how do you deal with impossible relatives?

Hi, We always try to be good with everyone in our life. But some relatives are so irritating that they become headache for us. We also don't invite such relatives who are troubling us. But some are so shameless they don't need invitation from us. One of my friend behaved with us so irresponsibly that I didn't invite him again. I invited him and his wife for lunch. After waiting for long time I made a call and ask what was the reason for being late? He said that he forgot my invitation. He was enjoying lunch with his parents and wife cooked many food items to welcome them. So I told him to come to my house for dinner and help us to finish food prepared for them. My wife served them only that food and not fresh food.

I have a couple of relatives that embarrass me. One likes to hit up people for money on FB. Then will post things about how she got a tattoo, or went and bought a bunch of new animals. I mean it's like if you don't have money for gas and rent don't go buying things you don't need! It's just embarrassing, especially when she posts it in a public place for all to see. She also feels the need to talk to my friends, and it's like I just want to pretend I don't know her! I hardly talk to most of my relatives. No one bothers to come visit me. I'm perfectly ok with that. My favorites are the ones that try to give you advice on subjects they have no room to give advice on. Like parenting, or relationships. I don't want parenting tips from someone who has an unruly child, nor do I want relationship advice from someone who can't stay in one! I think the only family I have much to do with are my parents and siblings and by default my nieces and nephews at least the younger ones. I have a niece and nephew older than me, and I have a few that are just a few years younger than me. I am quite glad no one decides to stop in unannounced. My BF's family has and plan to stop in on occasion, but that doesn't bother me. I find them less annoying than my own family, which is sad. Although we don't see his family much so that may have something to do with it.

That could be part of the reason I live in Puerto Rico and my family members all live far away. There is nothing more annoying then family memmbers staying with you and creating messes that they don't clean. Making unnecessary noise and for sure a family member that you can't trust. For that reason I have only had my two daughters and their family stay with us at one time. My husband has said many times I don't want anyone staying in our house because he likes to walk around comfortable and with guest here he can't. That is why if we go to visit relatives we stay at a hotel never in their homes. We don't want to interfere with the routine of a family memmbers household.

As in the song "to dream the impossible ..." make your relatives possible by teaching them a good lesson. Use the direct approach by telling them to do their worst at home. They'll take a second look nest time. Another kind of pesty relatives to add to your list are the kins who borrow money with sweet promises to pay promptly but never. We were just victimized.

I completely know how you feel. Many of my relatives drive me nuts. The way I deal with it is I just don't visit home a whole lot. My job has me living on the other side of the country. Also in very extreme cases I'll even avoid answering my phone. The one who has me avoiding phone calls likes to tell me what I should do with my life, I need to get married asap, and makes speeches about how I shouldn't be racist using horribly racist words.(the racism isn't intentional they are just very old and not aware of the current socially acceptable terminology)

How do I deal with impossible relatives? Well, I simply don't. They're impossible, so why waste time dealing with them anyway?

If that happens to me, i won't go out of our bedroom. That way, i can't see what they are doing.

I just don't stay close to my relatives as well as friends who are like the ones you stated. I looked for ways that I can't come near them. In my house, I don't usually invite them. Once they do things that I don't like, they will become unwelcome in my house. I guess, I consumed all excuses already such as I have this and that and go there and here... So many excuses until they will stop asking me for them to come to me or invite me.

I dont !!! I just leave them alone, and even ignore them.

i always set the rules in my own home and those who come over to visit are wary of me so they never try to overspend my patience. some relatives of mine can very well identify themselves with the abovementioned groups however most of them refrain from doing so in my house. i have no control outside the walls of my home so if i don't like some relatives, i don't mind them at all. except during unavoidable family get togethers, i try to stay out of their way.