At Least I Know Where He Slept Last Night!

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All these recent discussions re physical abuse and cheating partners resurrected a memory about a friend that happened nearly a dozen years ago. I was recently widowed when friend's husband had a heart attack. He had not been faithful to her and was physically abusive on many occasions but for some unknown reason, she stuck it out. I visted her but she did not appear to be overly concerned and then the husband died. I helped her with the funeral and she did appear to be remarkably composed and I put this down to shock. She was actually on a high. And being a good friend I wanted to be there when she eventually broke down and cried and grieved for him. For another unknown reason she decided to bury him in the garden. Now this too was a shock as it was mainly, but not necessarily, only the very poor who would bury in a garden as they could not afford to buy a burial spot in the cemetary. But as I was still carrying my husband's ashes to work every day and putting him on the filing cabinet, and then taking him home at night, who was I to talk? She's in shock, I reasoned. I was in shock too but hadn't realised it. The day after the funeral I decided to go to her as this can be a dreadful day as friends are gone and she didn't have family. I will go to her and give her a hug and perhaps then she will cry, I thought. She needs a good friend who understands her grief. On reaching the house she was dressed to go to aerobic class. She had on a black leotard and a white thingy worn over it and she looked so good. Now I was in shock but kept quiet. She apologised but said she had to leave as she didn't want to miss the class. As we left the house she walked along the path and then stopped at the husband's grave. Now she will break down, I thought. This is the moment when she will want me to comfort her. She took a few steps, paused and looked again at the grave and said,'You bi*tch you. At least I know where you slept last night'. We continued in silence to her car. Nice outfit you got on, I said. Is it new? Yes, she replied. You noticed that it is in black and white. Ah yes, I said black and white because you are in mourning. Has anythng like this ever been witnessed by you?