A little annoyed with my friend right now...
By courtknee525
@courtknee525 (3742)
United States
March 30, 2013 8:10pm CST
When I used to work at Victoria's Secret I met a girl who also had a boyfriend in the Army. We immediately hit it off and we became really good friends while working together. Even when we both left that job and went somewhere else we kept in touch and would get together.
In December she moved a few hours north of where we live. About a month ago she texted me and said she'd be coming down one weekend and we made plans to get together and I requested the day off from work when she'd be here. She ended up riding down with her friend who was coming from Georgia and she let me know she wouldn't be here until later in the afternoon around 1. The plan was we'd go out to lunch and hang out while her friend had to go to a christening and afterwards we'd all go out to dinner. The plan was fine with me and I was excited to hang out with her since I haven't seen her.
Well she ended up getting stuck in traffic on the way down and then she said her friend wanted to go to the beach so she wouldn't be able to meet until around 3. I ended up getting my nails done with my mom while I waited and I thought I'd be the one running late for meeting up.
Well I get home around 2 and I still haven't heard from her. I go home and I'm waiting and finally at 4:30 I get the call they were just leaving the beach. She said that since it was later we could just hang out and then wait for her friend to go to dinner. The beach is about a half hour away and I was already annoyed because I had waited to eat lunch because we were originally going to go out.
So when called me at 4:30 I was really irritated because I basically wasted my whole day off waiting around for her. I was starving and I really didn't want to wait around for her friend so we could all go eat dinner because I figured it wouldn't be later on that night. I was so mad that I ended up calling her back and saying that I had to go somewhere with my mom and I couldn't meet up. I wish I would've just told her that I was annoyed about how things happened. I knew that if we met up I'd be so annoyed I wouldn't even have a good time and at that point I didn't want to hang out at all. I'm sure she was annoyed with me too for cancelling last minute and I haven't heard from her since. I just thought it was rude how she kept me waiting around all day and I didn't get a say in our plans.
Would you have felt the same way and done the same thing?
4 responses
@deazil (4730)
• United States
31 Mar 13
I would have been ripped! She left you hanging around waiting all day for what?? A late dinner? She was really rude. Did she know you took the day off work? I would have finally cancelled too. I'm not sure what I would have told her, but how could you have enjoyed yourself after all that waiting around? Totally wasted day. She should be apologizing to you for doing what she did. I think it's no great loss if she never calls you again. Her total lack of consideration for you is appalling. A similar thing happened to me once and I don't bother with the person anymore. I'm better off. I think you'll probably get some responses that are a little more on the side of understanding your friend's point of view. I just don't have any patience for inconsiderate behavior. And I'm quick tempered.
I don't think what you did was wrong. She screwed up your day and didn't seem to care one way or the other.
I don't think what you did was wrong. She screwed up your day and didn't seem to care one way or the other.@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
1 Apr 13
I'm glad you agree! I just thought it was really inconsiderate to keep me waiting around like that. I was completely fine with going to lunch around 1:30, hanging out, and then going to dinner. When she said her friend wanted to go to the beach, I thought she could've asked to be dropped off to meet me first and then her friend could go to the beach after.
I'm glad I decided to go with my mom to get my nails done or else I would've been even more annoyed to know I would've had time to go before she got here and I didn't go. By the time she called I was so mad I was practically in tears. To me it was just really inconsiderate to act the way she did. Unfortunately, I'm seeing a different side of the friend I thought I knew so well
@deazil (4730)
• United States
1 Apr 13
Your last sentence struck me. I've learned in all the years I've known people that you really never know anybody. If somebody had told you before this happened that she would do this to you, you'd have said "No, never". I've seen a different side to a lot of people, either from my own experience or other people's experience. You just never know anybody. It's called live and learn.
And I'm glad to see everybody else agreed with me. Whew. 'Cause a lot of times I over react.
And I'm glad to see everybody else agreed with me. Whew. 'Cause a lot of times I over react.@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
1 Apr 13
I never would've guessed she'd keep me waiting around all day like that. I guess I should've known because one time she said she'd call me to do something later in the day and finally by 8 pm she called me.
But I didn't think she'd do something like that since she was coming down for the day. We had been excited for a few weeks to finally hang out again. I thought she had considered us really good friends because we're both in the same situation of our boyfriends being away in the Army and we understand what each other is going through.
Lol I was hoping everyone would agree with us too! I didn't want to seem childish for doing what I did but I was just so irked I didn't even want to hang out with her anymore. I'm still waiting to hear from her and to see if she just forgets about the whole thing or if she asks me about it
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
31 Mar 13
Oh, I have some friends like this. I hate it when I make an appointment with somebody, I prepare the food and clean the room, and they just don't come, and sometimes wouldn't even call or text me in time saying "Sorry, I'm late" or "Some unforeseen obstacle came".
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
1 Apr 13
It really is annoying when people are so inconsiderate like that. I should've known something would happen when I found out she'd be coming down with her one friend. Her and that friend used to be roommates but then both of them moved. They've been good friends for years and as much as the girl annoys my friend, she still always goes out of her way for her. I just don't understand people like that and I don't like to be bothered with that at all.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
31 Mar 13
I would have been mad too! I hate when people think the world revolves around them and we can just wait for them to want to hang out with us...
That was really wrong of her to do to you, especially since you took the day off from work! She does not sound like a good friend at all.
I don't blame you for being annoyed at all, and your right if you went you probably would not have had a good time anyway...
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
1 Apr 13
Yeah I was so annoyed because I totally wasted one of the two days off I get a week. I'm glad I chose to get my nails done with my mom real quick so my day wasn't totally wasted. It was just really inconsiderate of her to do to me after we had been planning to see each other for a few months. Even though she didn't drive herself down and didn't have her car, I thought she could've handled the situation differently and told her friend to at least drop her off first because she was meeting me.
I was disappointed we didn't get together because we always have a good time but I know that after waiting around all day I would have been miserable and annoyed the whole time so I just saved myself the trouble and cancelled on her. I didn't feel rude for cancelling after she made me wait around all day for nothing. I still haven't talked to her and she hasn't talked to me. I'm not going to make any effort to get in touch with her, I'm going to wait for her to say something to me.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
31 Mar 13
Hi Court. I think your friend read between the lines. She knows you are annoyed. I would know and take the hint. I don't blame you. The excuse was fine and believable. I might have just said forget it, I'm fed up now. But you did fine and maybe still have her as a friend.
I just think she was incredibly rude in putting you off.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
1 Apr 13
She probably figured out I was mad. She texted me after I talked to her saying "So I can't see you at all today?" and I just said no I had to go somewhere with my mom. She also asked if she could see me next time she comes down and I only replied with "that's fine". I'm sure she got the picture because I normally don't text such short responses or I'll put a smiley or ! to show a little emotion. The only thing I wish I would've done was tell her flat out that I was cancelling because I had to wait all day when that originally wasn't the plan. It would've been different if she had said I'll meet you at 5 and we'll do something. I just thought it was really inconsiderate and I was really let down by her.
