My son told me he wants a step dad............

That's a tough one. I mean to find someone who love and would love your son too is going to take a lot of prayers and many trials and errors. He must miss a father figure in his life but talk to him of the pitfalls as there are many. probably his Dad said something to him that he has yet to tell you. Poor sweet boy

First I have to say that you have a good son)))maybe you take care of him alone is very hard, and so he want someone to take care of you and so that you will feel easy and happy)))what the most happy thing to your son is you to be happy and just like he said that he loved you)))So if you are lucky enough you should find a right man which can love both you and your son very much, this would make you happy and when your son see you are happy and he will be more happier))) congratulation for having a so smart and excellen son and bless you to find the right one soon)))

Sounds like a tough situation to be in hearing your son say that. How old is your son?

I know the feeling, though I am single parent since the day I get pregnant. Just talk to your son, and let him mingle with your father or your brother to stand as his father for the moment. I hope that would help a little for his longing of having a father figure. I am so glad and bless that my son was never mention to have a father coz he grew up with my father and his uncle around him to stand as his father figure.

Do they have a big brother program there? It would be hard at his age, I can see his point. The big brother program is where men in the community do things with the kids, like take them for lunch, programs, bowling, anything. It's for kids who don't really have a father figure.

I am sorry to hear that. He is indeed hurt. I believe he will get back to school soon? By then he will have more friends and company. Let him do some stuff that keeps him busy. I am sure you assure him of your love for him. Getting someone who loves him may not be easy. I hope you could work out something for him.

Oohhh, that's just really sad. Was he close with his dad? How old is he? That's somehow traumatic because seems to me he needs a man for support. If he's close to his father, then maybe they should spend time. My brother and sister-in-law have separated as well, they have 2 wonderful kids and they do try to make their lives as normal as can be. So my brother takes them half the week to our home while the sister-in-law takes them during the half. They still even have family dinners and movie outings together (with both parents present). Like them, I guess you and your ex needs to be civil enough for your kid. Remember, the child didn't choose a dysfunctional family. So he deserves to have a normal life as much as he can. Have a great mylot experience ahead!

When emotions rule our lives, we become toys in the hands of life. We call it fate. It may not be always our faults that lead to separation after marriage. Here, your son needs the affection of a father. His friends talk about their fathers. He also wish if he gets such a father. We adults can think about children living without both mother and father, but child can't. Try to spend more time with him. If all the circumstances are unavoidable, try to become a mother and father to him. One of my friends had only mother. His mother was so daring and independent that proved with her life that father is not required to her children. You need to be bold, daring, caring like a man at least some times in a day while spending time with him. Good luck to your new role!

Hola Maria, You have a big problem there. But your son is old enough to realise that stepdads as in a fairytale are not to be had. Even real dads are not the best dads in the world. Tell him that he will see his own dad when you both move to Las Vegas. I have seen apparently good stepdads, but it is not so easy to love someone else`s child as if it were their own. I`m glad that your brother is there. Evenn if he is not there much, there are things that have to be talked man to man.

This is sad but one can't go back to their ex if there is no love there. It only ends up hurting the kids more. I did it and sure regret the day I did.

concern son :) i know you'll manage to select the right person for you, i suppose. i hope it is just okay with your son to wait for a right man to come in your life or shall i say, is there any good man now you love well, good luck and pray that your man will love your kiddo and be like a father figure for him.

Hi maria. That must have been very tough for you to deal with. Well what is the age of your son? It is not necessary that only husband of mother can be a dad to someone. It is actually the things dad do that makes them dad. You can ask your brother to lend you a hand in that. He can take his nephew out for some men's time. May be after that your son will not miss not having a dad that much.. Anyways have a nice day !! SuperShames

Hi Maria I have been putting some thought into this situation and I seen another discussion where your ex and his girlfriend broke up. This is just merely a thought but through the boys eyes could he be hoping that you and your ex may get back together (even if he thinks you may never) by him asking about a step dad it just makes me wonder if he being a young boy still has the hopes of you two getting back together? Just my own thoughts Maria.

I am so sorry to hear about your son. I know, he wants dad. It is normal, because maybe all his friend has a dad. It is a good idea if you give example to him about other child who has not a dad and they are okay with their mom. If it cannot make him accept, be patient...friend. It will over when he was adolescent, because he will know about marriage and divorce.

I know that your son is hurting right now after his dad split up from his new wife. He, your ex, is a hopeless idiot and you are well rid of him. I think your son misses having a father figure around. I am not sure that he really wants to have a step dad. I believe he will feel happier once the news have sunk in totally and been accepted. Good luck to your son Maria.

Aww! I know that it pulls at your heart strings to hear things like this. I am so sorry. I hope that things all work our for the two of you! Hugs to both of you.

I kinda know what you son feels since I don´t have my dad for all diferent reasons but I always want that figure near me again. It´s a very hard thing i wonder girlie do you want to get him a step dad ? I think you 2 need to talk about what both wants and what is the best. He does have lot sof corouge to talk and say that to you he must be really hurt with whatever it happens with his dad,

You have such a sweet son. I know he is just missing to feel the care of a loving father. If nothing is hindering you, why not give him a step dad?

Awww. At his young age and innocent mind he can say that. Well, I think is he hurting whenever he saw a family with daddy, mommy and a baby, a complete family. Talk to him and tell him that your just there and can act like a father too.

whow!how sweet you're son?.but true he needs a man of his life.I think you need you're father to stand as a father in you're son and make to understand to his.That not easy to find right man in you're life