Trying Not To Be Robotic
By jayceeg1987
@jayceeg1987 (293)
Philippines
April 2, 2013 7:03pm CST
I tend to be so troubled if my friend or family requests something that I can't do. So what I'll do is to still find a way to accomplish a request, even if it sometimes take too much time and effort. But doing all those make me somehow feel that its too tiring, I start to feel like I am being a robot waiting for a command. Am I just being too kind?
4 responses
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
Learn how to say "no". If you really can't do it, it's better to refuse it than to disappoint them. I had that attitude when I was young. I though I can please everybody but turned out that I can't.
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
4 Apr 13
So true.. Sometimes I end up just disappointing them.. Specially when I said yes to something, then they expect and in the end, no matter how hard I try I still fail to do it for them. Very disappointing.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
4 Apr 13
I was expected by my aunts to graduate early so that I can get a job but until now I'm still an undergraduate. That was also a promise. It didn't just disappoint them, the promise also disappointed me for making that promise to them. Whenever I think about it, I feel guilty. That was a pretty wrong move.
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
I see. Thanks for sharing your experience. Mine is more on the little things I do everyday.. just simple requests that I can't do because i do not have enough time.
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
12 Apr 13
If you cannot do it, you can tell him the truth. The truh will set you free. It is difficult for us to do things if we are so tired or if we really cannot do it. Explain to them in a nice way and I think they would understand.
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
Thanks for the advise. I am honestly having a little difficulty changing this habit of mine. I hope that I can master this art of pleasantly saying "no" in time. Thanks!
@arizen (152)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
I think you have to start practicing saying no. Your gesture started with kindness and being dependable, but there is a limit to everything. You have to make those people think twice before asking you for help. Or you have to make them consider your situation first, before asking your help. At first, saying no to them will be new for them, but in time, they will get used in trying to do things by themselves first before trying to solicit anyone's help. Remember this, when you say YES, make sure you are not saying NO to yourself. You are kind, but you also have to consider the long term effect of doing things for them. You cannot be around them forever trying to fix and accomplish things, right?
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
thanks for a very nice advise. i will try to do that and learn to be firm when i say no.
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
3 Apr 13
One thing we can do is respond to the request when we have time since it is our friend or close one asking. If we do not have time certainly they will understand. When we do respond we can pick and choose how much we will put into this. It does not always have to take a lot of time for each and every request I would think.
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
4 Apr 13
I agree. Short and quick requests are my favorite orders from them.
