When we hate someone, even his love will irritate us---

Sometimes when we are deeply hurt by a person, no matter how much he apologizes, forgiveness will not come to our mind. But time heals all wounds , so they say. Thus, there will come a time when you will already feel that you are ready to forgive.

Hi yes you are right . When we love our friends we expect the same love trust and honest from them too this all happens unknowingly. But when they misunderstand us and ill treat us we feel very bad so much that we cannot forgive them. It takes much time to forget all those pains. But slowly we do forgive them. All the best.

As I have said many times I may dislike people or things but the word hate does not exist in my vocabulary! I either like or dislike people and things but hate is one emotion I won't waste time in I have learnt a long time ago that hate is a waste of our inner self and there fore to our own happiness! to forgive is great! but remember whom hurt you once may hurt you again! so do forgive but never forget!

...but, do you know that once you start loving the person you hate the most, you can become the best of friends for life? Love and Hate are two sides of the same coin and once you start going to the other end, the options are endless... I have never hated anyone to such an extent so I am not sure how things would go on for you guys. Trust is hard to achieve in such cases but once achieved, it becomes so strong, that it becomes difficult to break it now.

What could be more painful is the pain inflicted by a very close person. That is why we do not feel the love that we used to have for them when we are mad at them or when they have hurt us. But if you have a very forgiving heart, you can make amends and try to rebuild the broken bridge and start anew.

hi, roshigo. when the wound is fresh, touch it and it'll start bleeding again. as time passes, we are only left with scars to remind us where once there used to be wounds. nobody is perfect. once, in the heat of an argument, your friend hurt you and he's sorry about it. it is important that we apologize when we realise that we have UNCONSCIOUSLY hurt someone. it is a different matter if we do things with the intent of hurting others. i wouldn't accept apologies for this. if you still consider this person to be a friend, someone worth having beside you, then you should make peace with him. we all make mistakes. if we were the one who made them unintentionally and we are not forgiven, it would hurt us too.

Personally I think that is why many times the Bible teaches us to forget and to forget and to Love our enemies, even they are wrong to us. Many times I have found myself getting mad with someone and not wanting to talk for them for a bit, and later coming to them and talking with them just because I have too, and many times finding it was not worth the argument. There are others out there I could never forgive until they choose to want to come to me and apologize as well, and use everything against me. But you never know. I think no matter how long the time, in time life does have a way of reversing itself.

i would forgive him.

I would have to disagree because true love cannot irritate. Disputes between friends are common, although there is no need to use abusive words. If my friend apologized, I would definitely forgive him. It is very easy to be friends with good people. But to be friends with an abusive person is very difficult. However, I feel that the abusive person needs the light and guidance of a good person. Otherwise, he would always remain abusive.

my thoughts are if one gets the feelings hurt or say things bad and you disagree it stays with you for along time and is on your mind..the tongue needs to be controlled. it makes one change and see what is inside of a person..sometimes they call it a loose tongue. that is where a best friend becomes just a friend but sometimes the best friend can be the worst enemy..just try to forgive accept the appoligy and be kind but keep your distant and that way they will try harder to improve more.. we all say things sometimes out of anger and really do not mean it except at that time.. . depends on what was said and if too harsh then mention it and discuss and leave it as I forgive at least try and go on with your life as maybe or maybe not ..just mention things can change and over time you will be more aware... just make sure little words do not stand in the way of happiness...

We are not free of bugs. We made mistakes and we will do them. It is our experience here. Which is very expensive for us. Everything possible to forgive. (even betrayal) If are sincere repentance. The most important thing is, so I think it is inside our moral inside, as high as life to cherish. (without any bad habits) If anything thinks otherwise, as friendship is not welcome. I think so.

Forgiving is good for the soul, but remember the lesson you learned from being hurt so that it does not happen again.

Not all relationships are perfect. All will have a few problems. That need to be dealt with.

Love the tree, love the branch, or love me, love my dog, the old proverb does may sense...

I think you have to forgive every thing what bad happened between you and your friend. Friends always fight and say sorry the next day. This is life. There are so many issues we face every day with friends, family and neighbors.

roshigo, I don't use the word "hate" and I don't like that word... for me it takes to much energy to hate someone...Its just such a strong emotion..there are things that I dislike but I refuse to give anything or anyone that much of my energy...If you really believe that your friend is sorry for what he said, then its a good move to forgive him for his mistake...remember we all make them...

I think it is better to have a forgiving heart so that we can live more happily. Holding grudges and hatred in us is also very unhealthy and it is a silent killer.

It's always right to have a friend rather than an enemy. since he has realised his mistakes and apologied to you, you should forgive him.

To be angry is to punish oneself by other's mistake.--by Kant.

I agree you should forgive your friend, but never forget the lesson it taught you!