At Least I Know Where He Slept Last Night!

@cynthiann (18602)
Jamaica
April 6, 2013 8:13am CST
All these recent discussions re physical abuse and cheating partners resurrected a memory about a friend that happened nearly a dozen years ago. I was recently widowed when friend's husband had a heart attack. He had not been faithful to her and was physically abusive on many occasions but for some unknown reason, she stuck it out. I visted her but she did not appear to be overly concerned and then the husband died. I helped her with the funeral and she did appear to be remarkably composed and I put this down to shock. She was actually on a high. And being a good friend I wanted to be there when she eventually broke down and cried and grieved for him. For another unknown reason she decided to bury him in the garden. Now this too was a shock as it was mainly, but not necessarily, only the very poor who would bury in a garden as they could not afford to buy a burial spot in the cemetary. But as I was still carrying my husband's ashes to work every day and putting him on the filing cabinet, and then taking him home at night, who was I to talk? She's in shock, I reasoned. I was in shock too but hadn't realised it. The day after the funeral I decided to go to her as this can be a dreadful day as friends are gone and she didn't have family. I will go to her and give her a hug and perhaps then she will cry, I thought. She needs a good friend who understands her grief. On reaching the house she was dressed to go to aerobic class. She had on a black leotard and a white thingy worn over it and she looked so good. Now I was in shock but kept quiet. She apologised but said she had to leave as she didn't want to miss the class. As we left the house she walked along the path and then stopped at the husband's grave. Now she will break down, I thought. This is the moment when she will want me to comfort her. She took a few steps, paused and looked again at the grave and said,'You bi*tch you. At least I know where you slept last night'. We continued in silence to her car. Nice outfit you got on, I said. Is it new? Yes, she replied. You noticed that it is in black and white. Ah yes, I said black and white because you are in mourning. Has anythng like this ever been witnessed by you?
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@allknowing (137552)
• India
6 Apr 13
I cannot believe this is a true story. The only thing is why did she call him a b..i..tch!
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 13
Why did she call him a B..i..t..c..h? It is a term used on the Island for both men or women. why don't you believe it is a true story? That I find hard to believe. The lady is now married and living in Canada
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 13
Oh, it is just an expression? Gotcha!
@allknowing (137552)
• India
6 Apr 13
That is how one expresses shock cynthian when such things happen in real life.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Apr 13
You have some really amazing stories! I really don't blame her after all she went through. I have never witnessed anything like this.
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• United States
6 Apr 13
My favorite story is still the one about how you fell into the freezer at the store.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 13
I can only tell that one in public after I have had a drink. I suppose it is the unexpected that makes it funny. I mean it is not as if I woke up that morning and said, I lnow what I will do today. I will drive to town to the supermarket and fall into a freezer. Karma takes over and stuff happens
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 13
I have lioved a long time anf when you live long you just about experienced everything that people can do or say. Thought of it this morning after responding to a post and just had to share. It was so funny
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
7 Apr 13
She had the right idea anyway! LOL....I probably would have planted some catcus on the grave just to spite him. I haven't had anyone do anything like that....but she did what felt right to her!
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
7 Apr 13
Yes, she had to pass him as she left and entered the house. Revengeful a bit porobably. But he was a brute and she had made the decision to stay as he was comfortably off as they say. She has since remarried and is happy. But every time I think of this I just laugh
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
6 Apr 13
You might like to look here: http://youtu.be/5anyValstHU. About minute 6.24!
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
6 Apr 13
I thought that you might like it. It is one of my all time favourite series. I had an aunt very similar to Audrey!
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 13
Actually, I watched the whole episode and it was so good and funny but especially liked the time that you gave
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 13
So that made it extra special to you. I used to tell my children when they were teenagers that my ashes shoud be scattered at a particular shopping Mall - thus ensuring frequent visits from my children Forgive me - am just giggly today
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Apr 13
Would be illegal here to bury somebody in the garden. Somehow I think getting out of the marriage would be more rewarding, but to each his own.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 13
They don't dig and hole and just plant them. They have to be puty in a vault undergrpound. Still cheaper than paying for a plot. You now that women stay in a marriage for many reasons. However, she remarried and I last saw her about five years ago and she was happy
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Apr 13
Yep, you don't know why anybody stays in a relationship unless you're in it. I'm glad she's happy now.
• Canada
6 Apr 13
Oh Cynthiann What a great story and very well written I may say. I have experienced this with friends who lost their parents and I was shocked they did not grieve the way I did for mine. I suppose everyone has their own reasons like your friend her grief would of been more while her husband was living because he was a cheating rat, and I can understand for her to have relief as she said she knew where he slept I suppose in many ways her life would be more peaceful so I really understand this story.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 13
I do understand where she was coming from as he was a womaniser and had no intention of changing. I'm sorry, but I did laugh and lauughe again as I posted this morning
• Canada
6 Apr 13
I laughed too and I very much enjoyed reading it I also laughed at the part she called him a you no what! I read further down that she is married I hope she truly is enjoying her life she deserves it.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 13
Yes, she is happy and settled. I did see her about five years ago. His brother bought the house off her so someone is still looking after the first husband's grave
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
6 Apr 13
Nothing to compare to this one but I have to say..you sure do know how to tell a story. I love it!! Black for the mourning and white for rejoicing her new life?? Its perfect.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 13
I am just an old story teller of Irish blood.
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@lilybug (21107)
• United States
7 Apr 13
I can't say I have ever witnessed anything like that before. I guess she could finally rest assured that he was not out messing around.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
7 Apr 13
She married again a few years later and is very happy now.
@artemeis (4194)
• China
7 Apr 13
I feel that she's more relieved than shocked and happy than sad. In my country, there are a lot of women living like her past - living in silence, with abuses and miserable is quite common in our culture. Afraid to speak up for the sake of reputation, family and most of all children. Thanks to education, the internet and protection law, women now are much more courageous.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
7 Apr 13
Yes, she was relieved but also a tinge of payback? Abuse of women is better in my country but when I first moved here it was quite prevalent. Some women felt that a man beating them showed that they were loved! Abuse cuts acrooss the clas strata as women in society are also beaten but this is their trade off for the fame and money that their husband's earn
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• United States
12 Apr 13
I've never witnessed someone having that sort of reaction. However, I think that your friend was right in how she responded. I'm hoping that her current marriage is a far happier one than that.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
12 Apr 13
The last time that I saqw her about five years ago she seemed to be very happy but we have never discussed that bizarre day
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Apr 13
Though I will admit that there have been a lot of crazy things that I've experienced in my life, I have to say that I've never heard of anything like this, but you definitely did give me a good laugh about this one. Now one of my friends is not a faithful person at all and I could just picture his "girlfriend" doing something like this to him if he were to pass away while they were still "together." I could hear her saying, "You b*****d at least I know where you were last night!"
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
9 Apr 13
I have to tell yhou that everytime I remember this I still laugh. a classic happening
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