So tired of people saying "when are you having another baby??"

This mentality of the society drives me crazy. You have to get married and have babies only because this is how the things should be! Theses kind of words usually come from older persons. I am finishing my studies this year. Because I studied for 6 years I had to listen to this kind of comments every year: "OMG! If you finish your studies at 26 years when will you have time to get married? When will you have babies?" These kind of comment are so annoying. Who says that I have to do that? Maybe I want to travel around the world all my life. Maybe I don't wanna go with the "sheep flock"!

This is the reason why I hate small talk. The matter is personal and even if it is a honest inquiry, it's technically, out of bounds. I bet you tell that that you won't have children anymore but they will ask the same question the next time they see you.

Just tell them you are not going to have another child anymore. If they asked again why, you don't need to answer. You don't need to explain to them. What is important is that you and your husband have talked about it. Other people are just opinionated without really thinking first. They are thinking that if this approach became effective for them, then it will be effective to you as well. Of course, only you and your husband will decide whether you want another baby or not. There are many factors to consider before having a baby and some just ignore it making the baby's future at risk. It is nice that you look after your daughter's future. If they asked again, asked them back why they are asking. That is effective sometimes. They will come to their senses and realize that they should not be bothering themselves over something that isn't theirs at the first place. I am married for almost two years now and still praying that I will conceive the soonest. Many people, friends and relatives, even those who aren't that close to us would ask me this big WHY which really breaks my heart everytime. Well, I really wanted to have a baby but the thing is it is hard for me to conceive. I am trying my best, doing things that they say would help someone to conceive fast, but unfortunately we are not successful. Whenever people would ask and would give their unsolicited advice, I get really hurt and became more stressed. They don't even know how we feel or what we are undergoing. So I just try my best not to focus on what they say because they really aren't helping at all. I try not to stress myself about what they say because that is not good for my condition. Whenever people would asked, I just asked them back why they are asking and why they want to know. Most of the times, they stopped asking.

me too, i have one child and i've learn a lot in the last 5 years by taking care and raising her, it is not a joke to have a child in this world. it is a lot of responsibility. even with one child, you can feel the burden..most especially with 2 or 3,.it takes a lot of time, and money to provide for the children..and some people think you should have 2 or more children..it is easy for them to think and say it. but in the end, we should not please other people but only listen and decide what is best and right for us.,although it is normal for us to get affected by what other people around us are thinking and saying about our life and situation. just go for what makes you happy, it is your life so just go for it.

People by nature are like that.. they are very much interested with the life of others..In my case, people keep on asking me when I get married since I'm in a marrying age..almost of them and almost everyday..sometimes I'm tired already to answer thier questions about my life..

Hi Kemak, I think your child too young if she has brother or sister. She still need your attention in her growth and development. I think it is a good idea if you wait up to your baby go to school and she wants has friend to play. Currently, I was pregnant for my second child, my first child was 10 years old and she needs friend to play so I decide to add child in my family. Now, I am 38 years old, and I think my pregnancy is the last in my life. Have a nice day.

We are in our early 20s and engaged but been together since high school and everyday people will ask if we not having a baby . We keep telling them no not now , we want to enjoy our life together and each other first before adding any extra to the party .

i know a lot of people who have wanted a million kids and ended up with one because it was so tiring. this isnt a decision to be taken lightly or to be made by anyone else. if you feel like your one angel is enough, then they are enough. remember though that when kids have siblings you are off the hook for a few things even though you are gaining the extra responsibilities of a new baby again. they can play with each other and honestly, in my mind, having a sibling is a great thing for a child. even only one sibling can make a different. what has your husband said about this? are you two now on the same page? if this is the case you should just start telling people you dont want anymore kids and you are happy with the one you have. that its more than enough for you and your life. i dont understand why other people feel like its their business to ask you this. it could be as simple as a conversation starter - i know i use this question for moms when i am out of small talk. you just need to grow a spine and tell people the truth - that its none of their buisness and you dont want more.

I can understand the pressure that they give on you and I think that no one should be really be making a big issue. After all, you can access very well how you would do and what you want to do. Some people just think that having more than 1 kid can make a family a lot happier. You know better, just don't get affected.

No one should tell anyone else how many children to have. That is personal choice. No one else's business or choice. I am sure it gets annoying to hear all the time. Everyone tells us why didn't you stop at two? You had a girl and a boy there was no reason to have another one... It was OUR choice to have a 3rd child and everyone else should mind their business. But they don't. Just ignore other people, if their not happy with their own life they will try to control yours. That is how some people are...

Can't blame you at all! Some people just like large families whereas 1 is meant for you. Better to have a small number and do it right than more for the wrong reasons. Many of our nations top leaders came from small families and they turned out all right. Sometimes I would get that question too and I would say, "I'd rather keep it here." as two is enough for me. I can give them time, encourage them, and still enjoy life. You'll be all right. :-)

That is really frustrating.Both of my sister's have kid's and i'm 22 with no kid's and people are always asking me when are you going to have kids? or teasing me saying i am running out of time.I honestly don't want kid's because i'm sort of tired from watching my sister's kid's which i babysit all day almost everyday.I hope you are happy with whatever you end up doing :)

Aggravating? Down right irritating! I was married for 5 years, all that time it was 'when?'. Finally we said 'ok'. We wanted a daughter, but had a son. No problem, he was healthy and adorable. There was NO WAY I was doing it again, Steve agreed. It was bad when we had none but worse when we had one. I used population arguments and conservation stuff, it made no odds. It seems the whole world thinks you need 2, 1 will be 'spoiled'. Sorry, but what does 'spoiled' mean? One is fine. 35 years ago I had Paul, he isn't spoiled, he works hard lives with his GF spoiled? shee

How ever many children you have is your choice and no matter what you choose you should be happy and not worry about what others think. Me and my husband have 3, and we are pretty sure we are done, but then my mother in law pipes up and tels me we have enough, kind of makes me want to have another haha