What is the Best Time to do Merry

April 6, 2013 9:42am CST
Hello friends what do you think about merry. what is the best age to do merry, I think 27 - 29 is the best age to do merry and another thing is that at the time we are not able not find our dreams job till that it is not good to merry. My Father and elder brothers want that i should merry now but i am not able to understand them. What do you think about merry what is the best time to merry according to you?
15 responses
@succeednow (1633)
• Singapore
7 Apr 13
Hi anujkumar, To me there is no such thing as the best age to get married. One can get married at any age as long as both parties find it suitable. Of course if you want to have children then it's better to get married while you are still able. Remember mother nature waits for no man (or woman). Just my thoughts. Have a happily married life!
• Singapore
9 Apr 13
Glad you agree with my point of view. In the meantime keep searching and who knows a fair maiden may appear soon! Have a merry day.
9 Apr 13
Thanks a lot succeednow! But i am not going to marry soon, yes you are really right whatever you think about it and really we should marry when we are ready to do that...
@mulgeta (32)
• Ethiopia
7 Apr 13
I think the best time to merry for females is between the age of 20-25 because this is the best to give birth.And as age advances the incidence of many congenital abnormality to the child will increase, for example down's syndrome and money other chromosomal abnormalities.
9 Apr 13
Yes mulgeta i am agree to you but in short age it is very difficult to be stable and get married ..
@sissy15 (12290)
• United States
7 Apr 13
I think when it comes to marriage it's not really age that needs to be considered as much as maturity and commitment. I mean there are some fairly young people that are mature beyond their years, and there are older people that are very immature. I mean most of the time I would say it's crazy to get married under the age of 20, because in most but not all cases the maturity is not there. You need to be at a point in your life where you are ready to settle down. You need to be ready to fully commit to someone else. That means finding a person that you love enough that you consider their needs and wants just as much as your own. I am 26 and am still not married. I'm in a committed relationship with my boyfriend we have been together 4 years and have a son together. We are not married mostly due to money issues, but when we do get married I am pretty sure I'm ready. The point is that you need to love your partner and know you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Too many people get married and then later decide that they don't want to make it work. When I get married I want it to last as everyone does I guess, but you need to be ready to work through things and not just give up. It's easier to say "I'm done" and just give up than to work out your differences and work through things. When you know you're willing to put the effort into make a marriage work and know that you are ready to withstand almost anything with your partner then I would say that's when you know you're ready, and that matters more than age. If you're not ready for any of that then I don't suggest getting married yet.
9 Apr 13
Hi Sissy i am really appreciate you for your thoughts, it is good for us before get married to understand to each other, What everybody want and whats the feeling of each other.your suggestion is really appreciated and we should not get married tiil the time we are not fully prepared for that, you are very happy to live with each other without marry, it is really amazing for me and i also want to spend some part of my life like that but really i am not lucky as you because my country does not allow me to do the same and also my culture. I want to go european countries and i really like that culture, It is my dreams to go the countries like candada and USA for spending some part of life in these countries but till now i am not able to go to their.I hope i would visit...
@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
7 Apr 13
It's like a calling for me.. Hear what's your heart is saying.. marrying is a lifetime commitment, so it's only you who can decide.
9 Apr 13
Yes Really it is but i want to know about yours, about the world people what their feeling and what all thinks about it...
7 Apr 13
for me, no set age to get marry because it's building a new family see to it that you are ready emotionally and financially to secure yourself and your future family and most of all your happy. You can easily know when you meet the right person and everything is possible without thinking the age
9 Apr 13
yes really agree but it is not good to get married in most aged, but in today's it is difficult to get a good career in short age and it is not a good sign to do marry if we are not settle...
@misjoseph (162)
7 Apr 13
Marriage is something that must be consider serious because it can't be class as a game. to time the best time to get married is any time over 30yrs once you have found someone whom you really and truely love and this person love and accept you for who you are, someone who you can prove and see that is there for you and will stand by you and for me as for the age the thirtys will be good that is a time you have really prove who you are getting married to.
9 Apr 13
Hi misjoseph, You gave the right definition, I am really happy after seeing your message, Really we have to prove to whom we are getting married first and then we need to marry.Marry is a metter of life and everybody want to marry for living happy beautiful life and if we would not be happy after married then what is the benefit of that married life.....Thanks a lot...
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
Age doesn't really matter when it comes to marriage, what matter most is you must be financially and emotionally stable, if you marry you have great responsibilities to you wife and to your children, you must see to it that you support what they need, like good education, shelter and food. Like you, my parents and my grandparents were forcing me to get marriage, because they say that i'm not getting younger, i said to them, okay then i will get married but you will be the one you will take the responsibility to my family. I'm 35 years old now, but still single and enjoying life of being single, good thing for the boys they can marry even they are 40 to 50 years old above, unlike to girls, its difficult for them to marry if they reach that age. For now a days as i notice most aged guys is looking for younger girls.
9 Apr 13
Yes you are really right jonastabuena, I am satified with your answer actually there are lots of responsiblilities after marry and we should be finanicially stable before marriege otherwise we can not enjoy our life, Being single is really Good for boys and we can enjoy a happy life, but after marry if we do not have enough money then we can not live a good and happy life any way so what your plan now about marry..
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
6 Apr 13
the best time for you to marry is when you have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. no one can determine or choose that time for you. you shouldn't let anyone pressure you into it.
7 Apr 13
Yes totally agree with you, Really the right time of marry is the same..
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
6 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. 27-29 is the best age to marry. If you are not ready for marriage then you should tell your parents about this. You should be financially settled and should be able to take the responsibility of your family. We are finding girl for our son to marry. his age is only 24 but he has good job and he is ready. My wife thinks that they should try at this age because my wife is disabled and some girls may refuse to marry him because of her disability.
7 Apr 13
Hi roshigo sorry to know about your wife, Yes i think so and there is no problem at the age of 24,if he is settled then no need to worry and it is ok. But if we are not settled properly and not getting enough to fulfill our and our family dreams then i think it is not ok and we should think about it in that situation...
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
as long as you are emotionally and financially prepared then you can go marry.You are ready to face your obligation in all aspect as a parent and hubby.
6 Apr 13
Hi fearlessgara really agree with you...
• Canada
6 Apr 13
Hi anujkumarkumar Do you mean Marriage? Marriage is really a personal decision and of course you should fall in love with the person however in some countries there are pre arranged marriages which I have heard of some being very successful. If you are able to have your dream job first this could be an ideal decision but for many of us falling in love takes first place over a job sometimes. Hope this helps.
6 Apr 13
HI laurenlynn i am really agree with you but it is not allow in my country to prearrange marriage but even i love to do the same...
• China
7 Apr 13
In fact,different people has different condition and thought.just about me,I totally agree with you,now,I am 25 years old,I have to put my career into the first place,I should create a not bad condition for my wedding.But toward other person,they may get a rich life from their parents or they are satisfied with their life.And if you come though all kinds of stuff that can make you have been grown up,you can also choose to get married.
@merylpan (37)
7 Apr 13
I think 27-29 is ok, but if you have a right girl and she also love you, you can marry when you are ready.
9 Apr 13
YES Actually the right time of marry is whenever we find a partner that can understand us and our responsibilities...
7 Apr 13
I think it is 26
9 Apr 13
YES Agree but it is really difficult to find a stable job in less age and if we are not stable then it is difficult to enjoy a happy married life...
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
Hi ! One good basis for one to marry is that both the partners are have a stable work . Meaning , they can support their newly made family. I consider this as the second most important thing because most conflict comes from money matters. Children are so pitiful if parents don't have a stable source , it would only lead to family trouble and break up. Maturity is another thing to consider and an important aspect but sometimes this doesn't matter to a very broad and considerate one because they will be the one who will adjust .