Ex was nothing but an abuser... and still is........

most of the time you will find out that the person who is doing the abusing grew up in that kind of home and is not that un common as for your son no one can make him do any thing that he does not want to do good luck happy sunday

I would just hang up on him, your son had made up his mind. He even sees his true colours. He sounds like one of those people who just don't care until someone is out of their life and they are by themselves, such as his new wife left him, and he wants his son back now.

What you need to do my friend right now is get your blood pressure under control. You are a young woman and you do not need another heart attack. In fact you are still just a little baby to me. So do not take calls from the ex. Just don't do it as you do not need the stress. You are free and DO NOT have to do what he tells you to do. Finis.

I am sorry that he put you through that abuse. I don't understand why people do that to others. It is both men and women that get their kicks out of abusing others. No wonder you don't want to go back with him. I can imagine what you said when he told you that you had to talk your son into moving back with him.

sorry to hear that.. but how does he abuse you? have you talked about your problem or did you speak up about him about the things that he made 'abuse' you? honestly there is no perfect marriage.We sometimes didn't know that we made mistake even I too became like that on verbal due to lots of pressure on my mind but later on I repent with this and I change my attitude.I hope that you still love each other.because it's love who will make you stay and accepts and correct all faults that you has. if it's not with related to unfaithfulness then i will still suggest to survive your marriage.by bring open and bringing back the first time that you been living together.if you cannot tell it by verbal say it in a letter and let him read this. I know the first one who will suffer from this is your son.I am a product of a broken family and I know how it affects mentally and emotionally.

I remembered you talked about your son and told you he loves you and i know your son wouldn't want to go back to your ex and see you get hurt and crying.

dear maria he is your ex that means over and done with so next time do not take his call. He has no right to to your son after the way he treated him. Just take care of you and find way to unstress yourself as your son is with you and you will be happy again I promise you. You do not have to do anything of the kind at all

Some people just have to feel in control... After what he did, he has to be apologetic, and show he's changed his ways, and hope to get his son to forgive him. YOU don't have to do anything.

Not all men abuse, but there are some probably due to their upbringing and them having some abusive back ground also do tend to abuse women..which is sad as it can be traumatic i believe. As for me, i am just lucky my husband is not abuse, physical nor verbal. and if ever he gets that way, i won't let him.. i can be quite a fighter

Look, women do the same thing. I was verbally abused by my evil ex. I was called every name in the book. I never cursed her and I never hit her. But she hit me a few times. I put up with it because I loved her. Then she went and cheated. That was the deal breaker. Only I had no idea. She left me. So, women can be abusers also. I do feel for you and I totally understand how you feel.

Sorry to hear that you had that type of experience with your husband. I'm not really sure why men do this. Maybe because they think it gives them some type of control, makes them feel in control, or makes them feel better about themselves. I'm glad that you got out of that situation. I'm sure there is no way you are going to talk your son into staying with him.

You sounds very mad! actually a lot of men are like that, and I don't why they are such..That's why I'm scared to get married , I can't help to think that someday after I marry my boyfriend he eventually turn out to be a monster like others.. ( HOPE NOT)

I personally detest it when men abuse their partners (verbal or physical) but I do not believe all men are like that. I have in different occasions seen girls profess the way their men treat them like a queen. I am also an advocate of; a woman should be treated as a woman considering the fragility of their heart.

nobody deserves an abusive partner. it wasn't your fault. you shouldn't give in to his demands about your son. the custody of the kids always goes to the mother -in any court, in any country. unless of course he proves that you are a bad mother, he cannot get your son away from you. besides i don't think he will go that far, filing for child custody. even if your son wants to go back to him, don't allow it. he is still young and you have to do the decision making for him in this case. you can allow them to see each other but in your company. in this way, that ex of yours will realise that you've become a stronger person and you can really take your stand against his abuses now.

Oh he is quite a control freak. And those things still hurt, don't they. When my parents were divorcing my mom would call me telling me I had to make dad come back to her. The truth is, she had said for years she would leave him when the youngest child turned eighteen. He beat her to the punch. Another hurtful thing she would say was "this is not hurting you like it is the others, you live so far away." Controlling people have no idea the pain they cause.

Your ex husband is such a nasty person. You did ever so well to leave him. Your son was the only good thing you got out of your marriage to him. I hate verbal abuse like he gives to you. You need to keep your stress levels calm because you don't want another heart attack. Your son probably hates him so please don't worry. You are finished with your ex so you should try to avoid his phone calls. Good luck with your cyber cafe in the future. No woman deserves verbal or physical abuse. Such a man is a nasty one that doesn't deserve that lady. Some ladies put up with horrible treatment because they have children and they worry about being homeless if their marriage fails.

Men who abuse women either physically or verbally are cowards with no self-esteem. They are little boys in mens bodies trying to rule the household. Men like this no woman should put up with. He is trying to get his son back is a joke. After the way he treated him when he was with the wife and took her side over him. Does he think he has a stupid son that would go back to him. When he has a great mom who truly loves him and takes good care of him. I don't think so! He is afraid to be alone and that is the problem. He wants someone to be there to be his slave. I know this type of man. Keep him away from your son for his own good.

God... What you described, what you went through and are going through. I know that story. This is my story. To the letter. Exactly the same situation its almost unbelievable. Btw. I was/am the son in the story..... Leave him, get away. It will never change. Do not fall for his sweet talk and apologies and tears and whatnot not for one second. For the sake of your kid, if nothing else.

we men are idiots sometimes,we can understand the value of woman our life,after they leave us ,we finally understand how important they are in our life i think you and all women dont deserve it ofcourse hitting or abusing a women is crazy that kind of men cant be men,i call them animal unbelievable ... anyway have a nice day

I understand..been there too, was verbally abused. No one deserves that, and it only makes him less than a man to mistreat women..period. You did the right thing by leaving that situation. It's especially necessary to leave when kids are involved, because you don't know if he'll flip on you & act worse.