I Don't Need You In My Life
By jonastabuena
@jonastabuena (2307)
Philippines
March 31, 2013 10:48pm CST
I loved my significant one with out no limitation and unconditionally, i loved the whole being of her, her past, her faults, sort comings, bad attitude, all that she has.
I heard a lot of things about her, people around her and around me is telling my that she only fooling me, i don't believe what they say, because i want to see with my own eyes what they're telling about my significant one. Though i noticed that she only needs me if she want me to buy something for her, or she ask money from me. I don't really mind actually when i comes to money, because for me its only money and i can find money if i want too, the fact that i have a stable job. You might ask why she is asking money from me, actually she is a student, i want to her to have a bright future i said to her that i will support her studies financially, what i'm doing is known to her family and my family also. Graduation comes, i pay all her fees in the her school, then i told her i will attend in your graduation day, she just reply " okay if you want to" that's what she say to me. She actually don't invite me attend her to her graduation, i'm just the only who decide to attend. I had my second though, so i called her i will not attending on her graduation because of sudden business trip.
But our business has been cancelled and i decided to go home the day before her graduation, i want to surprise her, i did not call to her that i'm going home to witness her graduation. Then at night i decided to visit her, as i'm approaching to her house, people around are murmuring others are laughing, i wonder why? and there! My girlfriend was shocked i was behind her while she talking to a guy with my same age, and they are at the back yard of their house, i wonder why they are at almost dark area that no can see them because of the shades of the trees around them. As she sees me she is speechless, her eyes wide open, i know what is happening behind, i don't want to argue because i'm tried of travelling and tried of things. She approach me but still not talking. I don't want to make the situation hard for us, i just said in a very calm voice " I don't need you in my life" i turn my back and walk away.
Until now she is trying to call me by her mobile phone, but i just ignore the call, just yesterday i blocked her number to that she can't call me anymore. Enough is enough, now the gossip that i heard is proven. This happen last March 18, 2013 and her graduation day is March 19, 2013. The pain is so fresh until now.
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13 responses
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
1 Apr 13
Sorry to hear that.. Are you sure you are making the right choice? make sure you know what you and your heart wants. You may lose her forever...
@jonastabuena (2307)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
I'm sure of my decision, she know what is right and what is wrong, just a little respect from her, she can't even give it to me, because of what she did, i'm very much sure that she don't love me, and she is just taking me for granted. I don't want her to make a choice, it is very obvious that she don't love me or not contented with the love i give to her.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
1 Apr 13
Im sorry to hear that. I wish you all the best in finding the right person for you. have a great week there. Good luck !!!
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@jaizhi (260)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
Hi Jonas,
I would feel the same way as what you are feeling right now if I saw my man in the same situation as your girl. But just like what you said, they are just talking not kissing or hugging or what not, what if you are making a wrong assumption of what you see. If she really is flirting with this guy, why would she still try to call you? just to say sorry? I don't think so. I think it only means she loves you and what ever you saw that day might have a better explanation. Sometimes we have to isolate the gossips from our own judgement because it will cloud our decision. You've only sited the time you feel neglected when you called her about her graduation, but what about the other days that made you believe her and not the people gossiping about her. Sometimes gossips are also called unsolicited advise because it doesn't do you any good. What if the reason why she was shocked is because she really thought you wont make it to her graduation?
Try to have a descent last talk with her at least to clarify everything and to have a final closure. Would you forgive yourself if you let go of her and later on find out that you let her go because of your wrong judgement? The pain will be fresh until you have had it in your heart that what you saw was real and not something you presume to be... remember this saying "looks can be deceiving" and sometime our eyes only sees what it wants to see.
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@jonastabuena (2307)
• Philippines
2 Apr 13
There are so many places that they can talk, like inside her house, and then why are they talking in a dark area? they can talk in place where many people can see. I don't want to talk to her, for i don't want to hear more lies again. As i said in past reply on my post, she do this for 3 times now. I forgiven her on 1st and 2nd mistake, but not for the 3rd time. Doing the same mistake again and again. And this time i don't think she deserve to be forgiven by me. javascript:__doPostBack('ctl00$cphMainContent$lbStart','')
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
1 Apr 13
So sorry to hear that the rumors were true and you saw this for yourself. I love what you said to her though. That was a great line and not to argue for mature of you. I think you have to realize its best that you found out before she took you for all your money. She was only using you, and you had to know that when she didn't invite you to the graduation. She is now calling you to probably say she was sorry and hoping you take her back. However, you were just a meal ticket for her and you deserve someone better then that. Someone who really loves and cares about you as you them. You will find that special someone one day when you are not looking for them. It happens all the time. Good luck and God Bless.
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@jonastabuena (2307)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
Actually that time i suddenly had mental block i don't know what to do and should be my reaction , and that's the only words i had in mind, even me i'm shocked of what i saw, the feeling is different because it was actual and i'm even prepared of that kind of situation. That's God i was able to control and compose my self.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
1 Apr 13
It's really not cool to hear that and I was wondering why she did that to you and I think what you done to her is right cuz you deserve someone better. Life is long and sotimes we meet wrong people but you learned at least. Just cheer up and things will become better. Have a nice day friend.
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@jonastabuena (2307)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
Thank you jricky1, now i will focus on my work in order to move on easily, and i don't want also my work to be affected about what had happened to my relationship, i know that there is some one who really belongs to me, i should wait for the right girl, i don't want to search anymore because maybe i fall into a wrong person again.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
1 Apr 13
I understand your feeling now, but should you think again about your decision? you know she loves you or not and you should care about what the others people talking about her.
If you ensure that she doesnt love you, she just loves to get money from you, then leave her is a wise decision.
with the time, the pain will be gone. I wish you all the best...
@jonastabuena (2307)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
Thank you ryanong, actually it was her 3rd time now that she is doing kind these to me, i forgive here at first and second, and its the 3rd time now, i think this is enough. Making a same mistake again and again. It only proves that she don't love me. She is just after on my money, for financial support.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
1 Apr 13
I am sorry to hear what you have been going through with your girl friend. Probably she is not having a deep feeling for you as yet. If she is she will surely would want your presence during her graduation very much as you have been supporting her and is the nearest to her!
I believe some rumours are true and it is good that you witnessed it yourself. It is better to have a clean cut off then dragging on with uncertainty. If she is matured enough and sincere with you, she will be able to diffrentiate between love and normal friendship.
Well, it takes time to heal for sure. I hope you are able to get over it soon and look for a better love that suits you if you have make up your mind. Do not dwell in the past than you will be able to walk out from there sooner!
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@jonastabuena (2307)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
Thanks guys, as i read your reply to my post, now i know that my decision is right for me and to my girlfriend as well, i know its hard on her part forcing to love me, even he love other man. Maybe the time for us has ended. Wish her good luck and hope she happy now in her life. Need to work now. Again thank you all.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
11 Apr 13
You can only give someone so many chances, before you have to throw in the towel, life is too short to be with someone who doesn't value you for the person you are, relationships are about honesty, respect and loyalty. Why do you need her in your life? Your discussion speaks volumes and I think you know the answer to that and just want reassuring.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
I am so sorry that you are in pain. Well, maybe it was really bound to happen. It may be painful now but hopeful you can gain strength from this and will help you be a much better person for your next love.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
I am sorry to hear about what happened. I hope you were able to find about this thing the soonest so she has not used you for her own advantages. But it is a good thing that her true feeling was already exposed and am glad you are able to accept it. You have done so many good things for her yet she tried to cheat you. I hope you will find the right girl for you on the right time. I believe that sooner or later, she still needs to pay for all the bad things she has done to you.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
Were you sure that she was cheating on you with that guy? Indeed it is suspicious and maybe it's better off to break up with her.
It appears that she needs you because you are paying for her education. Maybe she doesn't love you as much as you love her. After all, she is young and is still a student. She has a lot going on in her mind.
It's a good thing that you break up with her, I think. It's pointless to keep loving someone who don't love you just as much.
Just be careful who you trust and who you give your money too. If she loved you truly, I think she wouldn't ask so much money from you and look for money on her own.
@Alisatan (190)
• Hefei, China
1 Apr 13
This is a great loss to her, not you. You will find the special one finally. But she will feel guilty if she did have conscience, at least she lost the one who can provide money. I just think if you want to take back the money which you have given to her.
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@alisalin201314 (113)
• China
19 Apr 13
i think you need to talk with her face to face,give her a chance to explain the whole thing.
