helped one of my office person by lending him some money....
By subhojit10
@subhojit10 (7375)
India
April 5, 2013 8:44am CST
Recently, when i was chilling at home, i got a call from one of my office person who takes care of office matters like kitchen, records of who is coming n leaving our office, etc. The moment i answered his call, i could feel some panic in his voice. Actually he wanted some money urgently and was shying to ask for help from me. Besides he had asked our boss for money many a times but he had always forgotten his request and hence he thought of asking me for help. Without asking the reason of his urgency i agreed to help him and he thanked me and asked me to meet him at the office in the evening when no body i around and i met him and gave him the amount.
What i felt after giving him the amount is that he had that faith in me that he asked for help when others have turned down to help him. Even one of my colleague was unable to help him as she was new to office and she also had very few money with her. So she could not help him, i am sure otherwise she would have helped him as well.
What are your thoughts about this guys? Have u ever helped someone monetarily? Please do share your thoughts!
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12 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
What you did is admirable. You may not known just how much that amount must have meant for your co-worker. I am willing to help anyone who comes to me for as long as I have the money to spare, there is no problem.
I wouldn't want to be the cause of something tragic if I refuse someone in extending my help.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
10 Apr 13
@jenny1015-
Thank u so much my dear friend for those words, yes even i felt that i should come into the picture and help him as he is not earning earning properly like us. i am so glad to hear that u have your hands open for everyone and it is very rare to have people like u who r always ready to help others. Hats off to your spirit and thought process.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
Thanks, subhojit10! It has always been a dream of mine that someday, if I have lots of resources, I would never hesitate to help people in need most especially the elderly and the abandoned children.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
6 Apr 13
Hey subhojit,
I'm proud that you actually have the faith in the person to lend him money. However, do you know him well enoguh? and how much is teh amount.
becasue there are many of us here that are unwillign to lend money to our friends because we are afraid that htey won't return us the money. You are very generous and i hope that office person that you had lent money too will be grateful :)
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
10 Apr 13
Thank u my dear friend for your kind words, yeah i know him personally and that is the reason why i helped him financially, not much amount, i gave him only twenty thousand bucks.
yeah i know there are many people around us who r ready to ask for help but in the end they forget the help we had given us, i hope i would never come in contact with them.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
11 Apr 13
Twenty thousand? What currency are you referring to?
exactly, there are people who only look for you when they need help and these are freinds that we do not wnat to be in contact with :)
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
12 Apr 13
Well i am talking about the Indian rupees or you can say 37 dollars. But the person whom i have helped has been working with the organization from the very beginning and i have observed this person to be kind hearted, innocent and pure from the heart and that is the reason why i helped him.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
7 Apr 13
I think it is good to give money to people who need it when they need it. I think most people who wants money are shy of helping and most probably will ask to people whom they can trust and sure that people who care for them and will not use hard words. I think most probably one of the reason that the person asked you because he was able to trust you and know that you are a nice person. 
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
10 Apr 13
Yes dear u are absolutely right, he asked that amount to me because he had faith trust and confidence on me otherwise he would have never asked me regarding money. i am also glad that he felt that i am competent enough to be trusted by someone and hence without much ado i helped him financially.
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
12 Apr 13
Yes, I have helped a few people monetarily. it is good to be of such help. Often, most of us think of only receiving help. we never try to help others because most of us do not know the joy of helping. We only know the joy of receving the help. But helping is actually far more jyful than being helped. Just the thought that a persn is now more relieved because of my help is too good a thought.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
18 Apr 13
Yes you are absolutely right, the joy of helping someone cannot be expressed in words especially if that person is in dire need of someone who can help him or her to come out of certain bad situation, it is a human tendency to expect help from others so in the same way we should also be ready to help others and do not let them feel alone or alienated.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
a lot of times, i have to say! 
well, there are times i was fooled and the borrower didn't pay.
it is a nice feeling to have helped somebody but we also have to be careful as it could be an opportunity for others to swindle because we are 'so nice'.
well, there are times i was fooled and the borrower didn't pay.
it is a nice feeling to have helped somebody but we also have to be careful as it could be an opportunity for others to swindle because we are 'so nice'.@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
12 Apr 13
Yes u are absolutely right, it is good to help others but it is really bad when we allow ourselves to get fooled by others, there are cunning people around who try to persuade us with their sweet words just because they know that have a kind heart and once they r done with their jobs they vanish. so we have to be careful while dealing with them.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
10 Apr 13
Yes i am happy that i helped him financially, i could feel that urgency in his voice so i decided to lend him money, at least he will feel happy and would do his pending works that was stopped due to lack f money. Since i knew his before it was possible for me to trust him in this matter.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
You are an admirable person. You help without judging whether he can pay or not.
I am sure he will forever be indebted out of gratitude to you even if he has paid you already.
I would do the same too, because i know that he is in dire need.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
10 Apr 13
Thank u so much my dear friend for your lovely words, u r absolutely right, i could feel the urgency and need for money in his voice so without thinking about anything else, i decided to help him out so that he can get his work done, i do not know whether he would return me the money in the coming days or not but i want him to remember that there was someone who has helped him when in need.
@imaging_1 (64)
• United Kingdom
6 Apr 13
When everything or anybody refered to money, it would always turn out to be a bad thing. Because it's so sensitive and most people care money so much. So many stories tell us that friends come to enemies because of money. So in my opinion, if the amount is small, I would consider lending some money to the one who need help. But, if the amount is huge, I would probably refuge, and this also depends on the people who borrows. To reliable and close kith and kin, that would be different.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
10 Apr 13
Yes dear u are absolutely right, lending money is not a small issue as it involves your hard earned money that we cannot share it with everyone, besides unless and until we know that person whom we are lending an amount it is not possible to help them financially, since i knew him before so i decided to help him.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
6 Apr 13
When I worked overseas, there was this one staff referred as OB or 'Office Boy' who basically does menial duties. He became so friendly to me as it seemed I was the only one who never asked any menial help from him. I am used to make my own coffee or copy and file my own documents. Others asked him as far as fetching lunch or supplies for them.
One day he seemed more preoccupied than usual and when there was a chance to talk he told me that he needed money to pay for his little brother's school tuition. He did not directly ask me to borrow some money, but I had a feeling that he was contemplating the idea. He seemed like a nice hard working boy, but I did not really know him well enough to feel comfortable lending him money.
I suggested to him to talk to HR Department and to request an advance of his salary or something. I also gave him whatever cash I had on me at the time to help him raise some fund for the tuition. Lending and borrowing money often cause problems in relationship. I try to avoid that as much as possible.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
10 Apr 13
Yes dear i can understand what u were trying to say through your response, lending money or helping someone financially is not bad but sometimes it does affect your relationship that might make u feel weird, i am glad that u talked to your higher officials to help him and u also gave him some amount that u had so that he would not feel guilty later on.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
6 Apr 13
Hi,
You are a nice person. You thought about that person and helped him. You have done a good deed. I have also lend some money to a student of my wife who is very honest. His money was stolen by someone. He works on the construction of building. His employer has given him money to make payment of other workers but someone stole the money. So I gave him money and said to make the payments. He is always ready to help us.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
10 Apr 13
Aw, thank u so much for your kind words and even i am glad that u are a kind hearted person who is always ready to help others, besides i am happy that u helped that student as he wanted money urgently, it really feels good to help someone and see that bubbling smile on their faces.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
i have lend money so many times with different people but i make sure that they will give it back to me... if i can help and i have some extra money then i will help specially if i really know that person is needy or it is an emergency.. helping someone makes me feel good.. but i have this one workmate that borrows money from me and she only returned half of her borrowed money and i never heard from her since then because she is resigned already... and because of that i am now more careful on lending some money..
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
10 Apr 13
Yes dear friend, u are absolutely right that we cannot lend money to everyone unless and until we have that assurance that we would be getting our money back on time from that person, besides it always feels good to help someone and be a reason for their smile and happiness, but i feel extremely sorry for you as that friend of yours has not paid yet.
@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
6 Apr 13
actually i am kind of yesman,i can help anybody who asks me for help
i try o support people and try to be with them when they need me,but if the topic is money,its diffirent
its not easy to trust people avout money especially if you dont know personally or for a long time
so me i dont give rental money to the people that i dont know much,
but if i know the person for a long time or she-he is my friend ,there is nothing to worry about
happy mylotting
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
10 Apr 13
yes u are absolutely right, even i find it tough to say no to someone especially if someone is asking me for help, besides i did not think for a while when he asked me for money but as u said, even i feel the same that we cannot lend money to everyone as long as we do not know that person, i know this person from a long time so i helped him.
