case it was to get out of hand. Just a word of caution for you.

He truly sounds like my aunt. Whenever my aunt comes in a room if she is in one of her moods you can feel it and see it everywhere. Everyone in the house just stays away from her because she will bring everyone into it even if their not involved at all... The last time I went to my mothers house where she is staying for now she started with her daughter, I was shaking so bad and my nerves were horrible from being there. I hate fighting and I hate confrontation. It makes me so nervous!!

There is a limit to how much stress and pressure one can take. I believe there must have been a lot of issues that made him so annoyed and angry. When one is in that state, he is unlikely to be able to control the emotional eruption. You have done just right to get into a room and stay there until things turn okay. You don't want to get yourself into trouble.

i am laughing so loudy now,because sometimes i am thinking some men has period time too, i mean some people are realy strange sometimes even they are men and there is nothing to be angry. women are of course sometimes so difficult but its natural ,it comes from period,but why some men are same sometimes ,its strange, i also hate tensions,i like peace and relaxing,some people are just so angry and maybe make them out of our life is the best peace.

He may be is not feeling well, but it is not an excuse to treat everyone badly. He should not be hateful to your daughter. I do not blame you for wanting to hide in your safe spot and join us here on MyLot.

Maybe he does... He's certainly in need of medical intervention of the pharmaceutical persuasion before someone slaps on him one of those jackets with the long sleeves that do up in the back.

i don't blame you for not coming out of your room for a while. just stay there until the coast is clear. that way, you won't have to deal.

I swear guys go through PMS and sometimes they're worse than a girl! My dad gets the same way every once in a while and he'll get annoyed over anything. Or maybe it has something to do with a lunar cycle or something? Because earlier today my dad got like that too. My parents were away for spring break and they came home today. He went to get the dog's food and he noticed the can we keep the dry food in was almost empty. I did that on purpose so I could use up all the food before dumping in the new bag. Well my dad goes "Good thing we came home", like I wasn't going to feed the dog or something because I hadn't opened the new bag yet. He gets so touchy over certain things like if we tell him he bought the wrong thing from the store. lol so to avoid these little outbreaks my mom and I know not to say anything when he buys the wrong thing. We've learned that if we want a certain thing, we literally have to write it down exactly or else we won't get what we want. Guys complain about women being moody but I think they're just as bad, if not worse! I hope things settle down soon at your house! It's definitely uncomfortable to be around so much tension.