taking vacations with in-laws

i love my in laws, but don't get me wrong, there is a time and place for everything. i don't blame you for wanting to just vacation with your family. it would make me angry if we had to do everything with them all time.

Maybe that is what you should do plan a trip just for your family and go and enjoy yourselves.

My father in law is no more, my mother in law lives alone, her sons don't live with her, my wife is her only daughter, so when ever we go on vacation pilgrimage etc, we take her with us. Thanks for sharing.

I think you just have to be comfortable even though they are there, because its your too vacation duh.. do whatever you want.. let them do their own thing. try to enjoy yourself even though they are there. if your your brother in laws wife is that annoying well make sure you annoy her first before she did! just kidding, I mean just never mind them, and if they say something negative because you look rude, then just don't care too . I'm not saying that you have to be like them, but hey they ruin the vacation that you and your hubby planned long time ago just because of them.

I think that since you want to spend a vacation with your family alone, your husband would want a vacation with his family as well. Maybe that is why he invited his family to go with you and your family so you two can both have a vacation with your and his family. Well, that could be the reason if I wanted to make things uncomplicated Actually, your family and his, can be considered as ONE FAMILY. But of course, they say we can't choose our families. It is also the same with we can't choose who the parents or relatives of our husband's are. They can be really irritating sometimes especially if they come uninvited and are invading our privacies so I understand how you feel. I live with my inlaws so I know the feeling. I am always thankful every time there would be an upcoming long weekends or vacations because I can ask my husband to just spend those days with my biological family. Whenever I arrive at my parents home, I am very happy and relaxed. I can do or say whatever what I like. I am very confortable unlike when I am with my inlaws' house. I do not know if it is right but I have learned to just be true to myself. If they are going somewhere and they invited us, I would let my husband come but I will just be staying at home. I just say that I do not want to go or I don't like where they are going. I think it is the other way of saying, I do not want to be with them. I know that some kind of rude but I do not want to torture myself anymore. You know how hard it is to be around people that you don't like. Well of course like you there are reasons why I feel this way. There are actually so many to mention. From hearing them referred you as other people from not paying a huge amount of money they borrowed from you years back. In fact, if someone would ask me if my mother in law treated me as her real daughter, I could answer in a straight NO. It also hurt me so much whenever I see how my mom care for my husband whenever we are at their home. Every now and then, he would always asked my husband if he needs something. If he wants coffee, my mom would even asked if there's a specific flavor that he likes. She would be the one to serve the coffee to my husband and would asked again if he needs other things. Seeing how my mom treats my husband, it really breaks my heart hearing and seeing how my inlaws treat me. But my mom would just say to ignore it. She said sooner or later, we will become at ease with each other and will learn to love each other. But as of now, that is far from reality. Maybe you can talk to your husband and tell him straight how you feel about it. Tell him you wanted to spend this vacation with your biological family alone. But of course, you should be open if your husband would ask the same request from you.

I think what you're feeling is pretty normal. We love our in laws, but there are times that we just want to enjoy being with our own family only. It is more relaxing and less stressful, plus you can actually really have fun and let loose without them around. I don't know but the in laws sort of have this unspoken message that one must be on their best behavior because even though they're still family, they are not family-family. You get what I mean.

They are okay but I prefer to only have my family with me. I have tried it already and there were some 'irritating' episodes. Everything was fine in the end but it would rather avoid having them again in the future. I do not think I am being selfish, and I don't think you are being selfish too.

I also feel that way too sometimes. Although, i am just lucky that my sister-in-law is kind and i am in good terms with her. Sometimes, it is good to bond with in-laws but we really also need a time solely with our own family.

I would not like to have a vacation with my future mother-in-law. I mean, I like her... we're not likely to be best friends ever... but I'd like to have vacations with my boyfriend only now. I really wanna have a private, intimate trip with him. Fortunately, it looks like we can go alone :).