When they get angry, they must make others angry,too?

You understand interpersonal relationship so well! So impressive and so enlightening, thank you Squallming, it's like you major in psychology or something:)

Thank you for your nice suggestion, but she was angry mostly because of the promise she made to help a neighbor with something at that night. She promised, but she was not willing to do that. She owe her so she feel obliged to help her, no matter how reluctant she is, it's a must. But I believe if I cooked the supper, she would not be that angry that night.

My mother is really emotional sometimes, but she is very loving and hardworking in nature, and so is your husband, I believe. Just try to avoid making him angry, and if the anger is not because of you, try to talk to him, or encourage him to solve the problems with their friends. I hope our loved ones can be affected by our disposition and attitude.

Somehow I find myself unconsciously influenced by my parents. The way they talk, argue and behave to each other and to other people, the way they abreact their feelings and so on. I should really learn how to control myself, too, and keep from those negative influences.

Yes, you are absolutely right. She was acting that way partly because she wanted somebody to help her, and partly because she has to pour those anger and discontent out. I tried to help, but it was bad timing, she was already in a huff, and refuse to talk to anyone.

Yeah, but I think this kind of people need some real talk about it, or they need to read more, learn about self-control, things like that. As for their family members, we should try to understand them, and since we cannot change them, we can change our response, so as to alleviate their anger.

Awww...you sound like such a good daughter. I was a single mom so until my girls got older I just did it all....just remember how tired i'd get and yep...grumpy too. And trust me, as my girls got up into their teens, they did help but there were many times I'd get out of work and they'd have created such a mess...ugh. I'd be so so grumbly about it. I was just plain tired and looking back, should of been a bit more patient too. There is always two sides and somewhere in the middle is where the answer lies. I do think it is really cool that you were able to kick back and see another angle to the situation and be so thoughtful about it. So many people are unable to do that. It's a good trait. ps...thanx for BR.

Thank you for being so patient and such a good listener. I think when I was complaining about my family members, there is also some responsibilities I should take. Actually I should share the chores with her and my father, but I thought at that time that two persons are enough for cooking. I was acting selfishly, though I was occupied with my own business. Thank you for sharing your experience as a mother. It makes me see the thing in a different perspective, and I kind of understand my mother's behavior now.

Oh the "digging" thing is really annoying sometimes! Those events are past, and people still talk about them, it makes no sense. Just let bygones be bygones, people...

Indeed! And I am just her favorite person to vent out all her disappointments and angst in life! I hate it everytime coz it would mean trouble for me to get a restful sleep.