I help you ...I'm your slave !!!
By Eng92nina
@Eng92nina (19)
United Arab Emirates
April 2, 2013 1:34pm CST
Hello there..
I'm nina and this is my first discussion
i wanted to write about helping othrs because i usually do that daily in my life
well the probelm is why do others when someone help them they think that they would not mind ..will ofcourse i will in my free time
but Noo ..most of them just come and say what they want
so tell me is it right to keep quite and do what they want or shall i reject helping them ??? but how??
4 responses
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
2 Apr 13
hi, eng92nina. if you're busy and cannot extend a helping hand at that moment, you can always tell that person that you'll attend to him when you're free.
if you really cannot/do not want to help, then tell him outright that you're sorry but you can't help him. it is better to be honest about it. in this way they won't bother you in the future.
@Eng92nina (19)
• United Arab Emirates
2 Apr 13
well I think you are right but maybe they will think that I'm avoiding helping them and that mostly happen with my classmates
and they then they say that i have changed ..so what to do ?
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
3 Apr 13
you have to be honest with them. you have responsibilities and you have to attend to these before you are free to help others. if they cannot understand this, then they are not really good friends. they just want to be friends with you because of what you can do for them.
@goduvayur (1)
• Hyderabad, India
13 Sep 13
There are so many ways to help. You can try to help poor kids who can't afford for good education, for them also you can donate the books and pay fee etc., at school etc.
Old age people for whom no one is there to assist for their small jobs to be attended outside their house to them also you can lend a helping hand.
This is only an example. Do it and get yourself satisfied.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
2 Apr 13
nina,
Welcome to myLot.
I think you are being very sweet in wanting to help everyone, but keep in mind sometimes people will take advantage of you.
When appropraite, tell them you'd love to help but you are busy right now..or that you can help then later, but don't be a slave to anyone. Some will appreciate your efforts, others won't. That's just life...the ones who don't appreciate all that you do, need to learn to respect your time..
@Eng92nina (19)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Apr 13
that is right ..I see most of them call me when they need something from me
and that is wrong..I think I should not be close to them because they are always changeing and thank you for your comment it really helps ^^
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Apr 13
My husband and I help a lot of people all the time. BUT we have learned that sometimes it can go too far and people will take advantage if they get the chance to. It is good to help but we also have to make sure we are not letting helping get in the way of our own happiness. :)
We have been taken advantage of too many times. Now we are more careful who we help and if we just cannot do it for any reason we do say no, sorry I can't do it this time.
Once you set boundaries with people, helping is a wonderful thing to do!
@Eng92nina (19)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Apr 13
I agree with you because there are some people act infront of you thatthey are poor and need your help but they think badly and we should be careful when choosing who to help ..
thanks for your kind words
^_^
