He Wants Me to Have an Affair

Hi, Jenny. How have you been, my dear? This is the exact line a male friend had said to me when I told him my frustrations about my husband's fantasy. He too couldn't understand the way his mind works. Yes, like you, Jen. I feel awkward about it. I'm a one- man -woman and I can't simply comprehend why I should make out with someone else other than him... Hay naku... Men, they are too complicated...

Let's not waste our precious time thinking of people who does not show any concern to us. Life is too short to be sad. It may be hard to find another person, but that can only tell. For the meantime, enjoy your life! have a great day, dear!

the idea is pretty weird but what's more weird is the inner desires of one itself.

to be honest, I've felt the same when I was un married, but after marriage I just turned quite conservative, leading a quite ordinary husband wife life. But the most annoying thing was she was fantasing it as the eurekka's husband thinks. So I guess it pretty comes with both the genders. I've caught her quite a couple of times dancing with strangers at the local bar and flirting with some over the phone.

Besweet,thank y0ou for dropping some lines here.:-) I also give merit to my husband for telling me about his fantasy. At least, he has been honest with me in this sense. However, I told him that I am not into this nor I'll be able to be soon. He seems so into this and there's just no other way to stop him. I get so frustrated that I have to say harsh words to him only to make him stop bugging me about having an affair.[i][/i] He said that some couples are doing it and is ok with it. Unfortunately, he found the wrong person in me to get to do it. I do believe in exclusivity, too. For the sake of my children with whom I have an obligation to raise decently, and for the sake of my own sanity, I will never do it unless I am willing and ready. Yeah, he said, we will consider other options where we can explore and have our adventure. But I don't know much how to...

Hello, Angelpink. :-) That's what I thought at first. He needs a professional help. But he is my husband and all men and even women have fantasies. Though his is awkward and not comfortable in my part, I do respect that he has that and appreciate him more for telling it to me. I have no problem with that until the day when I told him I can not and he just won't stop telling to keep on trying to look for someone I can make out... This trully pisses me off I , too, believe that women should and must be respected by their spouses. We should be treated like we are a precious gem (because we are). Unfortunately, husband seems to not understand how to show respect properly. But, heck. I will not succumb to his desire... Thank you so much Angelpink for sharing your thoughts about this topic. It is greatly appreciated. Have a great day.

Hi, Sid. How are you, my dear? I'm excited seeing you've commented here. You're one of those respondents who can put things on the spot. And after reading your words, I aj absolutely right. I mistook you as a man before, right? I must remember that you are a woman.:-) You have spoken the truth, this ain't my cup of tea and for whatever reasons my husband have, I'll never do this because just like what you just said it is definitely compromising my conviction. Very well said, Sid.

Lelin, I guess, one way or another men have that extreme fantasy. It is for the sake of adding excitement to their life and trying to enjoy what life is offering. I'm trying to understand my husband but then, I can do it. Just like you, I have told him about this so many times that I get pissed already every time he brings up the topic. I get irritated listening to it. He told me, however, that if I don't like it, we might as well forget about it. But, heck, he wouldn't stop talking about it. Have a great day ahead, dear.